"Good Touch and bad touch"
@allknowing (136601)
India
June 26, 2018 3:59am CST
There is an urgent need to educate kids about those who take advantage of their ignorance and that could include their father, brother, uncles, grandpa, neighbour, cousin - yes any unsuspecting male they know very well.
These incidents are rampant in India and could be so elsewhere too. Apart from educating kids about bad touch and good touch the public is advised to report the matter to the police.
The question is will anyone report if the culprit if it happens to be the father or brother?
Your views please.
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
26 Jun 18
I agree with you, educating kids must be done,.. we do have many cases here like rape and the suspect or culprit is their family member or relatives also.
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@allknowing (136601)
• India
26 Jun 18
It is nice to say must be done but is anything being done around you and as a result of which kids report ??
@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
26 Jun 18
@allknowing I watched something like this on news, a teen got pregnant because of this, that's why they come to know about the culprit and caught him. Maybe the teen was scared so she didn't tell anyone even her mother, but because she got pregnant she can't keep it as a secret forever.
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@allknowing (136601)
• India
26 Jun 18
@Jessabuma This is a hit and miss method. There should be a full proof method.
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@caopaopao (12395)
• China
26 Jun 18
We really should educate girls to learn to protect themselves.
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@allknowing (136601)
• India
26 Jun 18
Is something being already done in your country?
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@allknowing (136601)
• India
27 Jun 18
@caopaopao It's time it is done at all levels.
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@caopaopao (12395)
• China
27 Jun 18
@allknowing No, the school has never done such a job. Parents may teach their children some knowledge of this.
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@LadyDuck (471498)
• Switzerland
26 Jun 18
I think that most kids do not dare to talk about their bad experiences, especially if those involved are part of the family. It is important to explain to the children that they must not be shy, they have to report if something they dislike is happening.
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@allknowing (136601)
• India
26 Jun 18
Here in India this is a hot topic and this has already started in schools. What I think is it is the parents specially the mother of the child should initiate this conversation.
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@allknowing (136601)
• India
26 Jun 18
@LadyDuck When a child has an issue as you said they do display signs of restlessness and the mother should take notice of that and bring out what the child is hiding.
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@LadyDuck (471498)
• Switzerland
26 Jun 18
@allknowing I agree, the mother must let the children know that they must never be shy and be alert. I think that a mother should notice when a kid has a problem and is afraid to talk.
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@allknowing (136601)
• India
26 Jun 18
Do you know of any situation where a relative has been reported by a kid?
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@rakski (123498)
• Philippines
26 Jun 18
@allknowing we have a lot of news like that here where in cousins, father, uncle or grandfather molested or abused their own. Sad and bad
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@allknowing (136601)
• India
27 Jun 18
@rakski But has any kid reported? This is important as then we know the child knows the difference between a bad and good touch.
@DianneN (247186)
• United States
28 Jun 18
@allknowing Yes, they certainly are!
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@Juliaacv (51027)
• Canada
26 Jun 18
I feel that its always been the norm to talk to our children as this is not a new issue but an ages old one. With education comes the openness and ability to report anyone or any incident, and in most countries the social services is very good at assisting in these issues.
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@allknowing (136601)
• India
26 Jun 18
Do you know of any kids that have complained against those close relatives who have tried to molest them. This is what is the most difficult and that is for kids to complain about those who love them.
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@allknowing (136601)
• India
26 Jun 18
@Juliaacv I wish there were more kids who did that
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@allknowing (136601)
• India
26 Jun 18
Has there been a positive effect on account of this? Has anyone around have taken this approach with positive results in that have the kids reported?
@Freelanzer (10743)
• Canada
26 Jun 18
It is important to be aware of such things especially as they relate to vulnerable young children, Children have to feel safe and know that they will be listened to if they report it.
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@allknowing (136601)
• India
28 Jun 18
What is the situation around you? Are you all educating kids around you about this?
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@josie_ (10034)
• Philippines
26 Jun 18
There are many cases where the child abuser was a relative. How does one "educate" a child whose natural instinct is to trust those closest to them? It is only after they have been traumatize when such molestation are discovered if at all. Very often because it would cause shame to the family, such incidents are covered up.
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@allknowing (136601)
• India
26 Jun 18
Not so much the father or brother they will not resort to killing but there are cases here kids are killed after the dastardly act.
@josie_ (10034)
• Philippines
26 Jun 18
@allknowing _I have read about child brides and bride burning in India but this is the first about abused children being murdered by their own relatives. Perhaps we should not be surprise such practice exist in male-dominated hierarchy.
So it's the girl-child's fault that tempted the male relative? Is this also done if the child was a male in a homosexual relationship with another but older male relative?. How about if the child was a male child and the abuser was an older FEMALE relative?
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@allknowing (136601)
• India
26 Jun 18
The question here is are you all doing it?
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@allknowing (136601)
• India
28 Jun 18
@Rashnag It is not easy but possible. Hope you will have the courage to do it.
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@Rashnag (30592)
• Surat, India
27 Jun 18
@allknowing To make sure to educate male in my family and if at all if someone from my family does it, to report them to police as what's wrong is wrong
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