Mom is Off Hospice
@BelleStarr (61348)
United States
April 4, 2018 9:05am CST
Yes, my mom has improved, they measured her arm and it is a 1/4 of an inch bigger so she is losing her hospice care. She is 102.5 and in a nursing home. The extra care from hospice has been wonderful for her, she is so much happier when she gets the Reiki massage.
The way the system works she must be evaluated every 90 days. So the help they gave her helped so they are taking it away. Tell me what kind of sense that makes? When I get back, I will give it a couple weeks and see how she is doing and then I will call Hospice to reevaluate her. I hope that they will find that she has started to fail again.
It is pretty sad when you have to hope someone starts to fail so they can get the help they need!!
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@Hate2Iron (15726)
• Canada
4 Apr 18
Your mom looks awesome! I agree, that it's sad that they are taking away something that has been helping so much!! Just look at her expression! That should tell the hospice that she is getting exactly what she needs!!
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@BelleStarr (61348)
• United States
4 Apr 18
Thank you for saying that, I think so too and I will fight to get it back for her.
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@Juliaacv (52736)
• Canada
4 Apr 18
That does sound like a terrible tease doesn't it?
Give them some help that they need and then yank it away, just to test their spirit and body.
She looks wonderful in this picture, I just love how the hues of blue in her dress bring out the same in her sparkling eyes.
She's so lucky that she has you to defend and protect her-good luck!
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@BelleStarr (61348)
• United States
5 Apr 18
@Juliaacv no the aids put those on her she doesn’t dress herself and she has almost no hair on top of her head . She used to wear a wig when she was more aware
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@BelleStarr (61348)
• United States
4 Apr 18
I bought her that shirt last year, I thought that the color was perfect for her.
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@Juliaacv (52736)
• Canada
5 Apr 18
@BelleStarr Oh it is the perfect colour for her. It really brings out the beauty of her eyes, and that head-wrap is a nice touch. Does anyone refer to her as Scarlet when she dons that? 
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@BelleStarr (61348)
• United States
4 Apr 18
Thank you, I just adore my mother as a child I idolized her. She was so pretty and being French so unique
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@LadyDuck (472496)
• Switzerland
5 Apr 18
@BelleStarr She looks adorable, you are lucky to still have your mom.
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@BelleStarr (61348)
• United States
4 Apr 18
Thank you, she was a very beautiful woman when she was younger.
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@Marilynda1225 (84112)
• United States
4 Apr 18
God bless your mom. She looks wonderful!!
No, it doesn't make sense that they are stopping her care when it's helping.
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@BelleStarr (61348)
• United States
5 Apr 18
No it doesn’t but with hospice you have to be failing and if she is improving she is not failing, it is a lose lose situation
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@Marilynda1225 (84112)
• United States
5 Apr 18
@BelleStarr sad isn't it that it's the way things are these days
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@BelleStarr (61348)
• United States
4 Apr 18
Yes I will give it a little time then get back into the fight.
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@GardenGerty (162849)
• United States
5 Apr 18
There are many things that are sad about how our elderly and ill are treated. I am glad for the positive effect that having extra care has had on this charming older lady, your mom. She looks great.
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@BelleStarr (61348)
• United States
6 Apr 18
Thank you, I am glad I got her into the program and I will do my darndest to get her back in.
@BelleStarr (61348)
• United States
6 Apr 18
It is all about money at the end of the day and I will just have to fight to get it back
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36847)
• Pamplona, Spain
4 Apr 18
Is that your Mom?
By, she looks so wonderful and has a lovely smile.
Reiki massage is supposed to be very good for you also.
Never had it done but by the look of it its working for your Mom bless her.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36847)
• Pamplona, Spain
4 Apr 18
@BelleStarr
Perhaps they will give her some more Reiki treatment she looks wonderful there.
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@BelleStarr (61348)
• United States
4 Apr 18
Yes, that is my mom, she is 102 in this picture. The Reiki relaxed her a lot.
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@rebelann (113568)
• El Paso, Texas
4 Apr 18
She is lucky you can do that for her @BelleStarr
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@BelleStarr (61348)
• United States
4 Apr 18
@rebelann These days someone has to advocate for the elderly if you want them getting all the things that are available to them.
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@BelleStarr (61348)
• United States
4 Apr 18
I requested it last year when I first realized she could get it and it has made an amazing difference.
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@BelleStarr (61348)
• United States
10 Apr 18
Yes it is what we all hope for but unfortunately don't all receive. She would be mortified to see what she has come to.
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@Shiva49 (27032)
• Singapore
11 Apr 18
@BelleStarr When my mom looks in the mirror she asks - is it me I am looking at? - siva
@MarymargII (12422)
• Toronto, Ontario
6 Apr 18
Oh my goodness- so wonderful about your mom- but I get your point- She should have continued care if it helps her so much! I hope you have the same genes!! 102 wow!
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@BelleStarr (61348)
• United States
6 Apr 18
lol I think I definitely have some of her genes, whether I live as long remains to be seen.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
4 Apr 18
Your mom is such a cutie in the picture. Very beautiful. If someone is well, why would they take away the hospice care when she should be monitored because of her age?
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@BelleStarr (61348)
• United States
6 Apr 18
You have to be failing to be eligible, she is no longer failing.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
7 Apr 18
@BelleStarr I find that absurd. They are at the age where health can fail them anytime.
@BelleStarr (61348)
• United States
4 Apr 18
It is paid for by SSI thus the constant checking to make sure she still needs it. I will see if I can get her back into it as soon as possible.
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@velvet53 (22545)
• Palisade, Colorado
10 Apr 18
@BelleStarr That is the way to do it. I hope all goes well for you.
@epiffanie (11325)
• Australia
6 Apr 18
Wow! What a lovely happy looking lady your mom is .. I had a few sessions of reiki massage a few years ago.. It really helped ease my fibromyalgia ..
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@epiffanie (11325)
• Australia
7 Apr 18
@BelleStarr Can't she have that massage at least once a week?..
@BelleStarr (61348)
• United States
6 Apr 18
It really has done wonders for her wellbeing.
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@Tampa_girl7 (52185)
• United States
6 Apr 18
I pray for her and you that her health will present something that qualifies her for help
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@BelleStarr (61348)
• United States
6 Apr 18
Thanks Marie that is what we need right now, lots of prayers.
@Courtlynn (67091)
• United States
4 Apr 18
youd think or least hope, that they would always have them, even if getting better.
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@BelleStarr (61348)
• United States
6 Apr 18
It is a very fine line you have to walk to stay on Hospice. I will work very hard to get her on it again as soon as I am back in Connecticut.
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@Hannihar (130204)
• Israel
5 Apr 18
@BelleStarr
I understand why you want her to fail so she can get the care she needs.It is very hard to feel that way.
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@BelleStarr (61348)
• United States
6 Apr 18
Its crazy but it is the only way for her to get the help.
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@MrsPumpkins (466)
• Philippines
5 Apr 18
Your mom looks so happy in this picture. I hope she gets hospice care again so she could finally regain what she had lost... I am praying for her health. Mom's are the sweetest.
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