parenting

Being a mom to any young child is hard enough but to have 3 young children has to be very hectic. I had two children less than 2 years apart. Of course it gets hectic even with just one sometimes but you will get through it.

As much as we love our children and cherish the time we spend with them, I think most if not all mums feel overwhelmed by motherhood at times. I'm pretty sure there are very few mums, if any, who haven't thought they're not doing a good job. But you are doing a good job. As for the looks, the make-up, nails, getting your hair done, etc. I don't understand all that. I didn't do any of that before I had kids and I don't do it now my children are growing up! With 3 young children, you're bound to be exhausted but if you're happy, they'll be happy. As long as they are clean (or at least start the day clean!) and fed and have your attention in a positive way then you are good enough. Yours sincerely, Mum of two teenage boys!

my wife is at home with two kids. they often make messy home

Yes. Everyday. That is why at the end of the day before going to sleep I always ask my kids what they like and don't like for today. And what I can do to make it fun and memorable for them. The next day.

Understandable, I do not have children, but just imagine how stress should be and I get tired.

I feel how frustrated you are and I am sorry that you are in a situation like this. Don't ever tell yourself that you haven't done what is bets for your 3 kids. Please remember this, as was also told to me. DO NOT EVER TELL YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE NOT A GOOD MOM. You are the best they could ever have. These are still kids and they are in that stage that they will not really listen, because perhaps they also need attention from dad who most often times is at work. I hope your husband can extend his time every time he gets home. it's just a matter of time management. Wives of working husband thinks and feels that husbands are doing so much more than them, that's wrong. You and your husband are both working and you are doing much more. You cook, you clean, you attend to your kids, you attend to him (his breakfast, his dinner), you also go grocery shopping, you budget. With all these things I said, that is why you have been having crying spells and you shout at your kids out of frustrations. I wish you can ask your husband if he can also spend some time with your 3 kids, they need his attention too and disciplining as well. He should tell the 3 kids that they should be good children to you when he is out working. About your hair or your overall image now. What if (just a suggestion) at night when husband is already home, take a shower and fix your hair. What if, you can also have a short stylish hair, the wash and wear thingy. Have your 4 year old and 2 year old child help you with light household chores, this is how I brought up my 1st & last daughter, now she is 14 and making sushi for me, which she learned because I taught her simple recipes while she was growing up. Anyways... these are all suggestion, also talking from experience like Nancy Zink :-) Good Luck. Remember, you are good Mom and you are doing the best that you can. Please talk to your husband that the children needs his attention and discipline too.

Omg .I have a tough time handling one 4 year old and you are taking care of 3. I'm proud of you

It's hard to be a parent.

i understand, i dont have a child but working at home plus my domestic chores ahh i sometimes forget to comb my hair.