Parenting a teenage middle school young girl
By RosieS
@proseprity68 (331)
United States
September 11, 2018 12:32pm CST
It has been 3 years that my daughter is home schooled, because she was bullied at a public school where we are right now.
She has dealt with the very bad death of her good friend, 2 years now. It still breaks her heart, of course.
I feel that I am not a good mother, at all based on how she has been treating lately.
She is very unforgiving. She expects that I should not make a mistake, never forget things. It's now 3 days that she doesn't come out of her room to spend time with me, like the past few days.
It breaks my heart.
It makes me anxious because she is lagging behind with her lessons now.
The simple mistake (perhaps for an adult) was, I didn't wake her up 2x for her dental appointment. I woke her up 2 hours before her her appointment because that time I also had an appointment. She is now 14 years old.
Before we went for her dental appointment she was just really angry at me that she didn't talk to me, at all, didn't eat and just didn't come out of her room specially when I am at the living room.
I said sorry when we came in the house, but she hurried up going to her room :-(
I am so sorry this has become a novel :-(
My heart is just heavy
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@proseprity68 (331)
• United States
12 Sep 18
I don't know what to do anymore.
I feel like I would just like to go away, just so she will be happy, because I feel that my prescence annoys her now,now that she is a teenager.
it just makes me sad counting the times that are being wasted because of her attitude.
There is a 36 year gap between the two of us and this is what she is doing.
Tomorrow is not promised and so I really don't know what will come out of this situation.
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@LadyDuck (471456)
• Switzerland
13 Sep 18
@proseprity68 I am so sorry, I hope your daughter will understand that she is doing wrong. Your gap is important but you are not a too old mother, I think that this is not the problem. May be she has something she would like to tell you, but she does not dare, I do not know.
@marguicha (223128)
• Chile
11 Sep 18
What do people where you live do about bullies? What did you do with your child besides having her study at home? Are you her teacher? It is very hard to teach a child if she has issues with you.
@proseprity68 (331)
• United States
11 Sep 18
Unfortunately, my daughter back then, after I already got her out, was the only time she told me about her being bullied :-(
I wish she could have opened up.
I guess she was scared for me that I might get into fights with bigger people here. Mostly Natives.
As soon as I saw that she could have online friends which her school offers or those whom she could send mails back & forth. Bot she was not interested in and I guess that had to do with being bullied. She already thought that she will be bullied once again even through email or through regular mail.
I was her teacher when she 1st started but o the 2nd year of being home schooled, she showed me that she is independent enough and so I have not been her teacher.
it sure is very difficult to be her teacher specially now that she expects me to be perfect. She doesn't say that, but her actions shows it :-(
I reached out to her home room teacher and will be talking to the school's guidance counselor, perhaps this week, she will email me 1st then we get to talk.
