Is Family Enough?
By Arya
@yoalldudes (35037)
Philippines
November 18, 2018 3:17am CST
Once I reached adulthood, I noticed I only have my family to go out with. My hubby, me and our daughter. And at certain occasions my mother, my stepdad, my brother and his wife, my 2 nieces, 13 and 5 years old and my nephew 5 months old.
When we are all together, it is a party. We share stories, laughter, food.
I don't have a social circle. It is convenient because I have all the time to myself. But it also gets lonely.
I have company at work but mainly they are office activities like coastal clean up, official business and stuff.
What do you think?
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
19 Nov 18
Well, that's okay, because at least you have your family to make you happy and fill your social life.
Those social activities with your officemates is also a good source of happiness. I do have them.
For me, I have my HS batchmates to draw additional happy moments whenever we gather. It's always a blast because the sharing of stories is sure to be with so much laughter.
I also have my immediate family too, my sisters and their children, that can also make me really happy whenever we gather also at my parents' house every Saturday when I go there and stay overnight.
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
19 Nov 18
@yoalldudes It was like that with me before. I don't join our reunions. But a doctor batchmate whom I accidentally met at the mall , ivited me to join and that it is not that way.
Indeed, it wasn't that way, The rich ones would pay for some batchmates who can't share when we eat out in a restaurant and it's Dutch treat.
It is always a very happy occasion, specially when a batchmates asks for a gathering for her treat to everyone who attends. You can see in some of my posts.
So, I regretted not attending before 2012. I could have shared their fun then.
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@yoalldudes (35037)
• Philippines
19 Nov 18
Wow you have a lot of sources of fun and happiness. I'm scared of meeting old friends as they will make me feel depressed when they talk about they travels abroad and success stories not to mention their flashy cars.
@yoalldudes (35037)
• Philippines
19 Nov 18
@SIMPLYD Yeah you are right. I have attended one reunion and it was indeed fun. I felt closer to them than when I was in High School. I think I will attend the next one .
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@allknowing (138505)
• India
18 Nov 18
Gone are the days when there was only family to depend on for socialising. Sky is the limit now and with more and more family shifting to new horizons they are not available as before.
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@allknowing (138505)
• India
18 Nov 18
@yoalldudes I have many real contacts other than family like neighbours, classmates and friends. I have picked out a few from these categories specially those who I have access to I am satisfied with just a handful
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@yoalldudes (35037)
• Philippines
18 Nov 18
@allknowing I'd like to have mine as well. Glad you have found yours.
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@yoalldudes (35037)
• Philippines
18 Nov 18
Well there are online friends. But we dont get to actually meet them.
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@yoalldudes (35037)
• Philippines
18 Nov 18
Contentment is such a great gift. I'm still working on mine.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
18 Nov 18
You are still lucky because you have your own Family and you still have your parents and your siblings.
Me too, I stop making friends because some of them are not real. Before I thought I have friends who are willing to stay with me even if I'm sick but sad to say, they changed a lot.
Now, I only have few friends whom I know who are very frank, kind and understanding, plus they are real friends.
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@yoalldudes (35037)
• Philippines
18 Nov 18
That is really good that you have family and friends with you. I hope you get better.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
18 Nov 18
@yoalldudes
Yes, I am still thankful too.
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@jobelbojel (36328)
• Philippines
18 Nov 18
I think you are doing just fine. Building the bonding within the family is okay, once you have built a strong foundation, it is time to go out of your comfort zone and socialize.
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@yoalldudes (35037)
• Philippines
18 Nov 18
I hope so. I have mastered the art of not deciding hence choosing the status quo lol. But maybe I'll stumble upon something along the way.
@yoalldudes (35037)
• Philippines
18 Nov 18
In every stage of my life, I had friends. If I don't have, I'm miserable. But now I'm a middle aged woman, I dont know how it works.
@yoalldudes (35037)
• Philippines
18 Nov 18
How can I forget 
. Thank you for saying that. Yes you guys are here to celebrate with during good times and to cry on during bad times.
. Thank you for saying that. Yes you guys are here to celebrate with during good times and to cry on during bad times.1 person likes this
