change your religion ?

@patty526 (836)
Sri Lanka
November 27, 2006 10:08pm CST
one of my friends married a guy who belonged to a different religion than herself. but the guys family insisted that she has to come in to the guys religion, if she wanted to marry him. so she did. is it right to ask a person to do so? what do you think?
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@xerunova (23)
• Philippines
28 Nov 06
Maybe trying to convince the girl to change religion is just fine like there is really nothing wrong with it but convincing is different from requiring.....
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@patty526 (836)
• Sri Lanka
28 Nov 06
he didnt convince her to chenge the religion, it was stated as a requirement for the marraige... if she didnt the marriage would have been off
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• United States
28 Nov 06
it's a very personal decision. but for me marriage should never be use to convert people to other religion, or changing religion because of marriage is not right, well unless that he/she is really convinced that that religion is "the right one", be baptized first, or whatever they call it in their religion, participating in their practices, showing that he/she accepts the doctrines or teachings of such belief, with his/her whole heart, willingly, voluntarily & not forced for God is looking in our heart. As a Christian, it is strongly recommended by the bible to marry only to believer. "free to be married to whom she will, only [provided that he too is] in the Lord" 1 Corinthians 7:39
@khan_jee (1053)
• Pakistan
28 Nov 06
i think she will accept his religion
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@emarie (5442)
• United States
28 Nov 06
well, it depends on how the person feels about their religion, they might be on the fence about it and willing to change. it is possible for her to get married to him without changing. you just have to go through a few classes. my sister and her husband had to. me and my husband are different religions, but we had a non-denominal wedding. if i was him i wouldn't care what my parents think...i would just get married no matter what..
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@nicola82 (478)
• Italy
28 Nov 06
in my opinion it's not right to ask to do such a thing but in such a situation i believe that one of the partner have to take such a decision
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• India
28 Nov 06
its not right to do so but most of the indian woman do this. But i think indian woman should have her own identity. Why should she change her religion
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
28 Nov 06
People change religions all the time when they get married. I have Catholic friends who decided to go Lutheran and friends who turned Catholic. I have found that most people who change religions only do so because their religion is not important to them and their spouses is very important to their spouse and the family. Some people who don't practice their religion will get married in that particular church because their spouse wants to.
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@firelight (1858)
• Australia
28 Nov 06
I personally don't think it should have mattered to his family what religion she was so long as their son was happy. She may have been quite happy to do so though anyway.
@rohit55_56 (2297)
• India
28 Nov 06
no.....never....
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• China
28 Nov 06
No , iwill never change my religion! it is very shame~
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@patty526 (836)
• Sri Lanka
28 Nov 06
i agree with you... i think we should be strong enough to defend what we believe in... if the guy really loved the girl, he would respect her believes too...
@xerunova (23)
• Philippines
28 Nov 06
Maybe trying to convince the girl to change religion is just fine like there is really nothing wrong with it but convincing is different from requiring.....
• United States
3 Dec 06
I think if the person is serious about their faith it would be hard to convert. Like they said before a person's spirituality is very personal. If she wasn't strong in her faith she may not have a problem with converting. I do think that it would be hard and could possibly cause problems later in the future if she does have a different belief that she cannot feel comfortable enough with her husband to express. I think it is insulting to the other person when they are told their religion has less importance than another's. Religion is a touchy subject and it can be very difficult to practice two religions in one family. That may be why most usually practice one or the other. My husband is Christian and I am not so we are trying to figure out how to practice our beliefs without offending the other. You have to have an open mind I think.
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@Daffs06 (300)
• Indonesia
28 Nov 06
I will never change my religion.
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• United States
28 Nov 06
I want my future husband to be the same religion and I dont see a problem with changing.
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@patty526 (836)
• Sri Lanka
28 Nov 06
but is it right to force the person to change the religion?
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@patty526 (836)
• Sri Lanka
28 Nov 06
but is it right to force the person to change the religion?
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• United States
3 Dec 06
I think if you cannot except another person's religion then you shouldn't date someone that doesn't share your belief's. And if you really love them you wouldn't ask them to change something as personal as their spiritual beliefs, just as you would not want to be asked that of you. I guess it just depends how important it is to a person. If they don't have a problem with it then let it be.
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@kgwat70 (13387)
• United States
28 Nov 06
I feel that it is up to that person to decide whether he or she wants to change religions. I would not ask someone to change their religion to be with me or change their personality either. If a person feels they should stay with their original religion, than they should do so.
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@kgwat70 (13387)
• United States
28 Nov 06
I feel that it is up to that person to decide whether he or she wants to change religions. I would not ask someone to change their religion to be with me or change their personality either. If a person feels they should stay with their original religion, than they should do so.
@sweetie88 (4556)
• Pakistan
14 Dec 06
I read all the answers of urs this question and concluded that may b urs freind insist to accept Islam. I am myself a Muslim and read urs comments on djfaadu's answer. First of all, i'll say that everyone should n't choose any life parterner of some different religion because there is no lack of girls and boys in any religion but if a non-Muslim decides to get marry with a Muslim then of course, His faimly'll force to change the religion bcuz first of all, people'll taunt to faimly and it happens in every religion and secondly if 2 people from 2 different religions'll get marry then it'll cause problem for children to choose a religion for them. That's y that faimly said to urs friend to change her religion bcuz son's children r considered the next generation of a person and of course, a person'll like to increase the members of his religion.
@vincent72 (1633)
• Australia
14 Dec 06
no i would never ever change my religion , even if my soulmate asked me too , i never let any woman get between me and god , thats a no no .
• Philippines
28 Nov 06
joining in a other religion is also like selling and marketing..if it is convincible and f u think that it is better u can gain lots of benefits then it is ok..u cannot question ur friends decision becoz first and foremost they did not force ur friend to join them
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@spateo (182)
• United States
28 Nov 06
I'm not religious, but I think that spiritual beliefs are a very personal thing. I don't think it's right to ask someone to change their religious ideals. People can't just change the way they feel when asked.
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