Longing to find her Mother ..
By Hazel Vee
@epiffanie (11326)
Australia
May 28, 2018 4:19am CST
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Next year, my step-daughter will come with us to the Philippines to try to find her biological mother..She is now 36 years old and really longing to find her mother..I guess, it's only natural to know where you come from..
I don't know where we are going to start although we have a few clues. Her original birth certificate was confusing.. Even more confusing was the adoption paper and the fact that they made a new birth certificate naming the Australian couple as the birth parents..I thought that was stupid.. They should have thought about the child when she grows and want to find her mother..
Anyway, to make a long story short, she became my step-daughter because her adoptive parents got divorced and few years after, I met her adoptive Dad and we got married..We're together now for 20 years.. My step-daughter was only 15 when I came into her life.. I guess, she felt some connection there from the start..
It won't be an easy mission for us.. but I hope not impossible .. I am kind of anxious for her.. I hope whatever the outcome of search, she won't get disappointed or heartbroken .. I told her how weird life is.. because here I am, I disconnected from my siblings, and yet here she is longing to find out whether her mother is still alive and whether she has siblings .. She longs to be connected .. I will do my best to help her find her mother ..
Have you ever known anyone who's adopted, searched and became connected with their biological mother?..
Bess
I watched this story on 60Minutes about a lost boy and was adopted by Australian couple .. he went back to the Philippines and found his mother.. I thought I might ask the program in the Philippines who helped him to also help us with our search ..
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I took that photo of a jeepney in 2011 on our road trip from Manila to Sorsogon .. My son and step-daughter will get shocked by some of the ways people there can get away with ..
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I watched this story on 60Minutes about a lost boy and was adopted by Australian couple .. he went back to the Philippines and found his mother.. I thought I might ask the program in the Philippines who helped him to also help us with our search ..
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I took that photo of a jeepney in 2011 on our road trip from Manila to Sorsogon .. My son and step-daughter will get shocked by some of the ways people there can get away with ..
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
28 May 18
i have not known one that has found biological parents but have wished my aunt had tried to find her daughter harder or my cousin her son had tried harder or been able to find her. i would have liked to know that cousin and tell her what a kind and wonderful woman my aunt was and how everyone loved her. and how loved she was from my aunt
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
30 May 18
@epiffanie yes. my aunt played mother to me most of my life. she had 3 boys she had kept and didn't want the girl to go through what they were going through. long story. but she always missed her and showed it by taking over when my mom was abusing me
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
29 May 18
I understand how you feel .. sometimes we can't help wonder what if ..
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
1 Jun 18
@bunnybon7 Isn't it sad that your aunt went through life with that longing for her daughter ?...Glad you were there for her and she was there for you ..
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@caopaopao (12395)
• China
28 May 18
I hope she can find her biological mother. But I believe she still likes you more. Because you raised her and her birth mother never raised her.
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
29 May 18
I did not raise this young lady .. because she lived with her adoptive mother until she turned 30 .. but we have friendly relationship ..
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@HazySue (39268)
• Gouverneur, New York
28 May 18
I did know someone who was adopted when she was an infant and searched for her birth parents. She found them when she was in her late 30's. It didn't turn out the way she pictured it. She has only seen her mother one time and her father one time each. They have not kept in touch.
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
29 May 18
I guess, being in her late 30s , she's already set up with her connection with adoptive family .. Maybe after that once meeting, her curiosity has been satisfied ...
@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
29 May 18
Yes and he was disappointed because she was nothing like his adopted parents.
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
29 May 18
I've heard so many stories of disappointment more than happy ending ..
@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
28 May 18
I miss Bicol and how fascinating it is there. I wish that your stepdaughter finds her mother and be able to find that peace within her and her well-being will complete. My husband's cousin is adopted by his aunt but she is really his niece because the real mother is my husband's cousin. She knows about this but she is happy with how she brought up by her adoptive parents.
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
29 May 18
@mlgen1037 i love it when @simplyd posts pics of mt. mayon. it's been a while, though.
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
28 May 18
Thanks Louise .. Yes, I think it's the one thing that she really must find closure or she will always feel that emptiness ...
I think it's better for adopted children to know who their biological mother is ..It's not fair if their records are so mucked up ..
The most fascinating thing in Bicol for me is the Mayon Volcano .. Really amazing how that volcano maintains its cone even after many major eruptions ..
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
28 May 18
@epiffanie Always a pleasure po. I agree with you that at least a part of her wants to be completed.
My lola lived in Legazpi that is why that Mayon Volcano is very clear from where she lives. I am astounded with its beauty too.
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@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
8 Jul 18
I hope your step daughter finds her mother. It was socking how her birth certificate was handled. One of my friends found out she was adopted and she was adopted by a rich couple with an adopted son. She found out who her mother was by an older family friend. Her mother was a very rough sort of lady. She showed me a photo of her. At school I had another friend that was adopted and she was a much more stable sort of person.
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
14 Sep 19
Your friend is fortunate to have been adopted out if her mother was rough as you said ..
@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
29 May 18
Thank you Sanjeev .. I am hoping for her ..
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@LeaPea2417 (37355)
• Toccoa, Georgia
2 Jun 18
I know a boy who was adopted from another country. I think he was an orphan as a baby.
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
2 Jun 18
Did he ever express longing to find his biological mother?..
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@LeaPea2417 (37355)
• Toccoa, Georgia
2 Jun 18
@epiffanie No, I don't think he has a desire to do that.
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@birjudanak (14320)
• India
13 Sep 19
this is another suspense story and i hope she got what she looking for and also wish she not disappointed. i think she will not get much better mother then you as you help her for that person whom you replaced. we can understand some problem but I think it is difficult for you too. hope thing is normal at the moment.
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
14 Sep 19
@birjudanak Maybe she didn't want to be found ..
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@birjudanak (14320)
• India
14 Sep 19
@epiffanie ops so what end in the result as she finded her or get to know where is her mom?
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@anorona (225)
• Philippines
30 May 18
It will really a big help if you can contact the program and your steph daughter’s story will be featured on it. I am from the Philippines and I have ssen many stories like that on KMJS. They have a lot of sources and teams to search for your steph daughter’s mom.
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
14 Sep 19
Indeed .. this will be a difficult mission..
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
29 May 18
Yes indeed .. I am anxious for her .. I know how much she wants to find out .. and what to do next ...
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
28 May 18
I hope your step daughter will find her biological mother.
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
28 May 18
@epiffanie you're always welcome po
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
28 May 18
there are many TV programs that cater to lost parents and children searching for their parents. i hope you go to any of these.
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
29 May 18
Yes, I am thinking of going to these programs first .. maybe they can lead us or help us where to start ..
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