The Block's Mother and Alzheimer's Disease....

@theBlock (2657)
United States
August 19, 2018 10:44am CST
When my mother, who had Alzheimer's, didn't recognize me when I told her I was her son, I was heartbroken. But what hurt the most was that she became so disheartened and hard on herself for not recognizing her own son. I didn't want her to feel that way toward herself anymore. So when she asked again who I was, I simply said I was a "good friend." And that made her very happy.... Happy Birthday, Momma---miss and love you.... Aug. 19 (1925-2001)
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@caopaopao (12395)
• China
20 Aug 18
You are a thoughtful son.
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@caopaopao (12395)
• China
20 Aug 18
@theBlock (2657)
• United States
20 Aug 18
@caopaopao Thank you. My mother raised me to be thoughtful....
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@LadyDuck (472081)
• Switzerland
19 Aug 18
I know that it is a terrible disease, it steals your memories, your past, your life. You are a sweet son, you told her the right thing.
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@LadyDuck (472081)
• Switzerland
19 Aug 18
@theBlock It is so strange how the brain works. They can remember songs and very old facts, but they do not remember people and what they did the day before.
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@theBlock (2657)
• United States
19 Aug 18
@LadyDuck Sometimes I would tell her I was Elvis, and then I would play her an Elvis tune on the guitar---she was so elated and clapped ... and sang some of the words, which surprised me.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
19 Aug 18
Alzheimer is terrible! I liked the way you handled the situation so that your mother wouldn't be saddened.
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@theBlock (2657)
• United States
19 Aug 18
@1hopefulman Yes, it is. Hopefully, a cure is near....
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
19 Aug 18
@theBlock We hope!
@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
21 Aug 18
I watched my Granny struggle with this for years and I am afraid that my Mama is going to as well. I am glad you spared her feelings and told her you were a good friend. In actuality, you were a good friend that just happened to be her son as well. She is a beautiful woman. Is that a bit of Hawaiian heritage I am seeing?
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@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
31 Aug 18
@theBlock I guess instead of Hawaiian heritage I should have said Polynesian heritage. Sorry about that. You come from a very mysterious heritage from what I have read. Have you been to Tonga? How old was your mother when she got to the US? Have you ever thought about really diving into your ancestry? She is beautiful and made a great leap by being the first Tongan woman to become an American citizen. A great heritage you come from. She must have been very persistent to come to the US and start such a journey for herself and her family.
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@theBlock (2657)
• United States
31 Aug 18
@Shellyann36 I'm so sorry your loved ones had and are going through this----it's rough on all involved. I'm sure your mother is surrounded by "good friends," too. My mother is Tongan. Actually, she was the first Tongan woman to become an American citizen. She was very honored by that. Me, too....
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@theBlock (2657)
• United States
6 Sep 18
@Shellyann36 My mother came to the U.S. in the late 40's and married an American, Jack Roberts. She was 20-something. I have taken a small dip into my ancestry---on my father side. I think I posted it. I've never been to Tonga, but I'm going sometime next year.
@DianneN (247186)
• United States
22 Aug 18
What a horrible disease, and I'm so sorry. You did the right thing by your mother.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
24 Aug 18
@theBlock I hope so, too.
@theBlock (2657)
• United States
22 Aug 18
@DianneN Yes, it's such a horrible disease. I wish a cure will come very soon.
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19 Aug 18
Let me give you a hug.
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@theBlock (2657)
• United States
20 Aug 18
@Friendlypink Thanks so much....
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@GardenGerty (160949)
• United States
4 Nov 18
I am so sorry, but you were wise not to make her feel badly. My dad had a few weeks recently where he 1. Did not recognize me. 2. Got me confused with my older half sister, who is not his daughter. 3. Kept calling his current wife my "mama", when she is not. Love her to bits but she is not my mama. Alzheimer's is rough.
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@theBlock (2657)
• United States
4 Nov 18
@GardenGerty So sorry about your dad. Unfortunately, it's just gonna get worse---it's not his fault for anything he may say to make you feel bad. I wish you both much love and peace.
@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
19 Aug 18
what a great solution you thought of. how old is she now?
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@theBlock (2657)
• United States
19 Aug 18
@hereandthere She passed away in 2011. But since it was her Birthday, I just wanted to share a memory of her.
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
20 Aug 18
It is so sad seeing a loved one, a mother, losing her memory. She needs more understanding; so good you know how to do it. Happy birthday to her!
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@theBlock (2657)
• United States
21 Aug 18
@acelawrites Thanks so much