does love have to be forced?
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@leny34 (8506)
Sidoarjo, Indonesia
November 8, 2018 11:33am CST
hi mylot friend,
today I got an e-mail from my friend who gave me the shirt gift,
it turns out that my guess is right, he really likes me,
and he revealed it via email,
he said that he loved me ...
but I am confused,
because I regard him as my best friend and no more, I consider him my own brother,
I have convinced him that I consider him my own brother, but he does not want him to continue to force me to love him,
in my opinion it's impossible because I don't love him,
so for now I'm confused about what I should do, so he can understand that I have considered him my own brother ...
does anyone want to give me an opinion what should I do?
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12 responses
@Freewings (399)
• Xian, China
10 Nov 18
Haha … as I guessed the day before yesterday, he liked you. But if you really don't love him, you need to tell him serious and firmly that you regard him as a good friend but not a lover. If he still don't give up, I think it's time to end your friendship because he don't know how to respect you.
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@Freewings (399)
• Xian, China
10 Nov 18
@leny34 Do you think there is any real friendship between you two?
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@leny34 (8506)
• Sidoarjo, Indonesia
10 Nov 18
@Freewings actually I really wanted to establish a real friendship with my friend but he destroyed it by loving me
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
8 Nov 18
I hope it's not the end of your friendship 
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
8 Nov 18
@leny34 a friend who suddenly decides that he or she wants to be more than friends but is rejected or turned down will most of the time avoid you, sorry but your friendship will never be the same again because he has already expressed and exposed his feelings and he got rejected. Let me know in a few days or weeks if what I said will happen or becomes true.
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@leny34 (8506)
• Sidoarjo, Indonesia
8 Nov 18
@louievill yes I will tell you in a few days, and I really can't accept it, he should understand that
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@Letranknight2015 (52171)
• Philippines
9 Nov 18
I hope and pray that he finds some one better rather than forcing himself with you.
There's a lot of women out there that he can love.
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@Letranknight2015 (52171)
• Philippines
9 Nov 18
@leny34 Sadly, with the face I have seen it's going to be very hard for him to find some one else.
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@leny34 (8506)
• Sidoarjo, Indonesia
9 Nov 18
@Letranknight2015 why would it be difficult to find someone else?
@SophiaMorros (5044)
• Belews Creek, North Carolina
8 Nov 18
There once was a guy who was "like a brother" that didn't last too long. I've been married to him for almost 28 years now.
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@SophiaMorros (5044)
• Belews Creek, North Carolina
8 Nov 18
@leny34 he was "just a friend" for a couple of years before it was anything more than that.
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@leny34 (8506)
• Sidoarjo, Indonesia
8 Nov 18
@SophiaMorros but I consider him as my older brother, it's impossible for me to love him, is there a way to convince him?
@leny34 (8506)
• Sidoarjo, Indonesia
10 Nov 18
@nawala123 yes I have made my own choice, not to love him
@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
8 Nov 18
No one can force you to love him. Feelings can't be dictated. If he really loves you, I'm sure he would continue to pursue you and maybe, in time, you'll learn to love him but for now, stand by your decision not to be his girlfriend.
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