Don't Be a Coward
By AnjaP
@Rollo1 (16679)
Boston, Massachusetts
March 28, 2018 7:00am CST
I do enjoy social media, though I am sure that it occasionally gets sick of me. I don't start fights - well, not usually. But I don't shy away from fights that somehow I have been sucked into, And it's not that hard to suck me in. I'm a sucker for a good fight, ummm... I mean, debate.
But if you're going to debate on social media, then I think a few rules are in order. For one thing, you shouldn't resort to name-calling or personal invective. Debate ideas, not which of you is uglier or the bigger waste of space.
And don't pick on people. That's how I got into my latest debate. One of my FB friends was mercilessly attacked by someone who disagreed with his posting on an ideological level. But there was no ideological debate. She simply called his post moronic and BS and other such things and demanded he not post things she didn't like.
Did I mention my friend is elderly, ill, and an amputee? Well. no one attacks a legless, old man on my Facebook feed and gets away with it,
The funny thing is, the post was about bullying and she was bullying the person who posted it. She didn't like having that pointed out.
Anyway, after a good round of pointing out the weaknesses in her argument (such as the fact that it wasn't one) she decided to purge her friends list of any person who didn't think like her. I am glad to say I was never on that list to begin with, so my suffering was minimized. Actually, I would have loved to have been unfriended by her. Like a medal of honor. But, anyway....
The point is, if you're going to start a fight then stay and finish it. And if you lose a fight, fairly, then don't be a whiny brat.
Don't attack people and call them names because you disagree with their FB posts,
Don't be a coward.
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11 responses
@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
28 Mar 18
Way to go @MALUSE (35897)
I admire a woman who speaks her mind! :-)
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@Rollo1 (16679)
• Boston, Massachusetts
29 Mar 18
@LadyDuck To be honest, when I first joined my lot 7 years ago, people argued all the time. It was more of a site where people spent a lot of time being contentious. I think that we have to be able to deal with discussions about topics we don't like. We should be able to walk away when it's too upsetting, but even more so, we should be able to disagree without getting so upset.
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@LadyDuck (471253)
• Switzerland
29 Mar 18
@Rollo1 In the recent weeks also on this site people went into arguments. This is not helping the site, we are here to discuss, but I think it's wrong to easily get offended and to argue. Several users have closed their accounts due to this attitude.
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@Tampa_girl7 (50179)
• United States
29 Mar 18
Facebook really takes the cake with rude inconsiderate people
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@Tampa_girl7 (50179)
• United States
6 Apr 18
@Rollo1 I have a very small friends list and really only communicate with loved ones and dear friends. I mostly look at pictures and inspirational things there.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
28 Mar 18
Sometimes people put themselves into situations that they cannot really finish or get out of. And fighting can really be a waste of time, most especially if the fight is nonsense. Then blame others for whatever. That is just really plain stupid and pretty lame.
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
28 Mar 18
Yes that is right . I agree with you. If you're going to start a fight then finish it.
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
28 Mar 18
I think that bullying is never acceptable and demanding that people not posting things you don't like is childish in the extreme. I am pretty fussy about who gets to be my friend on Facebook so I have little issue and if I don't like their constant harping on a subject I just silence them which is nicer than unfriending but just as effective. I have only had to do that with one anti-president "friend" I accept differing opinions I don't accept name-calling.
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@Rollo1 (16679)
• Boston, Massachusetts
28 Mar 18
I have many "Friends" that I picked up back when I played a couple of FB games. Some are quite nice and we get along well - even those in other countries. Some are rabidly opposite in worldview. That's okay. I don't mind discussions, even when everyone is not in agreement. But some don't really have a point or an argument, just a lot of vitriol. Only once did I unfriend someone like that. Generally, I let them get so frustrated that they unfriend me.
@Poppylicious (11133)
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28 Mar 18
Social media has a habit of bringing out the worst in people. Some people are just so rude.
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@Rollo1 (16679)
• Boston, Massachusetts
28 Mar 18
I don't think they know they are being rude. I don't think they realize they are acting like adolescents. They throw out their interruptions and unrelated insults and follow it all up with an "LOL" because they think they are the ultimate wits.
