Why the high rate of divorce, what happened to love?
@SirPeters (255)
Nigeria
May 17, 2018 2:08am CST
Will you marry me? Is one of the nicest questions many people love to hear. When a yes is replied to this question, they walk down the aisle and tie the knot. They make vows to each other: "till death do us part ".
What then happen to love?
The rate of divorce is getting high especially between the first five years in marriage. What really happened to love? What went wrong.? These same people were so much in love sometime ago, why the coldness towards each other.
• Is there no love again?
• why the sudden change of mind?
• what are the reasons for divorce?
Share you view or experience so that the single and married will learn from it.
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@ThinkGratitude (263)
• United States
17 May 18
Some people believe they don't deserve love so they sabotage what they have and then they can be a martyr and use the excuse "see, no one loves me" yet they were the ones that set the whole thing in progress. Other people want to control every aspect of the marriage and treat the spouse like a child where there is never a team effort. This is not a marriage, neither one of these situations are a marriage. Many people just don't realize what a marriage is or the kind of work it actually takes.
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@Kingrooster (383)
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18 May 18
Marriage is a one team need to work together a team in order to have a successful marriage life. It should be give and take. 
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
17 May 18
There is no more or people stopped choosing to love.
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@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
17 May 18
Love requires many things to make it a success! It is mutual understanding, mutual faith, mutual sacrifice and lot of patience! Today's youth they don't have time for all these things and in the name of freedom to live they are opting for divorces! That is what I feel ! Thanks!
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@SirPeters (255)
• Nigeria
17 May 18
@AKRao Yeah, it is really selfless not selfish. Thanks for sharing your point.
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@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
17 May 18
@SirPeters , Yes, most of the times it is selfishness that leads to this ! You are most welcome!
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
17 May 18
First of all, there may not be real love, but only infatuation, so once they are together and realized that there is nothing in common and can't be compromised too. Like @AKRao24 said, it requires many things. Love means the 'real care' to some one, it can't be demanded. When expectations and demand arises, there will be difference of opinion which leads to many problems.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
17 May 18
@SirPeters I think lovers should wait for sometime then decide to continue or not. This may help to avoid unwanted divorces.
@SirPeters (255)
• Nigeria
17 May 18
You got a point there. Many get married hurriedly without waiting to know if there are infatuated or not. When reality sets in, they become confused
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@aninditasen (16395)
• Raurkela, India
17 May 18
Love requires space, understanding and sharing. Do not expect it to be 50 -50.
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@SirPeters (255)
• Nigeria
17 May 18
In other words, both partners should give 100% of their love to make it work?
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@jaytp75 (38)
• Philippines
18 May 18
Love takes time, it needs strong foundation and commitment. Remember two people will be bonded as one in marriage that literally not related to each other by blood, grew up in different family and up-bringing, probably different culture and habits... but that what is love, it is like magic.
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@Kingrooster (383)
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18 May 18
In my opinion i think marriage is just like getting to know its other adjustment period not in courting we will know the person better if they come together in just one roof and the true charactirics or attitude of one person will come out. That is why the pre- marriage is invented. Correct me if im wrong .
@SirPeters (255)
• Nigeria
18 May 18
@kingrooster That is why it is important to study your jumping into marriage. Also, we need to make up our mind that our marriage will work. So that, when issues arises, instead of backing out, we face the and scale through
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@ThinkGratitude (263)
• United States
18 May 18
One just never really knows. You can date for a couple of years, and everything seems fine and you are on the same page or you can a couple of years, get married and find out that your way off course. You might date for three months and experience the same situation. I think it all boils down to character and the amount of work you want to put into the relationship to make it work. Some people think once you're married the work is over, but that is just when the work is beginning. You have to learn each other's habits, likes, dislikes, etc..sometimes you can deal with them and other times you think "what in the world have I done?"
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@Kingrooster (383)
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18 May 18
@SirPeters that is right we must be responsible in every situation we take in. So that nobody will get hurt in the end.
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