Tomorrow is Her Bridal Shower and I Don't Want to Go

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Tomorrow is my brother's fiancee's bridal shower, which I really don't want to go to. My mom, sister, and youngest brother's girlfriend and I have to travel an hour away to attend this event, which is being hosted at my soon-to-be sister-in-law's mother's house. She lives in a gated community which has a bunch of strict rules, I guess. Also, she is a strict Catholic. I wonder if she realizes she has invited a "heathen" to her home. That might be interesting. (I have multiple pagan tattoos and always wear a pentagram necklace, and I will not change how I am to avoid offending someone I don't even know. If they want me there then they will have to accept me as I am.) I hate going to things like bridal showers or other social events. They are not enjoyable to anyone but the bride and possibly her close friends and family. Plus, the bride in this case is in her 30s, has a good career, and owns her own home...so it seems kind of weird to have a bridal shower to receive presents when she is already set in life. She and my brother already live together. It's not like they are a young couple just starting out. This is my brother's second marriage and I have no idea whether or not she's ever been married before. I am not close to his fiancee and truthfully I don't want to be. I was friends with his ex-wife and it was hard losing her when they divorced. I don't want to deal with that again. I am friendly with his fiancee but we are not friends. Oh, another reason I don't want to go -- she has been sick for the past two weeks and just found out yesterday she has bronchitis! I don't know why they aren't postponing the shower. I don't want to catch whatever she has! Maybe I should swing by the store and get one of those masks to cover my nose and mouth to avoid breathing in her germs. Anyway, I don't know anyone else who will be attending other than my mom, sister, and youngest brother's girlfriend. We all have bad social anxiety so it's going to be awkward for all of us. Plus they will be drinking mimosas with brunch, which none of us will be able to partake in, since we're not allowed to drink with our meds (and my brother's girlfriend is driving so she won't be able to drink either.) My mom says we'll have an "I survived the bridal shower" celebration sometime afterwards. My youngest bro's girlfriend told us to just shoot her "the look" when we want to get the hell out of there. So I guess she's not looking forward to it either! Anyway, I have been having bad anxiety all week over the upcoming bridal shower. Which may seem silly but like I said, I have bad social anxiety and don't enjoy social events, especially when there's a bunch of people there who I don't know. I have considered coming up with some excuse to get out of going, but I won't do that to the rest of my family. I am really only going for them. Maybe if the four of us stick together, it won't be so bad. And if it is really bad, we can always give "the look" and get the hell out of there! Do you enjoy social events like bridal showers, or are you like me and avoid them like the plague?