Are you a shy person?

@dya80dya (36769)
March 30, 2018 7:03am CST
I am very shy and this is a problem. I can't make new friends. I don't know how to overcome this problem. I always was shy. It's hard to change. Do you make friends easily? Are you shy? Do you have many friends?
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@just4him (317238)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
30 Mar 18
I was shy as a kid, but something happened to me the day I gave my life to Jesus Christ. The bold button turned on in my life. I'm still an introvert/shy about meeting new people, and I don't have a lot of friends, but I value the friends I have.
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• Midland, Michigan
27 Feb 19
Hi Val, I didn't see your answer when I was here last week. In fact, I'm now wondering if this is the post I visited since I don't see my response now. But, I want to say that this is when I feel that I lost my overly shy behavior, too. When I was introduced to Biblical truths. I had already believed in God and Jesus, but hadn't known to study the Bible until I was 26. It was at that time that much of my shyness disappeared.
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• Midland, Michigan
28 Feb 19
@just4him I think I was a Christian before that time in my life, but was never taught about it. I also do think I began to change my focus on myself and thinking everyone was looking at me when I was a bit younger. I've thought since that may be about the time I got born again, but never being taught about it, I won't know for sure until we get to heaven. Even though my focus changed about then, it wasn't until I was older that I began reaching out more.
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@just4him (317238)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
27 Feb 19
@MarshaMusselman It's amazing how bold we become as soon as we say yes to Christ.
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@Jill_H (147)
30 Mar 18
I am also shy. But in some times, I force myself not to be so. You know it is not good. When I was looking for the job, this problem took the chances away. So you should overcome it. Maybe you can read more books. You can broaden your horizon in this way. It will make you more confident to communicate with others.
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@dya80dya (36769)
30 Mar 18
Read and apply what I read. Practice is difficult.
@Jill_H (147)
30 Mar 18
@dya80dya It is really useful. If you know more, you will have more topics with them. You can tell them what they don't know.It will be intresting.
@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
30 Mar 18
I'm not shy but my sister was painfully shy as a child. I didn't understand then but I do now and wish I had been more sympathetic as she found it hard to make friends too. I don't know how old you are but I have found that confidence grows as you get older. I'm sure it won't always be like this for you.
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
30 Mar 18
@dya80dya Well that is still young, Give it a few more years and you will feel better about yourself. Some people prefer those that are shy and quiet.
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@dya80dya (36769)
30 Mar 18
I am 26 years old.
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@Hannihar (130213)
• Israel
30 Mar 18
@dya80dya I have been shy at times but on the most part I am not shy. I hope this place will help you with your shyness. I do not have a lot of friends these days outside of My Lot in the real world. What you can do here is if you do not feel comfortable posting a discussion then ease yourself into My Lot by go into other posts and when you want to respond.
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@Hannihar (130213)
• Israel
30 Mar 18
@dya80dya Just do what is best for you and if you are shy there is no problem with it. Just be yourself.
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@dya80dya (36769)
30 Mar 18
It helps me. But not enough to overcome my shyness.
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@NoorNoor (2131)
• India
30 Mar 18
Talk to many people that's the only way...
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@dya80dya (36769)
30 Mar 18
If I talk to many people will I overcome shyness?
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@NoorNoor (2131)
• India
30 Mar 18
@dya80dya of course yes..Do things in which you have fear.and don't consider the number of friends,consider the quality of friends.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
30 Mar 18
Oh, you are not alone in being shy. But I still want to make friends with people. Ive got lots of friends, but a few real ones.
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@dya80dya (36769)
30 Mar 18
I think there are many shy people.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
30 Mar 18
@dya80dya yes, there are of different forms.
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• Pamplona, Spain
30 Mar 18
Used to be very shy and quiet and now I am quite the opposite of what I was. I think looking for jobs one after the other pulled me out of that shyness and made me bolder than what I was.
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@Madshadi (8840)
• Brussels, Belgium
31 Mar 18
I'm not shy, in general. But it's OK to be shy too
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• Bournemouth, England
30 Mar 18
In my mid-30s I trained in public speaking and also became a stand up comedian but that hasn't stopped me from being a very shy person everywhere else. All I can say is that it gets a little easier the older you get. It's not a fault, it's just the way we are.
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@dya80dya (36769)
30 Mar 18
I agree with you. I always was shy.
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@JohnRoberts (109846)
• Los Angeles, California
30 Mar 18
Yes, I am an introvert not especially fond of people.
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@redurnet (1798)
• United Kingdom
30 Mar 18
I am quiet and have never liked to communicate with people I don't know well. It is definitely hard to change your actions or personality.
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@dya80dya (36769)
30 Mar 18
I agree with you. It's not easy to change personality. We can pretend that we are different, but we stay the same.
@aureliah (24322)
• Kenya
30 Mar 18
Naturally I'am a very shy person but I try myself to gather courage
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@aureliah (24322)
• Kenya
30 Mar 18
@dya80dya With time people become more courageous.
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@dya80dya (36769)
30 Mar 18
Me too. It's harder for us.
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@Courage7 (19633)
• United States
30 Mar 18
I am not shy, but I am a loner.
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
30 Mar 18
I am also a shy person but I have many friends.
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@dya80dya (36769)
30 Mar 18
Real friends? Or virtual friends?
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
30 Mar 18
@dya80dya real friends.
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@marlina (154130)
• Canada
30 Mar 18
I am shy in some situations and not in others.
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@Berrygal (5834)
31 Mar 18
Just open up and relax while with people or friends