is divorce is a good solution
By arora_nishu
@arora_nishu (28)
India
September 11, 2006 12:18am CST
when relations became worst b/w couples then is divorce is good solution then what about children
7 responses
@lauriefnp (5109)
• United States
16 Dec 06
I think that people today tend to resort to divorce too fast because it seems like an easy way out. Maybe the judges should mandate a certain period of couples counselling with a court-appointed counsellor before the divorce is final (assuming that there is no domestic violence; in that case the divorce should be granted immediately).
If a couple truly cannot resolve their differences and remain married, then they should be able to divorce. Of course this is hard on the children. But living in a home filled with fighting, tension, and sometimes hateful behaviour between parents is worse for the children. The best thing is for the couple to be sure that they are not using the children as "weapons" against each other and that the children are not involved in the couple's problems or fights and are not used to "spy" on the other parent. Let the children know that both parents love them and will be an important part of their lives, but that both parents cannot live together. Be sure to reinforce to the children that none of the fighting or the divorce is their fault.
@rajivkumar900 (9861)
• India
16 Dec 06
some time divorce is good solution . because the dipute between parents it affect the children .
@amiksinha (1960)
• India
11 Sep 06
I think so,,, this is the best solution otherwise everyday there will be clash, fight and this will be give very adverse effect on the child... much worse
@brandy1978 (299)
• United States
11 Sep 06
No one wants to get a divorce. It's going to be hard on the children either way if their together and miserable, the kids are going to see that. If they can get a divorce and still be their for their kids and show them they still love them and that none of this is their fault.
@jessycardy (684)
• Italy
12 Sep 06
Children will get hurt anyway if the couple stays together but keep fighting or just living an obviously unhappy life. Children are not stupid. So I think it doesn't matter to them wether you are married or not, I think they just want to feel comfy with their parents and loved by them. Divorce is a solution, and maybe little children won't understand that, but it's the best for them, and with time they'll get it. Adult children know when their parents just don't go well along and I think they'd rather see honesty from their parents, than just some sort of appearance.
@ssh123 (31073)
• India
11 Sep 06
It is not worth living together, like when the mirror is broken you cannot join it. Regarding children, if the kids are below 10 or 12 years, mother can bring them up and later she can ask man to take care. Sometimes the court awards compensation payable to wife for taking care of children.