Age is Just a Number?

@Raine38 (12389)
United States
June 13, 2018 9:31am CST
In love and relationships, they say there are many factors to consider. But should one of the factors to look into are the ages of the people involved? I dint mean to spark a controversy or argument, would just like to know what do you think of this scenario: A friend of a friend is also from the Philippines, a young 23-year old woman. She got here in the United States on a fiancée visa a couple of years ago. Her fiancé is 52 years old. Personally, I think it can be very challenging knowing that their interests and life priorities will not exactly be the same given the huge age gap. What are your thoughts?
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
13 Jun 18
Age is just a number, yes but if you are just going to use that in terms of getting what you want without the need to work hard is another thing. Raine, you know how we are here and it is sad how others see us.
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@Raine38 (12389)
• United States
14 Jun 18
Exactly. You can only understand what the scenario depicts if you have been exposed to the stereotyping that we are subjected to. But oh well!
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
14 Jun 18
@Raine38 Yes. That is right. Wonder how it will lasts though.
@saurabhrmp (2283)
• Hyderabad, India
13 Jun 18
In my opinion, in love and relationship age doesnt matter. Some less age people start loving a high age person. But I think that love doesn't work for long time. As, after some time their interests might conflict. As you gave one example one partner is 23 year old and another partner 52 year old, that much gap is huge as second partner is more then double of 1st partner age.
@Raine38 (12389)
• United States
14 Jun 18
I wonder though if the guy is from the Philippines, will the young lady still take interest with him?
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• Hyderabad, India
14 Jun 18
@Raine38, yes you correct might be for green card she had married to the old guy or might be for money
• Hyderabad, India
15 Jun 18
@Strawberry18 ,hmm then she might got marry only for green card in US not for love
@marguicha (223802)
• Chile
13 Jun 18
It depends on many things. But I would not bet on that coulple. I don´t know if she only or mainly wanted to go to the US. And I would not trust on what her fiancée wants from her.
@marguicha (223802)
• Chile
14 Jun 18
@Raine38 Yes. An what about the future?
@Raine38 (12389)
• United States
14 Jun 18
Same as what I though. Like I mentioned earlier, if the guy happens to be from the Philippines, will she still be interested despite the age?
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@Daelii (5619)
• United States
13 Jun 18
All people are different and why does the age of her partner mater to you? As long as both people are legal adults; its really only their concern who they find to be a suitable partner. My husband is nearly two decades older than me. Does it mater? Not really. As a kid I tended to date older people. It happens when you are a minor child in college. It wasn't like there was another person my age there that I ever ran into. :( After graduation it was like most of those in my "Age group" were still out working on high school or starting college, not working, not doing anything besides drinking/partying. So people that could have a decent conversation with were in my opinion, older. :)
@Raine38 (12389)
• United States
14 Jun 18
I guess you should read my discussion again. :)
@Daelii (5619)
• United States
14 Jun 18
@Raine38 Why do I need to reread your discussion? You made a post about it. So clearly, it maters in some form or another to you for you to take time to write about it?
@saritflor (3914)
• Hungary
13 Jun 18
Yes it is. I have friends over 40 they act if they were only 18 we never should lose the little kids we are.
@Raine38 (12389)
• United States
14 Jun 18
I agree with you! We should still have fun and enjoy life no matter how old / young we are! We only live once, right?
@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
13 Jun 18
I prefer to have older bf/husband also as he can guide and teach me to all the things I am not good at. 10 years gap is fine but not higher than that.
@Raine38 (12389)
• United States
14 Jun 18
I also tend to like men who are older than I am. I think this is just me but that age gap feels like I am dating my dad - we have a 29-year age gap so it will not be for me.
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
14 Jun 18
@Raine38 29 years that's too much for me. Hehe!!!
@Jfronda82 (270)
15 Jun 18
That is depend on the person.It maybe her interest but we cannot judge and tell the future. That will be depend on how he treat that girl. She maybe too old for her but she can still love him in return if he truly love that girl. This will be developing a relationship.