Would you go with your friend, acquaintance or relative in a party or celebration that you are not invited?

@ZedSmart (19787)
Philippines
September 1, 2018 6:18am CST
Attending birthday parties, wedding and other celebration are common to us. Depending on the occasion, if we are invited we’re always ready to accept or refuse the invitation. I refuse to attend when the schedule is contradicting with my other activities . There are just instances that our friends, acquaintances or relatives want us to accompany them from their invitation even if you are not invited. In this case, I am reluctant to attend to such event. I feel shy to be there even if I know the person celebrating or having a party but did not invite me personally. The more I never attend if I do not know the person celebrating, because I’m just a stranger there. This except maybe if it’s a public gathering and anybody is permitted to attend.
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@LadyDuck (471541)
• Switzerland
2 Sep 18
I never attend if I have other engagements or if I do not know the person who is celebrating.
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@LadyDuck (471541)
• Switzerland
2 Sep 18
@ZedSmart I immediately let people know when I do not participate.
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@ZedSmart (19787)
• Philippines
2 Sep 18
That's right. I'll informed the person immediately if I would not be able to attend if I was invited. I would hesitate and never go especially I do not know the people having the party.
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@tammys85 (30066)
• Baltimore, Maryland
2 Sep 18
If the person is allowed to bring a guest, I may go if it's okay with everyone, but this depends on the person and event. I don't really care to attend events where I rarely know anyone because I'm shy. Now, if I wasn't invited and it wasn't a "bring a guest" thing - no, I won't go.
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@tammys85 (30066)
• Baltimore, Maryland
4 Sep 18
@ZedSmart I guess some people feel those who are invited would feel comfortable bringing a guest. But if they'd prefer their invites to not bring a guest, I wouldn't tag along lol. Otherwise, for me it'd depend on who it is and how many people I may know at the party, but that's because I'm shy around people I don't know.
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@ZedSmart (19787)
• Philippines
2 Sep 18
You are right. Most people that I know used to bring guest with them which I found very uncomfortable especially if you do not really know the person having the party.
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@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
1 Sep 18
Maybe not. I am shy
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@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
2 Sep 18
@ZedSmart If the person likes you to be there, she/he could have invited you personally.
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@ZedSmart (19787)
• Philippines
2 Sep 18
Yes, if we have that attitude, it's likely very difficult for us to be convinced.
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• Agra, India
1 Sep 18
Usually I avoid going. I never prefer being an uninvited guest
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• Agra, India
2 Sep 18
@ZedSmart very true. This is the reason why I never opt for this
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@ZedSmart (19787)
• Philippines
2 Sep 18
You are right. We'll never know if our presence is welcome. It would be an embarrassing situation in our part.
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@arunima25 (87806)
• Bangalore, India
1 Sep 18
I don't go until I am personally invited.
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@ZedSmart (19787)
• Philippines
2 Sep 18
I believe too that it's proper if we are attending with the invitation. I remember one time that I was invited by my former workmate wedding. I already tell the person that I could not make to the ceremony because of the time constraint. The person told me that I should make at the reception. I was a bit late to arrive in the reception area and they're already starting their dinner. There was no usher in the entrance so I just walk in and I sensed that plenty of eyes were looking especially those who do not know me. So I laid my gift to the gift table and hold my invitation card, that's the only time the usher stood up and entertained me.
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@arunima25 (87806)
• Bangalore, India
3 Sep 18
@ZedSmart you are welcomed if you are invited.
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• Philippines
1 Sep 18
Likewise. I feel shy too. That is why I don't like attending a party/celebration that I am not personally invited to. I don't want to give them an impression that I am a gatecrasher or something.
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@ZedSmart (19787)
• Philippines
2 Sep 18
If the inviter is a friend or an acquaintance, I'll tell the invited person to ask for permission if it is OK to bring a company.
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
1 Sep 18
i don't think i will go to a party if I am not invited by the one throwing the party themselves. if i am to go with a friend or a family member i think that would be just because i am a plus one and that meant it is quite necessary for my friend or partner or family member to be there.
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@ZedSmart (19787)
• Philippines
2 Sep 18
This is true especially if there's a limit on the invited guests.
@marguicha (223028)
• Chile
1 Sep 18
I never go anywhere where I´m not invited, not even to my daughter´s house.
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@ZedSmart (19787)
• Philippines
2 Sep 18
I simply think that it's improper too even if the one celebrating is a friend, relative, acquaintance or as what you've said with your own daughter.
@YrNemo (20255)
1 Sep 18
I was forced to attend such a party once. Very embarrassing for me since the people there were not really people whom I would call my friends in a hurry.
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@ZedSmart (19787)
• Philippines
2 Sep 18
I understand the feeling. That's why I don't like to go such events if I was not directly invited.
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@amimar (51)
1 Sep 18
I once accompany my brother to such kind of party but I really feel embarrass though no one knows am not invited and I promise my self not to go any occasion without invitation
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@ZedSmart (19787)
• Philippines
1 Sep 18
Yes, you are right. Even if the other guests did not know that you are not invited but the celebrant or organizer of the celebration knows. It's an awkward situation.
@iniaku (2157)
• Indonesia
1 Sep 18
i think accompany your friend is a good things. just ignore people think and enjoy the party
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@ZedSmart (19787)
• Philippines
2 Sep 18
It's hard to ignore if some eyes are on you. And I think it's not a good signal. I won't even introduce myself because in the first place, I was not invited.
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