If you are a male and an engineer, you better not enter Bihar state of India unless you wish to be kidnapped
By DJ
@Daljinder (23236)
Bangalore, India
July 2, 2018 8:34am CST
...and fall victim to "Pakaruah Vivah" which is a fallout practice of dowry system. As the girls' families become unable to provide sufficient dowries, they adapted and started the practice of Pakaruah Vivah (Forced Wedding). There are legit groom kidnapping gangs operating that kidnap the eligible bachelors and forcibly wed them to an unmarried girl
And since marriage is regarded as sacred institution in India, most of these marriages are not annulled. In case, the groom wishes to fight it, the law works against him.
Adult unmarried males with qualifications such as medical, engineering, or an IAS and government servicemen are the main targets for such kidnappings.
Did I forget to mention the wedding is performed at gun point to secure the "consent" of the groom? um...sorry? Must have skipped my mind...
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
2 Jul 18
the family of the groom never knows about it?
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
2 Jul 18
@AKRao24 and all that time his family are sick with worry about his disappearance? when they find out there will be a lot of resentment on the groom and his family's part against the bride and her family. not a good start. more like a prison sentence.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
2 Jul 18
@hereandthere The bride's family with the bride take the groom back with "traditional" rituals. Naturally the resentment will be there but the question is are they allowed to show it though? Coz from what I gather, bride's families pressure the groom and his family to accept the bride with respect and dignity. Grooms are not given a choice.
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@neelia_lyn (2003)
• Philippines
2 Jul 18
That's scary. Many men will leave India if that is happening.
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@neelia_lyn (2003)
• Philippines
5 Jul 18
@Daljinder Oh that's a relief. Thanks for clarifying.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
5 Jul 18
@neelia_lyn We have plenty to India to roam about. No need to leave the country just because of a single state
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@marguicha (223051)
• Chile
2 Jul 18
It is better to learn about India through books, videos and movies
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@marguicha (223051)
• Chile
5 Jul 18
@Daljinder I have read here that you have many problems. I´m sure that you will overcome them because you are a great country. But what you just wrote, what I have heard about the amount of rapes there, the treatment of women in some cases are shocking to me. Still, there are many things that are very interesting for a tourist. But I will better watch it in a film or a video.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
6 Jul 18
@marguicha True! There definitely are many interesting places here. India has one of most phenomenal architectural wonders. Centuries if not millennia old historical places all throughout the country. All types of weather and landscape all at one place.
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@vandana7 (100296)
• India
5 Jul 18
Revenge of the girls..lol. What else to expect. But I think our friend @hora_fugit is from that part of the world. And chances are that he qualifies...
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@hora_fugit (5862)
• India
8 Jul 18
I suggest you to go through this 'tradition' once. It's quite a fun to be captured in a jute sack, transported, and then being married off with only your head looking out of that sack! So much fun!!!! 
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@vandana7 (100296)
• India
9 Jul 18
@hora_fugit I wonder how you would look with only your head out of the sack..LOL How do they know whether you are already married or not?
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
9 Jul 18
@vandana7 I am assuming they do their homework.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
2 Jul 18
@LadyDuck Dowry system is criminal offense according to The Dowry Prohibition Act, 1961 and this legislation came into force from July 1, 1961. The implementation and lack of knowledge of rights by the people are the problem.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
5 Jul 18
@thelme55 A diverse country in every way. Be it good or bad. 
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
5 Jul 18
@AKRao24 eh... educated people are worse because they know how to circumvent the laws and rules in their favor if they choose to.
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@hora_fugit (5862)
• India
8 Jul 18
Thank you DJ! But let me tell you a secret: for any good man, a marriage is always a "forced" one! 
The sooner he realizes it, the better.... 
The sooner he realizes it, the better.... 
@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
5 Jul 18
@rakski Glad to be not in their position. I might end up murdering my spouse.
@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
5 Jul 18
@just4him It's not marriage. It is a violation
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@cintol (11261)
• United States
8 Jul 18
That is awful, why are they still living in the olden ages. How do they ever expect to move and update the country if they don't upgrade and rewrite some of the laws that make life so unfavorable for so many. How can one truly be happy in love and marriage when its forced upon them, thats not love. I feel sorry for them
@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
2 Jul 18
@Daljinder Soooooooooooooooo screwed up man! I knew about the kidnapping but wasn't aware about the rest of the details you have shared with us.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
5 Jul 18
@Daljinder ........ummmm wow I don't recall ever hearing that one before. How can something like that be a tradition? I wonder which sicko thought up that one!
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
6 Jul 18
@Daljinder I wasn't really asking YOU. I was just asking out loud. People suck. That's all there is to it. I knew about that too. It's disgusting.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
5 Jul 18
@VivaLaDani13 We have many weird and some sick traditions. Like in Rajasthan, the "Holi" festival which is celebrated with colours. They have this tradition "Lath mar Holi" where wives beat up their husbands with bamboo sticks.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
11 Jul 18
@anamika161088 They are saving 50 lakhs of dowry by this kind of marriage. This way, they only have to pay 2-5 lakhs to the goons and no dowries.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
13 Jul 18
@anamika161088 People are using stupidity and making it even stupidier.
@anamika161088 (11866)
• India
12 Jul 18
@Daljinder What all rubbish is happening in the world around!! How they get these stupid ideas??
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@stapllotik (1933)
• India
2 Jul 18
Any idea who are these people ? Are they exploited by someone? This is inhuman
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
5 Jul 18
@slapllotik These are goons who have taken up the "honorary" job of getting the daughters married. They just missed the key factor called "consent" and "happily married".
@responsiveme (22926)
• India
2 Jul 18
Am just back from Bihar..Bodh Gaya after attending a wedding though not forced.Both the bride and groom were engineers.
My mehendi designed hands were put up in my recent my lot discussion.
Glad to see you
