What was your wedding day like?
By Backpack30
@Backpack30 (924)
United States
November 27, 2006 5:51pm CST
Did you have a huge wedding or a small intimate ceremony? Did you love it or was it a disaster? Did you cry, throw up, scream, boss everyone around?
My wedding was basically my parents-in-law's wedding. There were more than 300 people there and I didn't know more than half of them.
I felt like I was playing the role of a bride in a play more than I was an actual bride.
If I could do it all over I would in a heart beat.
7 responses
@HeavenUnaware (1757)
• United States
28 Mar 07
I'm going to sound like a spoiled brat right now but I was not happy on my wedding day.
I was happy to be marrying my husband but I was disappointed that I wasn't able to have my dream wedding.
I had tried to plan my wedding twice and each time we ended up hitting some bumps in the road financially that caused us to have to put it on the back burner. It just never seemed to come together and we were trying to do it on our own without any help from family or friends. I had always dreamed of having a nice wedding with all my close family and friends but it never happened.
My husband and I had been together since we were 17 years old and after 7 years of trying to make it happen (and 1 child along) we just said forget it and went to the court house. I was so embarrassed that I wasn't able to have a real wedding that I didn't invite anyone or tell anyone about it except my niece who was going to be our witness.
We went to the court house, said our vows in a matter of minutes and were out the door within 15 minutes tops. We took my niece home and went back to our every day life. I was so sad, to be honest and it sucked to feel that way when I knew I should be really happy.
When my sister found out she was so mad at me - she didn't talk to me for months because she felt I should have let her come to the court house. She didn't understand how I felt or why I didn't tell her.
Anyhow, I've still - almost 13 years later, never had a real wedding or reception of any kind. I thought about renewing our vows at our 10 year anniversary but didn't put too much effort into it and it never happened.
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@Backpack30 (924)
• United States
29 Mar 07
Ohh! I'm sorry! That wasn't a great wedding but like you said, you were happy to be marrying your husband....
At least you truly love him-three couples I know got married just to get married because they eventually wanted kids or they just saw that they were the same age as other people who were married so they needed to be too.
It would be WONDERFUL if the two of you could have some kind of ceremony for your 15th anniversary! That would be so cool! (Even if it's just you in a white dress and a small wedding cake, I think it'd be so great!)
I would LOVE to renew our wedding vows, but next time, I want it to be JUST the TWO of us. I want it to be what I originally wanted. Very small, intimate, personal.
@Backpack30 (924)
• United States
2 Apr 07
Oh, I KNOW. It literally makes me feel sick to my stomach when I think about what we COULD'VE done with the money that was spent on our wedding-ugh, I really can't think about it....it was over 20,000 in the end.
The only reason I don't get sick is because it was his parents who payed for it all so none came out of our pockets.
It was such a huge deal to them to have all of their friends and family there and they know probably every person in like 5 towns.
Part of me sometimes is glad that it was huge and all that ONLY because my mother-in-law is the SWEETEST woman on the planet and I adore her and it made her SO happy.....but then I go right back to feeling resentful because it was my day, not hers.....then I go back because I know if I had said "no" to any of it that she wouldn't have done so much, so it IS my fault.....then I go back and get mad again.....AHHH!!!!!!!!!!
Can you tell that I have some strong feeling about my wedding day?? LOL ;)
I just wish so much that I could do it over again...but there's no point in "coulda woulda shoulda", you know?
I try to look at the good things about that day and not keep picturing the tiny ceremony I wanted....with just my husband and I....on an island.....with my wearing a slim flowy simple silk gown.....with a few white flowers in my hair....
AH! LOL!!
And I REALLY ENVY YOU!! That is EXACTLY what you described that you, your husband and son will have in 2009!!!!
Oh, I would absolutely faint-I'd feel like my dreams came true if I could do that!!
I really really hope that you renew them on your trip!! How romantic....ahhh.....
You're so lucky!! :) !!
@HeavenUnaware (1757)
• United States
29 Mar 07
You are so right. I do appreciate that I have him and a big fancy wedding shouldn't matter. After all these years, I guess it doesn't anymore. I look back and see friends who spend $10,000 or more on big fancy weddings and now they are divorced or in debt. I think if I had $10,000 to spend, I'd put it down on a home rather than on a wedding.
We might one day renew our vows. My son graduates in 2009, the same year we have our 15th anniversary. We are planning on going to Hawaii that summer as part of his graduation gift and to take our real first vacation away from home. To be honest, I think I might like to renew our vows on the beach in Hawaii with just our son there. We are so very close - the 3 of us - and it would be the ideal setting and situation. Very intimate and sweet.
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@j_thomas (957)
• India
28 Nov 06
Till now im single.but i like my wedding day must be filled with ex girl friends
@Backpack30 (924)
• United States
28 Nov 06
LOL!
Well I hope your wedding day is filled with happiness, joy and all your ex-girlfriends! LOL!
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
28 Nov 06
Hmm, does that mean all of your Ex girlfriends will be there at your Wedding? I have a cousin that invites all of her Ex husbands and Family to each of her marriages.
@Backpack30 (924)
• United States
30 Nov 06
I can think of 3 reasons people would invite exes to their weddings:
1. If you've become friends with them after their relationship ended.
2. If you were married and have kids together (inviting the ex because of the kids)
3. If you want to make your ex jealous.
LOL!
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
28 Nov 06
We had a Small Wedding. Just invited Family, a few friends, and the people from our Church. There was maybe 60 people there if we were lucky. It was a nice Wedding though, and one I will never forget.
@Backpack30 (924)
• United States
29 Nov 06
That sounds like a wonderful wedding. Very intimate, very personal.
Wedding's have become so "commercial" nowadays, it just makes me sick.
Have you ever seen the show "Bridezilla"? Those women are THE WORST I've ever seen. I can't even believe someone could actualy act like that!
@courtlynne77 (4839)
• United States
30 Nov 06
We had a wedding with about 80 people. My parents lived on a lake front property then and they tented the backyard, put a dance floor down, and set up a bar and buffet in the pool ara with Christmas lights all around. It was lovely and perfect without being overdone.
@Backpack30 (924)
• United States
30 Nov 06
That sounds like the perfect size and setting:)
I'd have LOVED something like that on my wedding day....
@margieanneart (26423)
• United States
29 Nov 06
When we got married, it was small. We invited only people we were close to and our families. It was wonderful. We are married 30 years now, and still very much in love.
@Backpack30 (924)
• United States
30 Nov 06
Wow! 30 years! Congratulations!!
I love small weddings....
@Backpack30 (924)
• United States
29 Nov 06
I'm jealous. I would have LOVED that.....
I guess there's always renewing the vows, right? But don't we have to wait for our 50th anniversary or something? :(
@Backpack30 (924)
• United States
28 Nov 06
Well when you get married come back and tell me about it!
;)
