Is it Possible to Truly Love One Person and the Others are just Rebound?

I asked him why he doesn't want to let go of her, when he had been with many girls and now he has a wife. His answer was no matter how hard he try to love them, his heart will always be for that girl. Honestly, I do not know why but as a friend, I feel sad for him.

@mlgen1037 yeah, it does sound like he's a prisoner...but it's unfair to his wife too though, it's like he's half hearted in his current relationship, but truly his heart belongs to another

@mlgen1037 maybe he just needs closure from the past relationship...did she ever explain to him why she left?

Hi James. We meet people along the way and we determine the person we want to be with us. I am happy that you found the best one.

For sure. Really not worth it. Eventually will get hurt along the way.

@mlgen1037 If I ended up with him, I reckon that I would have ended up with a dozen children .. lol .. In 2007, I bumped into him and OMG!.. he was still so macho.. .. but for some reasons, he's no longer that tall ..

Hehehe that warm fuzzy feeling. I think it was better that way. But if he knew, what would have had happened?

@epiffanie hahaha most possibly. When you bumped into him, did you remember the time you had a huge crush on him? Is he married too? hehehe

I agree. But he seems not to get over his ex-gf. He said that he married his wife because he was forced to and not to bring shame to his wife's family.

@mlgen1037 he must have... According to me, misunderstandings is always lead to break up in relationship

@mohit459 Yeah. but he should have tried harder. Then he resorted to other girls and eventually got married. So the misunderstanding led to disaster.

The girl wanted her freedom so she broke up with the guy. And for reasons that I do not know why he didnt try to pursue her.

@mlgen1037 Oh, forced to marry eh? Or else he'll be killed? Shotgun wedding? Or got the girl pregnant? Hahaha. Excuses. But then again it is their life so what do we know... Yeah that username is my high school expression. thanks.

@owstalaga Not got the girl pregnant but the girl stayed with him and I think in the province if the girl and guy are living together, they should get married or it will be shameful in the part of the girl. He said it was the girl's plan to stay with him and not leave him. Hahaha.. I like it really. A mixture of sarcasm and fun.

Hi Owstalaga. I like your name. hehehe The girl broke up with him and yes, she is his first love. He said he was forced to marry the wife.

@mlgen1037 There are no children involved in this couple's life and she has been honest with him so he knows he is second best. I don't know if I could be with someone knowing that. You're right though, this person you know should move on with his life if he has a family and stop hankering after someone he will never have.

That is okay. I still appreciate the response. I never felt anything like that though because every guy I have been with, I loved them sincerely but I did not have that experience of loving that person for a long period of time even when I am with someone new. I really do not know what to tell my friend. But as morality dictates, he should love his wife and children and not the girl. But we cannot control other people's choices and feelings.

@sprite1950 my friend is willing to do everything to get the girl back and to be able to be with her. Even if I tell those things to him, he wouldnt listen. He just wants the girl back.

Hi Cristian. Us, his friends, told him about that but he insists that he will do everything to have the girl back. But you are right that the past should just stay in the past and if we see those people from our past, smile and be grateful.

That is what I am thinking too. But the guy is trying to get back with the girl. Just not sure if the girl wanted him back.

@mlgen1037 let's hope she doesn't!!

@db20747 I am hoping so too.

@mlgen1037 that should be it

@augusta123 Yeah. Oh well, I hope he knows what he is getting into still trying to pursue her.

That is possible too. Maybe he has a hard time letting go.

@mlgen1037 yes

I agree. Too much love can kill you.

@Lignitecityabishek96 some people just do not think. Use the heart instead of the mind.

Hi Karan. From what he told, he said that it does not matter to him if his wife will do the same thing. He is even willing to file for separation if the other woman will have him back and tell him to leave the wife.

@mlgen1037 lol. Then why he married her? Sometime people do bad decisions.

He only realized that he really loved the girl after the girl was gone but he still had other girlfriends to fill the void, which is ironic. But he said he does not want to move on until he gets the girl.

You have a point. And yes, I think he is selfish. But it seems like he doesnt care.

Yes. He keeps insisting that he really loves the girl. I just wish he is able to resolve this problem of his.