How Many Friends Do You Have?

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Okay first let me say I don't mean myLot friends. I mean actual friends. How many people do you have that you count as true friends, people you can count on, confide in, console, etc. For me, people are basically sorted into 4 circles, each larger than the last. Circle #1: Close friends that are almost like family, those I can trust, confide in, talk to about anything, be there for and are there for me, would do anything for. This group is quite small, but extremely close. I do not trust anyone easily largely due to a number of things that have happened in my childhood and young adult life, so the few that make it into this circle are treasured like no other. These people would probably say that I am also one of their closest friends and they trust me with their lives, as I do them. Circle #2: More than just an acquaintance, but not a close, trusted friend. People I'll hang out with, talk to about things in a more limited capacity, want to get to know better but still keep at arm's length, or have reason to regard with caution, but still like. These are people I'll try to help if I can, enjoy spending time with, but usually don't see often, and wouldn't tell my deepest darkest secrets to or trust with my life. Circle #3: Acquaintances. I will talk to these people, see them on occasion, but don't really know them enough to trust them or not. I'll be friendly, but cautious, and I wouldn't bend over backwards for these people as I would for a friend. Circle #4: Strangers. Okay, this one isn't as self explanatory as you might think. Of course it includes people I don't know at all, as with anyone, but it also includes people who have done something to lose my trust, cause me to dislike them, or cause me to question if I ever really knew them to begin with. I have some former friends in this group, ones who have done something so drastic that they have lost their former status, ones who have done something so aggregious that I can almost trust a true stranger more. So in circle one I can probably count the number of people on my hands. Circle two is larger, but might include my hands and feet, maybe a little more but not much. Circle 3 is considerably larger. I have a lot of people that I am aware of and talk to from time to time, but don't really know much about, and circle 4 of course includes the rest. I'm also not including people I've never met in circle 4, as that goes without saying. Circle 4 is just people who've either lost their status or that I've only met once or twice and haven't gotten to know well enough to raise them to a higher circle. In that case I'd say circles 3 and 4 are near the same size. Okay so I know that sounds pretty complicated, and I don't typically group my friends like that in my mind, that is to say I don't say Friend one is in circle 2, friend 2 is in circle 3, friend 3 is in circle 1, etc, but that is just an illustration of how they fall anyway. So how many truly close friends do you have, ones you would put into my Circle 1? If you want to elaborate and say how you'd class them or what it takes to fit into each category, go for it.