Agreeing to Write Erotica is NOT an Invitation for Sexual Harassment

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Yesterday a fellow freelancing friend put me in touch with a client she had just completed some marketing writing for. She said he had inquired about whether she wrote erotica, and she knows that that's one of the niches that I specialize in, so she asked if I was interested in talking to the guy. I said sure. He could message me if he had a project he needed to hire a writer for. So this guy messaged me on Facebook messenger, and at first things were kept strictly professional. He even admitted to feeling anxious about telling me what he wanted written, because he thought I would judge him. I assured him there was no judgement here. I've heard it all. Unless it involves minors or incest, nothing is really taboo, as long as I'm being paid. But then things started getting weird. He wanted to know if I had a boyfriend or husband and whether or not he was okay with me doing this. I replied that I was in a long-term relationship and he had no problems with me writing erotica. I guess I should have realized that was the first red flag. Things only got weirder from there. This guy didn't want to hire a writer. He wanted someone to cyber with. He wanted the story to star HIM. He repeatedly asked me to message him certain phrases while I was working, and he even had the audacity to call me honey. Then, I found out he was messaging creepy stuff to my friend who had written some product descriptions for him. (He told her he wanted us to "compete" with the erotic story to see who "did it better.") We exchanged screenshots of our conversations with this guy, and discovered that the leather jacket he wanted the character to wear in the story I was to write for him (which he sent me a picture of) was one of the products that my friend had written a product description for. What the actual hell?? My friend realized those probably aren't even products he actually sells, he is just some perv with a weird fetish. We both ended up blocking him. But this whole situation has left me thinking. What that "client" did was NOT okay. Agreeing to write erotica is NOT an invitation for sexual harassment, or an agreement to actually get someone off. Erotica authors are NOT prostitutes. Every other client I have ever written this sort of thing for was always strictly professional, and the story was never portrayed as being for their own personal use, but for publication elsewhere. I'm just a ghostwriter, helping them meet a deadline. It's despicable that anyone would think that hiring a writer is the same as hiring a sex worker, and that it entitles them to cross boundaries the way this guy did. It seems sexual harassment in the workplace is still alive and well, even when you work from home.