Need some strategies for saying no to a neighbour who is always borrowing

@mayka123 (16604)
India
October 31, 2018 11:36am CST
I have a neighbor who is always at my doorstep to borrow something. Its quite annoying when I am in a hurry to go to work in the morning and she lands up to borrow something. Have tried telling her that I do not like the habit of both borrowing and lending but she does not seem to understand. How do I handle such people?
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Marlina
@marlina (154130)
• Canada
31 Oct 18
I guess you will have to use a firmer approach.
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@mayka123
@mayka123 (16604)
• India
3 Nov 18
I am trying that now.
DianneN
@DianneN (247184)
• United States
3 Nov 18
Neither a lender nor a borrower be. Perhaps you can tell her that.
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@mayka123
@mayka123 (16604)
• India
3 Nov 18
I have tried telling her that but she just does not seem to understand.
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@mayka123
@mayka123 (16604)
• India
25 Dec 18
@DianneN Yes it is a big problem. but luckily she has not come to my doorstep last few weeks. May be they have got the hint,
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DianneN
@DianneN (247184)
• United States
3 Nov 18
@mayka123 Sounds like you have a real problem on your hands. Sigh......
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Danna B.
@db20747 (43440)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
31 Oct 18
I know how U feel even though I am the borrower more often than not!! U can just tell her that U really don't have it to spare at this time!!!
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@mayka123
@mayka123 (16604)
• India
3 Nov 18
Its not only the borrowing but the timing that also upsets me. Very often when I am resting the afternoons on a holiday and when I am in a hurry to go to office in the mornings.
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@mayka123
@mayka123 (16604)
• India
4 Nov 18
@db20747 I have always turned down the requests for money even if it was for a small amount. Thought they will take the hint but guess they have not.
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Danna B.
@db20747 (43440)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
3 Nov 18
@mayka123 That's the "always at a convenient time neighbor!!!" My grandmother turned away my cousin this morning saying I'm busy and I don't have any money today!!! Maybe U could try something similar!!!!
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staplotick
@stapllotik (1933)
• India
25 Dec 18
Simple. If she ask for sugar, you ask something of higher value. Make it a habit of borrowing higher value stuff until she gets irritated like you.
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@mayka123
@mayka123 (16604)
• India
29 Dec 18
What do you ask from a person who is always saying that they dont have anything,
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@mayka123
@mayka123 (16604)
• India
6 Jan 19
@stapllotik I prefer just ignoring her!!!
staplotick
@stapllotik (1933)
• India
1 Jan 19
@mayka123 Find out what thing she has.
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Teaandcups
@sevenonine8 (125)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
1 Nov 18
Don't open the doors
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@mayka123
@mayka123 (16604)
• India
3 Nov 18
Sometimes I have tried telling her that I want to rest and so make her return from the door itself But since I am on the ground floor she peeps in through the window and asks me for things she wants.