how to deal with a 16 yo without pulling your hair out

thats pretty old she shouldnt be that crazy..

She is nearing adulthood and spreading her wings a bit. The teen years can be trying times for both teens and their parents. Talk to her. LIsten to her. Love her.

Depends on what you mean by 'deal with'. Is she just being annoying? Its she hateful because its "that time"? Or perhaps are there many issues that have built up to a rift between you and her? It all really depends, some parents would choose to just give in and let her do as she pleases, even at the cost of her doing something stupid while other parents may choose to basically be very strict. Which of course would probably make things worse. If theres some issues shes having try adn talk to her. I'm sure she'd ingore you or tell you she doesn't want to talk, but just look at her and CALMLY tell her that when ever shes ready your more then willing to listen. And when and/or if she is willing to talk, don't be critical, even if is REALLY ticks you off, stay calm. When you get upset and mad it will only make her close up and not want to say anything. And if shes driving you crazy because she wants something or wants to go somewhere, tell her fine but first she has to .... clean her room, do her homework, do dishes, etc. Obviously not clean the whole house because thats just nuts, but something like that. So she has to earn it, just don't put it to her that way, she'll get mad. Well, hope that helps, not really knowing WHY or HOW shes driving you crazy makes it hard to really give advice. :)

First, pray for her. always talk to her not talk at her. for sure she needs a loving mother she can always tell stories about friends, boys. It really feels good for a teenager to have someone to talk to, someone who has more experiences in life. Always have a bonding moment.