No Date Night!
By Shellyann36
@Shellyann36 (11384)
United States
August 7, 2018 11:27am CST
Well everyone, I bragged about the date night that hubby and I were supposed to have and it did not happen. Instead, we ended up arguing all weekend long. I don't know why I expected to have a nice evening out. It never happens that way. His cousin ended up coming up with an excuse not to take us. Now, I don't know if his excuse was valid. He is a sketchy person to me and as soon as hubby said he had offered to take us out to eat I was very doubtful but I kept it to myself. Friday rolls around and hubby has not called cousin to confirm that we are still on. Saturday morning hubby starts asking me if I had called to confirm with the babysitter. I had not and told him to call her because he had been the one to make the plans. He finally calls and finds out that she is at work! He got frantic about that. We finally got in touch with her and she was to be off and at our house at the appointed time. I asked him if he had called his cousin to confirm once more. No, he had not. I kept pressing the issue, which I am glad I did. He finally called the cousin and cousin cancelled. Said he had gone to the ER for some reason or another and couldn't take us. I really doubt this but again, I did not press that issue.
I tried to convince hubby to lets just go to the cheap $3 movie and see something but he was upset and refused. He ended up calling the sitter and cancelling. I hope she did not resechedule her shift to accomadate us but I am sure she did.
The rest of the weekend he was in a rotten mood and it seems we argued on everything under the sun and then some. 
I hate it when that happens. It always seems to happen when one of his relatives promises him something and then does not come through on it. Which, quite frankly, is far too often. I really don't like his cousin and I hope he does not "offer" us another night out. I think I will pass if he does and tell hubby to go and enjoy.15 people like this
14 responses
@amitkokiladitya (171927)
• Agra, India
7 Aug 18
Do not let any third person spoil your precious moments
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@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
8 Aug 18
@amitkokiladitya I tried not to but I am afraid that hubby didn't get that memo.
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@amitkokiladitya (171927)
• Agra, India
8 Aug 18
@Shellyann36 try to stay calm. Keep things clear with your husband
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@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
10 Aug 18
@amitkokiladitya Oh yes, I stayed calm and let him simmer down.
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@Courtlynn (67083)
• United States
9 Aug 18
Soo sorry your date night didn't work out. I hope it does next time!
I get being angry and all, but still could've went out.. it seems.
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@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
10 Aug 18
@Courtlynn He did not want to spend the money. Although paying the babysitter was probably going to cost at least $40 because we would have traveled an hour to get to where his cousin lives and to get back home and then count 2 hours to be on the date itself. So going to a cheap movie closer to home would have probably been cheaper by about $10 but he was in a bad mood by that time.
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@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
13 Aug 18
@Courtlynn Oh yes, if we had gone out he would have been in such a mood it would have been a horrible evening. Dealing with his attitude at home is one thing, I let him go to his man cave and simmer down. Dealing with it out in public is not fun. He gets upset when his family does this to him.
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@Courtlynn (67083)
• United States
10 Aug 18
@Shellyann36 I mean I get it.. but don't.. you know?
fingers crossed you go out another time soon.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
7 Aug 18
thats so sad!
i hate it when other people cause fights for no reason. maybe you should just love hubby up and tell ask him if there is something else you could do together. 
use your feminine wiles 
i hate it when other people cause fights for no reason. maybe you should just love hubby up and tell ask him if there is something else you could do together. use your feminine wiles 1 person likes this
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
8 Aug 18
@Shellyann36 
i hope he don't beat you.
i hope he don't beat you.1 person likes this
@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
10 Aug 18
@bunnybon7 Oh no, he does like to argue though, so I just let him simmer down and try not to be confrontational because I don't mind arguing either.
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@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
8 Aug 18
@bunnybon7 When he gets in these moods I just try to steer clear and let him simmer down.
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@velvet53 (22534)
• Palisade, Colorado
12 Aug 18
It is terrible how family can do this to other family members. It is seems to also put you and hubby in a bad spot, especially hubby getting upset. He needs to think about his side of the family is causing problems between you two. Then he needs be be strong enough to tell them to jump in a lake or something similar.
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@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
13 Aug 18
@velvet53 He is still often stuck in this boyhood awe of his older cousin. Sometimes he gets it and it does not affect his mood but other times it just sets him off.
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@velvet53 (22534)
• Palisade, Colorado
14 Aug 18
@Shellyann36 He needs to get over being in awe of his cousin. Is he working now?
@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
10 Aug 18
@bagarad Thanks I am glad that this past weekend was ok. Hubby got over things. It hurts his feelings when this happens and he gets mad instead of getting sad.
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@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
11 Aug 18
@bagarad Sometimes. This happens when his family disappoints him and I know what the real issue is. In the past, I would have let his attitude upset me and argued with him about every little thing he wanted to argue about but that gets my blood pressure up. We did end up arguing a few times but several of them I totally avoided by not allowing myself to get angry when he complained about something.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
11 Aug 18
@Shellyann36 Men are funny sometimes. I was just talking to a friend about that the other night. Sometimes we wives feel like we are walking on eggshells.
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@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
10 Aug 18
@LadyDuck he was in a bad mood at the time. We would have just argued and most certainly would not have had fun.
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@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
11 Aug 18
@LadyDuck Its ok. His feelings were hurt and he does not express that well. It comes out in anger.
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@GardenGerty (160717)
• United States
8 Aug 18
I think I would steer clear of that cousin in the future. You know, I had plans a few weeks back with an old friend and she cancelled because she was sick. Not a really close friend, and when I did not hear back but saw her Facebook posts since then I was having my doubts. We have set up another time and we shall see what comes up next. I hate not being able to feel I trust someone.
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@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
10 Aug 18
@GardenGerty In a way, I am glad it worked out the way it did. Looking at it, we didn't really need to spend the money on a babysitter, to begin with. I don't really like his cousin and I really didn't want to spend any amount of time with him. Other than hubby getting his feelings hurt and being hard to live with for a couple of days it turned out the right way.
As far as your friend, now you know what to look for. Perhaps she was really sick. If she does not come through this time, no more plans with her. I dislike my schedule being disrupted and when a person makes plans with me I rearrange my schedule to accommodate those plans, if that person does not follow through with the plans then they are wasting my time. Time is something we don't get back.
@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
8 Aug 18
@AmbiePay I too, think the same thing. He loves his cousin to a fault. The cousin is older and Keith has looked up to him all of his life.
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@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
8 Aug 18
@shaggin thank you. It was an experience that I don't want to relive. His cousin really upset him. Of course, he took it out on me.
@Juliaacv (51040)
• Canada
7 Aug 18
That's a shame, and I'm sorry that things turned out to be disappointing.
Could you plan a date night right at home?
That way you would be able to keep your children there and enjoy each other's company without having to rely on anyone else. And it might be a lot of fun.
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@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
8 Aug 18
@Juliaacv We have movie nights at least a few times a month. We were just looking forward to getting out of the house and adult company.
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@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
8 Aug 18
@DianneN We will be alright. It happens, but lesson learned.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
8 Aug 18
oh wow. yes if we expect something because of a promise of one, we will get disappointed when the promise is not fulfilled.
maybe the cousin has a valid reason, but other than that, i hope you and your husband will be okay now
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@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
10 Aug 18
@ridingbet After a few days, he calmed down. It hurt his feelings that his cousin would cancel like that.
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@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
10 Aug 18
@Courage7 it is ok, everything happens for a reason. We didn't need to spend that money to pay for a sitter anyway.
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