Do you think is it necessary to be married to live here?
@divyamanojkumar (257)
Kochi, India
August 23, 2018 5:26am CST
I were sticking on not to get married before years.My parents and my wellwishers advised me again and again on the fact and at last I had changed my decision.Now I am regretting because I doubt I made a wrong choice.
Friends..what do you think on the subject?
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@arunima25 (87855)
• Bangalore, India
23 Aug 18
One should not marry till one is mentally and emotionally ready for it.
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@arunima25 (87855)
• Bangalore, India
23 Aug 18
@divyamanojkumar There are social norms but they are never above life. One has to live their live with full conviction. As long as you do not harm others in society, it is good to live with your terms.
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@divyamanojkumar (257)
• Kochi, India
23 Aug 18
@arunima25 I don't prefer to cross social norms...my friend.
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@divyamanojkumar (257)
• Kochi, India
24 Aug 18
I am married and now I am regretting on it my friend.
@Janet357 (75646)
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26 Aug 18
@divyamanojkumar sometimes you feel that. I used to feel that way, but then my husband and we fixed our differences. Now, we are happy.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
23 Aug 18
There is no point on regretting at present. It would be better if you could stick with your decision 'not to get marry'. However, I understand the pressure on a person, whether it is boy or girl, all wanted to push the person into the blissful life. Those who are lucky may get an apt life. Others may need to compromise a lot for carry forward the marriage life.
Just sit and think, what went wrong. If changes requires then do it in a positive way. Please remember. changing another person is not easy (impossible infact) instead try to change your attitude, accept what you have and try to be contented with the same. There will be a ray of hope for you
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
24 Aug 18
@divyamanojkumar
If you are a believer of God and Hindusim try to listen the speeches on Bhagavatham, especially its reading by Swami Udit Chaitanya. His videos are available in YouTube. It will help you to motivate. Do only this thing if you believe, otherwise no use.
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@divyamanojkumar (257)
• Kochi, India
24 Aug 18
@Sreekala yes.I am .I will defenitely try this.
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@divyamanojkumar (257)
• Kochi, India
23 Aug 18
Thanks a lot my friend...I will try to do it.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
24 Aug 18
You can always change your mind always.
When you meet the person you find that you love you won´t have any doubts then at all.
All best wishes for you.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
24 Aug 18
@divyamanojkumar
Good luck and have a great day ahead.
@bharat_redgage (28)
• Delhi, India
23 Aug 18
There are times when we regret making a decision and there are times when we regret not making a decision, and marriage is something that fits into the criteria. There are pros and cons of being single and as well as being married. If you regret the decision of getting married, then it's better to sit down calmly and think about what are the options and what can be done. Your decision should not come solely from your heart, and your brain should participate in your decision equally. As always, there are always a lot of direct and indirect factors that will influence your decision like your lifestyle, your financial status, your education status, job profile, kids, society, parents and the so-called relatives.
In my opinion, it is better to do your best to save your marriage as long as it makes sense. there's no point in saving the so-called marriage if all it gives you the pain of getting stabbed by thousand swords a night.
In that situation, it is better to move on. Now, the hardest part is knowing what to do and when.
Have a nice day!
@divyamanojkumar (257)
• Kochi, India
23 Aug 18
Thanks a lot my friend...I am also thinking what to do.Have a great day for you too
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@simplfred (20641)
• Philippines
23 Aug 18
The question is why? When we marry one person, we must think a lot of times first.
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@IncredKaren (275)
• Philippines
23 Aug 18
@divyamanojkumar I'm sorry but I strongly disagree to this. If you don't mind me asking, how old were you when you got married? Most of the people around us will say that when you hit 25 years old, you should already be married. But I strongly believe that age doesn't really have to be the main factor for getting married. Instead, it's if you are mentally, psychologically, financially, and spiritually ready. It's so much easy to look just go with what others say, maybe because we sometimes consider their opinion much more than what we really want.
Anyhow, since you are already married, I believe it's more appropriate to think of what you should do to protect and prosper your marriage. ^_^
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@simplfred (20641)
• Philippines
23 Aug 18
@divyamanojkumar Yes, we have to listen but we have the right to not follow especially if the one that is on the line is for our future sake.
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@divyamanojkumar (257)
• Kochi, India
23 Aug 18
That is right.but at times we have to listen others also
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@anya12adwi (9816)
• India
24 Aug 18
Are you married and not happy??? You should only marry when you are ready mentally.. And a minimum of 1 year of courtship should be allowed..
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