Secrets...

India
July 16, 2018 5:44am CST
I have a friend who keeps secrets from his wife and she goes mad over him because of this reason. This thing also make her suspicion sometimes. Do you keep secrets from your spouse?
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
16 Jul 18
It depends on the secret ..if it related to past and effects the relationship .then it should not be shared..it ruins both happiness..if the couple have understanding between them then he should share.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
16 Jul 18
I agree. If it is a secret that would ruin the relationship then it's better to stay a secret forever.
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• India
17 Jul 18
Yeah.. Past stories that can ruin relationships must remain unshared.
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
17 Jul 18
@SIMPLYD yes,dear friend
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@chavezrmc (6095)
• Philippines
16 Jul 18
It depends on the secret. If it doesn't concerned him and he will only worry then I better not. It is still depending on the matter if it needs to be told to hubby.
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• India
17 Jul 18
I agree. Here secrets are a bit disturbing to the friend.
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@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
16 Jul 18
I would be telling a lie if I say yes! I know it is impossible for any one to share everything with one's spouse! There are always some or other moments in one's life which one never wants to share with any one! I think it ia very natural! There is no point in spoiling the lives in the nae of sharing sectrets with spouse! Skeletons are good when they remain buried only! Thanks!
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@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
17 Jul 18
@anamika161088 , Then I would like to use the term 'Cheating' instead of keeping a secret!
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• India
17 Jul 18
I agree. Past secrets are better to be secrets. But doing things in present which you know is not acceptable at all by spouse and then hiding it, and when the spouse smells something wrong going on then you try to hide it by saying lies would only make the situation worse I guess.
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• India
18 Jul 18
@AKRao24 Yes. He was being secretive because he know that he is cheating and this would never be accepted..
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
16 Jul 18
I don't think it is a wise thing to do. Can you think of a good reason fro keeping secrets?
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
17 Jul 18
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• India
17 Jul 18
I think it's fine to be secretive if it has nothing to do with others. But if it's affecting others life badly then you must not do things which you need to keep secret.
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@rakski (123793)
• Philippines
16 Jul 18
as much as I can no. It will drop like a bomb to your relationship if you do that.
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• India
17 Jul 18
Exactly. It increases the suspicion and makes the person skeptical
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@rakski (123793)
• Philippines
17 Jul 18
@anamika161088 true. there will be some trust issues and it will be hard
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• India
18 Jul 18
@rakski Exactly! Once trust gone is hard to gain again..
@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
16 Jul 18
If I have spouse, I will definitely share everything with him
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• India
17 Jul 18
Nice to know dear..
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
17 Jul 18
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
16 Jul 18
There are things that I have always kept only to myself but it hasn't harmed anybody. Everybody has a secret and it should be respected. But if that secret is something that affects others, then it's a harmful one.
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• India
17 Jul 18
I totally agree with you.. Privacy must be respected but to an extent which is not harming others.
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@deba12 (2946)
• India
16 Jul 18
I don't have spouse. But, if I had, I would like to share everything with him.
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• India
17 Jul 18
That's nice to know..
• Baguio, Philippines
16 Jul 18
Sometimes honesty hurts the relationship. It may be hard but before doing something, we try to fast forward and if it makes us liars to our spouse, its better not to do that something. At the end of the day, you will still the honest spouse.
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• India
17 Jul 18
True.. And it's always better to say everything in front of your spouse before someone other comes and narrate the story. In latter case, situation becomes more worse..