Ladies

it has happened and we are getting a divorce

Well this is a good question , i think if i am the lady i would surely file a divource yea. No point hanging on to this marriage after what he did yea . anyway hopefully it won't happend to me

Oh I am so sorry for your friend!! This is such a hard thing to have to deal with, and I am sure it is not as simple as just making a decision to stay or go. But for me personally, I would throw him out. I cannot and will not tolerate cheating and that is what this man has done to your friend. She now knows she can never trust him and she will always wonder what he is doing and who he is with when he is away from now. If she is in a position to do so, she should throw him out and get a good attorney. He can have the pleasure of supporting TWO families since he couldn't keep his pants zipped and remain faithful to his marriage.

i will choose to walk out from the marriage..nothing to talk about it...cos he chose to cheat when he's with me...i will divorce him

If he fathered a child while we were together or even cheated on me without fathering a child i would walk out or make him leave but there is no way i would stick around no matter what he said!

Okay, if he fathered the child while were together, well than ... ever heard the song "These boots are made for walking?" I don't forgive cheating or any type of abuse. Now if he fathered the child before we were together, I would love the child as it was my own.

i cant tell coz i am male

I truly don't know what I would do in this case. I have friends, who are Christians, that went through this. They are together still. And, they child now lives with them. It would depend on the circumstances. The husband in this one was facing the need for a liver transplant. He had never cheated on his wife before. It was something that wasn't long lived, but unfortunately long enough for the woman he was having an affair with to get pregnant. If the man is a cheater I would say drop him like a bad habit. Life is too short to have to go through such heartbreak.

I truly don't know what I would do in this case. I have friends, who are Christians, that went through this. They are together still. And, they child now lives with them. It would depend on the circumstances. The husband in this one was facing the need for a liver transplant. He had never cheated on his wife before. It was something that wasn't long lived, but unfortunately long enough for the woman he was having an affair with to get pregnant. If the man is a cheater I would say drop him like a bad habit. Life is too short to have to go through such heartbreak.

we would go our seperate ways and i would never forgive him. and its not something i think would ever happen, but it can.

I dont know yet what will be my reaction and hoping it will not happen to me.

Well there would certainly be trust issues there however i am not going to throw my marriage away for one nights foolishness. I would be able to forgive him and I would also want the child to know his family and be a part of our family, if the mother wanted us to raise the child I would be all for it, since children are innocent and can't be held accountable for the sins of the parents. Tell your friend this, that child did not ask to be brought into this world, she has no rights to hold anything against the child, she should be a bit more mature and be able to give her love to that child regardless of who the parents are or are not, you do not have to give birth to a child to LOVE and Nuture it.

Wheel of time now cannot be unturned. Whatever is done now cannot be undone. So accept the situation as it is and be happy!!

he'd be out the door. i would be able to accept the child but wouldn't be able to accept what he did to me. i would never be able to trust him again especially with the babies momma.

Then I'd get a divorce. As much as I love my husband, if he did that I know he doesn't love me. Whether he says he does or not, if he cared that much he wouldn't have cheated. Fortunatly I haven't gone through this, and to those that have.. I am truely sorry. There's no excuse for this and no one deserves to have it happen to them.

To be honest I really don't know how is the marriage itself and when did it happen recently or a while ago and she has only just found out it really depends on the Circumstances and that is just my Opinion

In my opinion, if he fathered a child after our marriage it means he has cheated me. In this situation I will definitely leave him. If this happened before our marriage then I will forgive him and try to forget that issue. I will not disturb our enduring married life.

This is a difficult wuestion and from all the answers i also see alot of different replyes. Would it be differnet if the girl he cheated on didn´t get pregnant or is it the fact that he is having a baby that is the problem. If u coulkd forgive him for cheating then i think you should be able to forgive him anyways. The child itself is not to blame. When it comes to cheating me personaly would not forgive. I wa swith a guy for years (not married) he cheated on me and because i loved him so much i thought i could forgive him and i tried for about a year, but the trust was gone and so was the relationship.. I don´t think i would veen try to forgive again!

This is a tough one. My first instinct would be to say that I would get a divorce. I have been through too many bad relationships with cheating and lying whorish men. But then I also know that many things are never simple. Is this man whorish by nature? Are there problems in the present marriage? Is this his first time straying? As for the child...I guess if I decided to stay I would accept the child, as the errors of the father are not the fault of the child.

i think my opinion that he shouldn't be forgiven because he will do it one more time and again and again,i don't know,it's difficult situation...you love him?