If you were adopted, would you want to find your biological parents?
By Backpack30
@Backpack30 (924)
United States
November 27, 2006 10:39pm CST
I would want to know who they were, but I probably wouldn't want to form a relationship with them.
I'd consider the people who raised me my parents, not them.
8 responses
@Backpack30 (924)
• United States
28 Nov 06
That's a really good point about the history of any health problems.
@babyreyn (934)
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
if ever i am an adopted child, i want to know who my biological parents are. Not because I want to be with them but to thank them for giving me to my parents now who let me see the beauty of the world and feel the essence of having a happy family.
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@Backpack30 (924)
• United States
28 Jan 07
That's a really really great outlook to have, Babyreyn :)
It's so wonderful to see that there are people like you who can look at a situation that isn't exactly ideal and turn it into something that everyone can feel happy about (you, the biological parents and the parents who adopted).
Thank you for your responce ;)
@freespirit7 (482)
• United States
28 Nov 06
The only thing I would want to know about my biological parents is the health information from both sides, so I can prepare myself and my children later on in life. As far as involving them as family, I'd consider the ones that raised me as my parents.
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@Backpack30 (924)
• United States
28 Nov 06
Me too.
I have a few friends who were adopted and none of them ever had any desire to find their biological parents. I always thought that was odd because I'd want to know, but I guess if you're not in that situation, you don't know how it'd feel.
@peizli (1000)
• Australia
28 Nov 06
Hard to say really unless you were in that situation. I think I might, mainly for wanting to know my background. People also need to find them for medical reasons. It would be awful if you got shunned away for the second time though.
@Backpack30 (924)
• United States
28 Nov 06
That's true, I think anyone would be afraid of their rejection a second time....
@Backpack30 (924)
• United States
15 Mar 07
I think I'd want to know too. Just out of curiosity-like if I looked like them and things like that.
But I agree with you, I definitely would always think of the people who raised me as my parents.
@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
15 Mar 07
To be honest with you, I think I would do the same. If they are my parents, why would they do that to their own child? Unless of course they were poor at the time coudln't afford proper living for us and the social security took us away from them, but usually in this case we would find out the same time we find out who they are.
@Backpack30 (924)
• United States
15 Mar 07
Yes, I know there're alot of situations where the mother can't afford the baby-very sad....
@Backpack30 (924)
• United States
15 Mar 07
I agree, Abisree. What's that saying?
Anyone can be a mother or father, but it takes someone great to be a mom or dad;)
@Lady_Vincy (1538)
• United States
10 Jan 07
If I was adopted I would want to try and find my biological parents. I would just want to know who they were. Iwould like to build a relationship with them just for the fact that they are biologically my parents but the parents who raised me would always be my real parents in my eyes. No matter what.
@Backpack30 (924)
• United States
12 Jan 07
Yes, I'd want to get to know my biological parents to see if I had their looks/mannerisms/sense of humor, but the parents who raised me would be my real parents.
What's that saying? Anyone can be a father/mother, but it takes a special person to be a dad/mom.
