Was i wrong to be mad?
By lady Di
@lady1993 (27224)
Philippines
May 19, 2018 8:51pm CST
We have this upcoming trip abroad, only us 3 girls. I did not really initiate it, but i was the one who really made it happen. I stayed up late to booked cheap tickets. I was the one constantly looking for cheap hotels and even made a bit of the itinerary.
I didn't even have a credit card and just borrowed from a friend.
Yesterday i was just checking Klook and found out that the cheapest Disneyland tickets were already sold out for our dates. So i chatted them and they didn't really do much other than chat about how sad they are or something and that we should book now.. but then they do not have a credit card. 
So the cycle goes on.
So i said that "Can you also please make an effort, cause it seems that i am the only one who wants this to happen" 
i might have created a rift between us, but really though - they haven't really done much. It's like i am taking this trip alone. 
Anyways, was i wrong to be mad? I wonder what i can say to mend our friendship though. Our tips is like a month away now.
So the cycle goes on.
So i said that "Can you also please make an effort, cause it seems that i am the only one who wants this to happen"
i might have created a rift between us, but really though - they haven't really done much. It's like i am taking this trip alone.
Anyways, was i wrong to be mad? I wonder what i can say to mend our friendship though. Our tips is like a month away now.8 people like this
10 responses
@sw8sincere (5204)
• Philippines
20 May 18
no you are not wrong by being mad. It is good to let out our true feelings or emotions sometimes than to keep it inside. =)
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but i was the one who actually made it happen
@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
20 May 18
Can't say that you are wrong nor you are right but if you feel like you are the only one making this trip happen, might as well, cancel it altogether.
Or...
... specifically, ask your two companions what you expect from them to make this trip work.
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@meganjaxt (190)
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20 May 18
You are feeling guilty for this I know. But dear you haven't done any wrong. I think they should have showed concern to motivate you to do your best.
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
20 May 18
No. It's not wrong to be mad, they should help you because they are also a part of it. Good luck to you..
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
1 Jun 18
@lady1993 you're always welcome
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@andriaperry (117133)
• Anniston, Alabama
20 May 18
I hope they have gave you their part f the money already, if not they may be taking advantage of you with no intentions on paying back.
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@Daelii (5619)
• United States
20 May 18
I'm sorry! This is why I don't mind booking and planning things with other people - but I do so more leisurely. We pay separately or they better contribute before I pay for them. Far to often I've never been reimbursed and I'm not made of money. This way money doesn't come between friendships. :)
Asking for help on this, shouldn't cause a rift. if it does, maybe you need to re-evaluate the friendship.
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@Ladybug8608 (32)
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20 May 18
I don't think you were necessarily mad but maybe just hurt because your trip mates aren't as excited and putting in the same effort. I would tell them how you feel and ask them if they really want to go....it's a month away you could always try to replace them with someone who wants to go more.
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