Drinking problems
By dave
@dave121495 (1296)
Philippines
November 15, 2018 12:01am CST
Whenever my father get home drunk, I always think first of his health. His 59 years old, I’m trying to tell him about the effects of what is going to happen to him when he don’t stop drinking. Whenever he’s knees are aching, he takes colchicine. Probably, the aching is because of the uric acid crystal crystallizing in his synovial joint, that’s what causes the fiery sensation on his knees. I don’t get why he don’t stop, he knows the consequences but why can’t he stop? What am I going to advice? I’m out of words trying to simply persuade him to stop.
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@amitkokiladitya (171927)
• Agra, India
15 Nov 18
I can understand your problem. Some people would just not listen until they will realize it for themselves
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@dave121495 (1296)
• Philippines
15 Nov 18
Some people are far too late too realize until they suffer the consequences of their actions.
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@amitkokiladitya (171927)
• Agra, India
16 Nov 18
@dave121495 yes...I wanted to say this only but thought it might hurt you
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
15 Nov 18
Well I think that is already has an attachment to it already that is why it is hard for him to stay away from that. I think he is the only one who can decide to stop because I believe that the more you convince him out of it the more they will resist following you unless he comes to a point that he sees it as his addiction and decides to go away.
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@dave121495 (1296)
• Philippines
15 Nov 18
My father used to be a chain smoker since I was still in elementary after I graduated in elementary he stop doing it. My mother use to persuade him too stop. Now, the major problem is about his drinking problems, I wanted him too stop but he wont. I guess I can do that much but rant.
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@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
15 Nov 18
@dave121495 So he has a tendency to be addicted to something. I think he just gave up smoking to drinking now. I think it was not your mom who convinced him to stop smoking but himself. Addiction is something hard to remove from our system it is a conscious effort on the part of the addicted person to acknowledge it and decides on his own to stop it. Forcing him to stop may even get it worse. I say gentle persuasion may work at times or self realisation may provoke him to decide to stop.
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@dave121495 (1296)
• Philippines
15 Nov 18
@rsa101 I would try gentle persuation first and then ingrid's suggestion.Thanks really it helps.
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@allknowing (137553)
• India
15 Nov 18
Many have stopped drinking. He should seek help and counselling.
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@allknowing (137553)
• India
16 Nov 18
@dave121495 You or his friends could persuade him to join AA. Many have benefited from it
@allknowing (137553)
• India
16 Nov 18
@dave121495 Many hard core drunkards joined them and now they are helping others. Do not give up that easily. Sad that your father has no one who can persuade him to join. It is mostly friends that do that.
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@dave121495 (1296)
• Philippines
15 Nov 18
I think in this situation the only one could help is himself. I'm just only there to tell the situations and consequences to him.
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I am so sorry that you have to see this
@Courage7 (19633)
• United States
16 Nov 18
@dave121495 Remember I am on your side. God is good Dave.
@dave121495 (1296)
• Philippines
16 Nov 18
Thanks Courage, hope your prayers would reach to me.
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@yoalldudes (35037)
• Philippines
15 Nov 18
I feel sorry for your father. But drinking is a way of socializing in our country. Maybe he finds satisfaction in hanging out with friends this way. I know you are concerned as a good son.
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@dave121495 (1296)
• Philippines
15 Nov 18
Yup mostly his influence by his friends.
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@yoalldudes (35037)
• Philippines
16 Nov 18
@dave121495 I hope he does valuable things with these friends aside from drinking?
@yoalldudes (35037)
• Philippines
15 Nov 18
@TRBRocks420 It is part of being human : making choices. You had fun and is willing to take the effects.
@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
15 Nov 18
If he has a drinking problem, he may need some help as it is a difficult addiction to stop.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
16 Nov 18
@dave121495 If he can do it by himself, that is great. If he can't, then he should get some help.
@dave121495 (1296)
• Philippines
15 Nov 18
He just need help from himself i guess. He can do it.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
16 Nov 18
@dave121495 That's how it is. The same goes for smokers. Only they can decide for themselves when they want to kick the habit.
@dave121495 (1296)
• Philippines
15 Nov 18
Yuh, i guess i can't do that much at all.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
15 Nov 18
i believe you can say something 'horrible' to him, like the complications of the illness he has.
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@dave121495 (1296)
• Philippines
15 Nov 18
That's exactly what i was thinking but in the case of my father he is very hot tempered i might aggravate his aggressiveness. I'm thinking a way of saying horrible things in a way that it wouldn't compromise our relationship as a father and son.
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@ilocosboy (45156)
• Philippines
15 Nov 18
If only we can stop them but sometimes they are hard headed and they just continue what they feel they are happy.
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@ilocosboy (45156)
• Philippines
15 Nov 18
Well, maybe, that is our point of view, our parents got other idea about happiness.
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@dave121495 (1296)
• Philippines
15 Nov 18
Yup, but happiness ain't about being drunk and getting yourself sick. I guess really i can't do that much.
@dave121495 (1296)
• Philippines
15 Nov 18
yup i guess it's better if i'm the one suffering from it.
