I think my husband doesnt love me anymore.
By tara causey
@taramarie39 (667)
Williamsburg, Virginia
6 responses
@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
18 May 18
So sorry to hear this. It is heartbreaking when a marriage becomes one sided. Have you talked to each other about what the problem is and why he wants a divorce.
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@taramarie39 (667)
• Williamsburg, Virginia
22 May 18
He says that he really doesnt want to divorce me. He just wants to get my attention. I said thats not the way to get my attention.
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
22 May 18
@taramarie39 No it is not. I think you both need to sit down and have a good long talk and work out what may be happening and why he thinks he has to do that to get your attention.
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
18 May 18
Oh I am so sorry to hear that.. Hopefully you will resolve whatever misunderstandings you have.. Good luck!
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@taramarie39 (667)
• Williamsburg, Virginia
18 May 18
Thank you. I hope so as well.
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
18 May 18
@taramarie39 I wish you all the best..
You're always welcome
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@popciclecold (38818)
• United States
18 May 18
Wow, that is tough position to be in. All you can do is take one day at a time.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
22 May 18
@taramarie39 I see that you have 9 children. Is he abusive to you or the children?
@taramarie39 (667)
• Williamsburg, Virginia
22 May 18
Thank you. It is what it is though i guess. I have had a couple of days to cry, feel depressed. Now I need to figure out what to do. for work, for a house, for the rest of my life. God bless
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@Melanie_Marie (1871)
• New Baltimore, Michigan
18 May 18
Some people just weren't cut out for marriage, and it's an unfortunate situation when they realize that - after they're already married. (I'm not talking about you, I mean him.) Also, the more you push for the marriage to work, the more he will back away. Guys hate pressure, of any kind. Except for a really strong, rough, powerful kiss, they seem to like that kind of pressure. 
I would just do nothing for the time being. Find some interesting things to do on your own, and let him be on his own for a while too so he can have time to think or plan or whatever he needs to do. No matter what you say and no matter what you do, if he wants out, he wants out. You can't change what somebody wants, or what they will do, if they already have it in their head that they are gonna do it.
*This is the exact reason I stayed away from marriage. I knew at some point, I would want to get the heck out of there. So instead of torturing some poor guy and marrying him, I just kept to myself. I let those guys find other girls who actually did want to get married.
But that's just me.
Either way, you'll be okay. Set him free....see if he comes back. If he doesn't, then you're both free. And then you can find a guy that doesn't come right out and say terrible things to you like, "I want a divorce." You don't deserve that, nobody does. Always remember, YOU are #1, not him. He's his own #1. He worries about himself, so you should worry about yourself.
Stay happy ~ Stay single ~ Always mingle ~ But then go home. 
I would just do nothing for the time being. Find some interesting things to do on your own, and let him be on his own for a while too so he can have time to think or plan or whatever he needs to do. No matter what you say and no matter what you do, if he wants out, he wants out. You can't change what somebody wants, or what they will do, if they already have it in their head that they are gonna do it.
*This is the exact reason I stayed away from marriage. I knew at some point, I would want to get the heck out of there. So instead of torturing some poor guy and marrying him, I just kept to myself. I let those guys find other girls who actually did want to get married.
But that's just me.
Either way, you'll be okay. Set him free....see if he comes back. If he doesn't, then you're both free. And then you can find a guy that doesn't come right out and say terrible things to you like, "I want a divorce." You don't deserve that, nobody does. Always remember, YOU are #1, not him. He's his own #1. He worries about himself, so you should worry about yourself.
Stay happy ~ Stay single ~ Always mingle ~ But then go home. 2 people like this
@taramarie39 (667)
• Williamsburg, Virginia
22 May 18
THank you for these kind words. I appreciate it so much. I think he wants to be married but only if the wife is always waiting on him hand and foot, i have children to raise. I cant be by his side 24/7. If I am with the kids its like he gets jealous of our children. Its weird.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
18 May 18
I am sorry, Tara. Have you talked to him?
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@taramarie39 (667)
• Williamsburg, Virginia
18 May 18
A lot. It doesnt do any good anymore. He has given,up.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
18 May 18
@taramarie39 As they say, it always takes two to tango. I still pray that your marriage will still be fixed. My prayers are with you, Tara.
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