Should i break the friendship?

October 9, 2018 11:06am CST
A special friend of mine unexpectedly remembered my birthday a week ago. We've bee friends for almost 7 years and previous years, he always greets me late and not on my exact bday. I was not expecting a greeting as well because we had issues previous to this and had been in no contact for a long time. When October came in, he started to message and apologize for not keeping in contact due to problems which he said he'll just tell me later on. On the day of my birthday, he greeted and I was a bit cold. I asked why he knows. He just said he remembers. About 4 years ago, he told me he doesn't remember birthdays because of his upbringing in his family so i thought this time around he will forget it. Honestly, I was planning to use this excuse of him "forgetting" my birthday to break the friendship. Needless to say when he remembered and not because fb told him, I was touched but still could not forgive why he lost contact. So, I'm at a loss right now as to how to proceed.
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@Plethos (13581)
• United States
9 Oct 18
hes a guy, we guys dont remember things as well as females. i dont even remember my own birthday .
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@amadeo (111938)
• United States
9 Oct 18
Maybe he needed some time there?
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@m_audrey6788 (58472)
• Germany
9 Oct 18
Forgive and Forget as one of my favorite song saying "How can you forgive if you don`t remember"
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@Married33 (102)
• United States
10 Oct 18
Give him a chance to explain. Friends are hard to come by. When you find a good one don't let them go.
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• Pakistan
31 Mar 19
Not remembering your birthday is not a good excuse to let go of the friendship. There are things that can be ignored. The best thing is you guys have been friends for so long so you should find excuses to stay in touch not letting him go.
@Ladanger (14578)
• United States
9 Oct 18
Forgiveness is the best thing we can do as humans
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@LeaPea2417 (37379)
• Toccoa, Georgia
11 Oct 18
I would give him another chance at friendship.
@Hannihar (130213)
• Israel
14 Oct 18
@Phinyf27 I do not know what he did but it sounds like something very bad. It is up to you whether you want to forigive the person or not. Not up to anyone else. Do what you feel best.
• Philippines
10 Oct 18
I hope someday you’ll find it in your heart to forgive. Life is short. Try to let go of the grudges/bitterness.
@Moon24 (22396)
• Serbia
11 Oct 18
Forgive him. Do not stop this contact completely.
• United States
12 Oct 18
you should give him a chance to explain. take it from someone who jumped to conclusions in the past and ruined a few friendships :/ hear their side first, if you still feel negatively towards the situation then end it.
@Rosain (639)
• India
12 Oct 18
Just do whatever your heart says.. If you want to give him a second chance then go for it. And if you don't want him as your friend then don't reply. And if you don't know what to do then just go with the flow and just respond whenever he text you or call you, don't take any extra effort. Just let it be.
11 Oct 18
Give him one chance
11 Oct 18
Maybe you should talk to him/her and let the person explain his/her side. You should give the person a chance, everyone commits mistake. We must learn how to forgive and give a person chance to make it up to you.
@dya80dya (36774)
9 Oct 18
Forgive your friend.
@Courage7 (19633)
• United States
9 Oct 18
I think you may have an incline to forgive this friend. Unless he is seriously harming you mentally or physically it never hurts to have another friend in life. You may need him one day. And then be sorry you did not keep in touch. Just my thoughts on this.
• Philippines
10 Oct 18
, forgive and forget. The important thing is he is still there not forgetting about your existence.