How Do you Deal with Feelings of Jealousy?
By josefina
@josie_ (10032)
Philippines
July 8, 2018 7:12pm CST
"Jealousy is when you count someone else's blessings instead of your own"
Have you ever been jealous of someone because they are financially better off, more popular than you in the office or school, lives in a bigger house, drives a nicer car or whose girlfriend/ boyfriend looks like a movie star?
A little envy is good if it acts as a motivation for us to better ourselves or pursue a goal. But jealousy that completely fills our mind and attention turns into an obsession that is destructive. It is an ugly emotion.
Very often we push the feeling back deep inside us and pretend it's not happening.
Experiencing jealousy is part of our human nature. But feelings of inadequacy is a value judgment. Why use others as a comparison to set one's standards or life priorities?
The person you are jealous of arrive at where they are because of life choices they made.(Although having a rich uncle isn't a disadvantage)
How do you cope with the green-eyed monster?
It's good to dream, to be better. To search for that "little castle in the air" as this song by Petula Clark expressively points out.
How do you cope with the green-eyed monster?
It's good to dream, to be better. To search for that "little castle in the air" as this song by Petula Clark expressively points out.
Petula Clark sings "The Other Man's Grass Is Always Greener"
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29 responses
@much2say (56657)
• Los Angeles, California
9 Jul 18
@josie_ True - the level of someone like Bill Gates is quite out of our reach - but yes, we are apt to have green eyes at someone who is more like us (where the goals are attainable, but we just haven't attained it yet - at the moment).
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@allknowing (138798)
• India
9 Jul 18
I have gone past that stage of getting jealous or even noticing if anyone else is jealous of me
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@allknowing (138798)
• India
10 Jul 18
@josie_ By doing that one suffers. May as well get it off one's chest (lol)
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@josie_ (10032)
• Philippines
10 Jul 18
@allknowing _Best to let off "steam" gently and not in one outburst.
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@neelia_lyn (2003)
• Philippines
9 Jul 18
When things get hard for me, I say "I wish I have this and that just like this other person", etc. But I've learned to be content of what I have and count my blessings instead.
Nice discussion you have here. 
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@neelia_lyn (2003)
• Philippines
9 Jul 18
@josie_ We can be thankful for what we have, but it doesn't mean we have all that we need in life. It's hard to make both ends meet because of the lack of resources, and that's where the complaining and jealousy begin. You're right, how we cope with it decides it's outcome.
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@josie_ (10032)
• Philippines
10 Jul 18
@neelia_lyn _It's our attitude towards whether "the glass is half full or half empty".
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@rakski (128119)
• Philippines
10 Jul 18
Jealousy is real. And it can be a real problem when it get into your system.
Jealousy can make or break you. If you use it to inspire you more to achieve what others achieve, then good for you. But for most, they are trap in the world of jealousy that turn them into green monsters of evil doing bad things just to get what they want.
I already set my mind over this within my siblings. I told them before that we should not fight over money or be jealous of what one has.
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? I envy people when they could wear very high heeled shoes, when they could have a longer holiday, when their house looks tidy and neat... 
, as in, only 1.45m or something similar. Whenever she wears high heeled shoes, she looks so cute. (You could be the same, right? 
@Letranknight2015 (52210)
• Philippines
27 Jul 18
I tried my best to think what ever stuff I still have left to overcome my jealousy or envy.
Specially those people who have relationship or families.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
9 Jul 18
envy and jealousy are definitely green. i am happy to say i am not. i am just confident to myself.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
10 Jul 18
@josie_ that is so true. i see some of my former students now colleagues do have the green envy when they learn about others' successes.
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@ilocosboy (45156)
• Philippines
25 Sep 18
Admittedly I feel jealous to someone else's victory but I will keep it myself and will not do to destroy the reputation of that person. As you have said, a little envy is good if it act as motivation.
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@ihasaquestion (8275)
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10 Jul 18
I don't care if someone is more better looking or richer. Jealousy in a healthy way motivates others to do good or better their condition although excessive jealousy is destructive. But I have a problem with people trying to make others feel jealous for them when the emotion is on a healthy level. I'm sure many ain't like that but some probably will try to make you jealous which I feel is a no-brainer. There are indeed people happy for others success. Not everyone is after your money or your look-alike Julia Roberts and only love your company; example hanging out etc. They just have to accept it. And chill.
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@josie_ (10032)
• Philippines
10 Jul 18
You make a good point about jealousy being brought about by the intrigues of others. These people usually have devious reasons. It could be they want to cause a rift in a relationship. While those who flaunt their newly acquired things in your face have some insecurity issues.
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@ihasaquestion (8275)
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10 Jul 18
@josie_ You are right. It's quite a sad situation, but that's life unfortunately.
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@MommyOfEli2013 (84430)
• Rupert, Idaho
13 Oct 18
I guess for me it depends on what the jealousy is about and how jealous I get. I try not to get jealous in the first place....but as a human it is hard sometimes!
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@MommyOfEli2013 (84430)
• Rupert, Idaho
13 Oct 18
@josie_ Yes for sure...like I get jealous sometimes of those who do really good at earning online or can sale their artwork. I do my best to get over it and just work harder.
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@snowy22315 (183464)
• United States
9 Jul 18
Some people that seem to have it better than we do..generally deserve it..and if they don't we really don't know their reality.
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@andriaperry (117456)
• Anniston, Alabama
9 Jul 18
Stuff is stuff. Good looks fade. Health is what its all about!
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@Deajae72 (723)
• United States
9 Jul 18
When I was younger, maybe? I think it is natural human nature. However, as I get older, I realized and treasure the value of what I have in front of me. I may not have the most luxurious car, at least it can take me anywhere.
I may not have a beautiful mansion, what's important is I have a roof over my head; I have a place to keep me safe and a clean bed to relax on.
I did not belong to a wealthy family. There were times when my father would miss a meal just for me and mom to have something to eat. That taught me a lot lessons in life. You want something? Aim for it. Work hard for it without walking over someone. do beautiful things and in an acceptable way.
That's what I learned from my parents.
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