When do you know you are ready for kids?
@avagava21 (59)
Kingston, Jamaica
August 26, 2018 8:09pm CST
Have you ever been in a relationship where you and your spouse do not see eye to eye. Have you ever been in a situation where your spouse is ready for kids but you want to wait? It is wrong to want to have your own place and a steady job before kids or should you watch your biological clock? I want to hear your thoughts? Should you end the relationship or compromise? What if your spouse says the only way they will consider marriage is if you have a baby for them?
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@marguicha (222974)
• Chile
27 Aug 18
Things have changed since I had my children. And anyway, even now, it depends on each couple.
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@avagava21 (59)
• Kingston, Jamaica
27 Aug 18
Should you give up on the relationship if he isn't willing to commit?
@sathviksouvik (19469)
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18 Jan 19
I think if a person is financially sound then he or she can take decision on begetting children.
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
28 Aug 18
It is good to keep your biological clock as part and parcel in considering your readiness to have a baby. The older you go the more difficult it is to have a baby and most if not all gets complications already when they go pregnant in later years. It is also good to consider the financial capability of the couple if they can afford the cost of having a baby from their conception to having them grow as adults.
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
28 Aug 18
You are the only one who can answer for yourself whether you are ready or not. Having children entails a lot of responsibility.
@anya12adwi (9360)
• India
27 Aug 18
Am not in relationship, not married not having job.. So, I can't have babies and not even dog..
@moichan (666)
• Philippines
28 Aug 18
My OB GYne told me that it's the best time to get pregnant before you reach 28 yo. I paid the price for being exactly 28, my body is not that strong anymore to deliver the baby in NSD. I ended up in an emergency CS section which is really expensive and my baby fought for his life. We stayed in the hospital for a week.
Financially speaking, your partner should be able to help you because its not that easy to conceive up to the delivery of the baby. He should take care of you when the worse comes to worse.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
27 Aug 18
If you don't want a child you should not have one! But I will tell you there is never a perfect time to have a little one. If you wait for the "perfect time" you will never have a child. Even if you have a job-that is not a definite forever and you could lose it for any reason.
When you want a child and you feel emotionally ready to put that little one above yourself in all circumstances--then you are ready.
@Freelanzer (10743)
• Canada
27 Aug 18
At least they are being honest and then I would make the decision whether I want to be with that person or not. I was never in such a situation though. I just got married and the kids came so I guess we are both on the same page.
