Are you more of a spoiler or a disciplinarian?
@moichan (666)
Philippines
August 14, 2018 3:26am CST
I was spoiled by my gramps, he was my superhero. He would let me know how much he loves me by taking me where he'd go.
My parents were disciplinarian because they wanted me to set a good example since I'm the eldest. It was hard but I thank them.
These made me know that there should always be a balance. When you tend to spoil people, they'll take advantage of you. When you're too strict, they will feel trapped.
Now I'm a parent, I'm still learning how to balance it since he's still a baby. Please pray for my poor soul because he keeps on making my heart too happy, I might fall for it when he learns to ask things.
Which one did you grew up in and how did it affect you now?
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i think i grew up quite well though.. knowing when to restrict myself but also splurging from time to time
@Letranknight2015 (51969)
• Philippines
14 Aug 18
My mom were always the disciplinarian, and I'm happy that was like that.
If only I had learned to appreciate more.
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@buenavida (9984)
• Sweden
14 Aug 18
I have no children, but my parents were loving and caring and one of my friends - she has two children - has "adopted" me as grandmom for them.. 
I have seen a lot of good advice for parents and children and teenagers on the jw.org site - so why not check if you find some useful ideas there
I have seen a lot of good advice for parents and children and teenagers on the jw.org site - so why not check if you find some useful ideas there1 person likes this
@buenavida (9984)
• Sweden
15 Aug 18
@moichan The best advice we can get is from the one who created us. I hope you continue to study the Bible and jw.org helps a lot. You can find a place on the site where you can ask for a Bible study at home - you can decide the time and place and someone will visit you and tell about how it works
Learn more about the Bible. Request a free Bible study in your language, at a time and place convenient for you.
@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
14 Aug 18
My parents stressed obedience and hard work because that's how they were raised. I tried to be a bit more balanced while showing a bit more love and affection and not just stressing obedience and work.
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@kprofgames (3091)
• United States
15 Aug 18
You are right when you say there is a balance there. I always tried to show reason. More of a cause and effect situations to make my children responsible for their own actions.
You have to pick your battles though. It's hard. No one child comes with a manual so we make our mistakes along the way just as they do. I think making them realize you are their parent, but human too helps them too.
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