My mother wants my wife to leave, what do i do?
By PETER MUSEE
@pmusee (92)
Nairobi, Kenya
29 responses
@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
3 Jul 18
Ohh, that's too hard situation but you are you are the one who will decide not your mother coz you are her husband and not your mother.
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
3 Jul 18
@pmusee ohh I see.. still you are married to your wife and you should do your responsibility being her husband..
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@pmusee (92)
• Nairobi, Kenya
3 Jul 18
@Jessabuma But the problems have become so much. Perhaps I could not have listened to my mother from day 1 when she was introducing me to her.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
3 Jul 18
I read in your comments to other members that your mother introduced you to your wife. Did your mother introduce you to her because she (your mother) thought that it would be a good idea if you and your wife got married? And now she has changed her mind and now she doesn't think that your marriage was a good idea? Is that what happened?
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
3 Jul 18
@pmusee I think what really matters is how you feel about the situation. If you love your wife I think that you should fight for your relationship even if your mother disagrees. But if you are having problems in your marriage and you personally think that divorce is a better option then it is a different situation. I hope you find a solution.
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@pmusee (92)
• Nairobi, Kenya
4 Jul 18
@Porcospino Thanks. I hope too I will find a solution.
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
3 Jul 18
I think you should be a man and stand up for your wife if you really love her and she loves you. The only reason I would heed my mother's advice is if the reason is infidelity. There may be other reasons that your mother knows that you don't so it's wise to ask her and also ask the side of your wife.
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
3 Jul 18
@pmusee by now you should have your own decision not your mother's, remember you are now a married man.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
5 Jul 18
Mothers do not always know best.
If you are having problems with your wife then you need to talk to your wife about it.
Your mom does not need to be involved in your decision at all. You should not base your decision on what your mom thinks of your wife.
As another member has said, you are not married to your mom.
I've been married before and his mother's involvement in our marriage was part of the reason for resentment.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
5 Jul 18
@pmusee i hope she will be willing to talk soon. I would hate to see your marriage fail and it be beause of your mother's involvement.
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@pmusee (92)
• Nairobi, Kenya
6 Jul 18
@ScribbledAdNauseum Sure! I hope all goes well. It has really affected my everything. I can not even concentrate at work.
@pmusee (92)
• Nairobi, Kenya
5 Jul 18
Thanks so much for that piece. But now the wife is not ready to talk in the moment.
@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
6 Jul 18
@pmusee You keep saying that your mother introduced you to your wife, that has nothing to do with the situation now. Forget about that. Go from here, not the past. You a married man, now start acting like it and forget how you met your wife.
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
3 Jul 18
I see that you are 25 years old and I would think if you got married to begin with you should be able to work out your problems without your mother telling you what to do. On the other hand, if your wife has some serious problems you might try and talk to a marriage counselor or someone in the church before doing anything drastic. Good luck to you.
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@anamika161088 (11866)
• India
3 Jul 18
It's a hard situation. What do you want is also important..
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@anamika161088 (11866)
• India
5 Jul 18
@pmusee If you are happy with your partner then you can make your mom understand..
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@pmusee (92)
• Nairobi, Kenya
5 Jul 18
@anamika161088 It is hard but i will do the best i can.
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@saiama (872)
• Mumbai, India
4 Jul 18
if you married your wife and you love her and marriage was without any force and it was love marriage then you should know how to balance this situation. many times the leading lady in house that is in many cases our mothers don't like any other lady coming into their life and interfering in their business in such situations you need to explain to both of them what are the rules and regulations of house and duties of both mother and wife and how they should balance it speak with them ... and hopefully matter would get solved don't just divorce your wife because your mom doesn't like her
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@saiama (872)
• Mumbai, India
9 Jul 18
@pmusee any problems that arise in our life are created more by our egos than having a real problem if we see it from a neutral eye and rethink over it we would realize that there was no problem at all in first place bt just miscommunications and misunderstandings on our parts ... rethink well before yo act my friend maybe you will lose a good friend and partner if you take any decisions in haste and then after few years repent it ...
@pmusee (92)
• Nairobi, Kenya
4 Jul 18
Thanks so much for that, Shweta. But now the problem is that I have been having a lot of problems with wife for quite sometime, despite the friction she is having with my mother.
@Berrygal (5834)
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6 Jul 18
Your mother might just be overreacting, you know we women can so hold onto very little things,so best bet is to be a man and have a heart to heart talk with your wife.Don't look at your wife through your mom's eye but have your own pair of eyes on her and try to resolved the issues as many as possible. Don't be a mummy boy and end up regretting later. Mothers will always be mothers though they always want the best for us but sometimes it more of a sentimental thing, so we should always try to look at a situation critically before giving any approval. Good luck
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@pmusee (92)
• Nairobi, Kenya
6 Jul 18
Sure. Thanks. I love her so much and i am not ready to loose her.
@simplfred (20641)
• Philippines
3 Jul 18
That is definitely a hard case. I don't know if I can give you the right advice since I don't know if what's really the cause of everything. But if you really love someone and that someone loves you too, you must fight for this love.
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@simplfred (20641)
• Philippines
3 Jul 18
@pmusee Balance everything my friend. Only you can solve your problem.
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@ihasaquestion (8276)
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5 Jul 18
I say in times like this, you have to stand up and be a man. Even though you are torn, at the end of the day, you have a say in your own life too; especially with someone you share a life with and have come to love. Just ask yourself at the end of the day will you ever regret separating if you choose that road? If your mom means a whole lot more and you can live with it, you should leave your wife then. It's not what you feel, it's what you do which dictates what you want in an outlook.
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