What to Do?
@santoszam (10)
November 20, 2018 7:08am CST
I have always been a career woman, started part time work at the age of thirteen and working for almost half of my life. I was the bread winner which brought me a lot of stress and ten folds happiness is rewarding.
I recently resigned from work to take care of my first born. She makes me happy all the time, and I don't regret giving up my position as a supervisor. I was a stay at home mom for more than four months now, But how can you unlearn things? How do you remove the feeling of restlessness? I found my self waking early in the morning as if I need to prepare for work. I miss the traffic jam during the busy rush hour. I remember the small talks and quick break together with my colleagues. What to do?
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@m_audrey6788 (58472)
• Germany
20 Nov 18
I felt the same way when I have to resign from my longest work. I just keep on praying to help my stress stop from taking my time. That`s why I`m enjoying mylotting to atleast I have something to do at home now 
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@stringer321 (5644)
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
20 Nov 18
I don't understand both of you, aren't we supposed to save money so we can do what we like and have some freedom when we leave the job ?
We are not ants, of course, if you feel empty, go and volunteer somewhere, it will fill up your time, but, you won't have the pressure, it will be fun, it will be something that you love.
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@Daelii (5619)
• United States
20 Nov 18
I didn't stop working til I had #2 ( didn't work after having her. My Dr wouldn't release me for work after 6 weeks).
Its a blessing but at times, I'd get antsy. I took to blogging during their naps. Going to the park.
Enjoy a hobby or two! Those baby bouncers and swings can keep a baby comfy while you enjoy your craft.
I'm not a great singer but talking/ singing to a baby is great entertainment for them.
Plus, after healed from birthing, its easy to sit cross legged with a baby in lap, and craft.
That's actually how I'm sitting now, leaning back on the couch with my two year old sitting/ laying in my lap. Got some holiday songs on we are singing, I'm getting mylot time and talking in text to hubby. She's got some dolls :)
Just because you are a mom now, don't forget to keep using and working your brain! Find a *you thing* and do it every day!
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@santoszam (10)
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20 Nov 18
Thanks for the tips, these will come in handy for me since I'm just starting.
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@Daelii (5619)
• United States
20 Nov 18
@santoszam no problem! I have three girls ages 2, 6, and 7!
I'm happy being a sahm but I know its not a lifestyle everyone enjoys. It can be lonely at times too.
@santoszam (10)
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20 Nov 18
I think so, I will get used to it, just needed to keep my self busy for the meantime. 
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@stringer321 (5644)
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
20 Nov 18
What does it mean to be a bread winner ?
Do you have enough money to take care of yourself and the baby ?
Your new job is taking care of the baby and be relaxed. Don't look for things to do, look for ways to enjoy your time with the baby, play with it, help the baby develop his basic skills like crawling, moving, eye contact, read him stories...
If you need a job, you can find something that is friendly for moms.
How can you miss the traffic, the busy rush hours ? That is a stressful time making people late for work.
Having stress is not good, it damages the health.
@LadyDuck (471459)
• Switzerland
21 Nov 18
You cannot break a habit, a routine that you had for many year will remain. I am retired now and I still wake up before 6 am every morning. Take care of your baby and enjoy the time with her and your family. You can go back to work one day when your baby is a bit older, if you miss working.
@rakski (123378)
• Philippines
21 Nov 18
That happened to me too. For how many times I answered our home phone and greeting the caller the way I do when I was still working.
It is a good decision. I am fully telling you that it is worth it. You are just bored now because your little one is still months old. When she begins to eat, talk and walk, you will be as busy as a bee.
@ilocosboy (45156)
• Philippines
21 Nov 18
Its really hard to adjust, maybe you don't have to. Maybe you can still work and become a loving mom. Its a time management and giving priorities in life.
@resukill22 (25050)
• Las Pinas City, Philippines
20 Nov 18
That is good idea because you have more bonding time with your new born baby she now needs you more care ,let her feel that you love her, that you sacrifice your work for her.
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@a_jerobon (2304)
• Eldoret, Kenya
21 Nov 18
It is so great that you are spending time with your daughter, it is so important for a mother to do that. You will just get used to being at home with time.
@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
20 Nov 18
Take care of your daughter till she goes to school and then get a part-time job, if no other children come along?
@Shellyjane (462)
• United Kingdom
20 Nov 18
Could you go back part time and get some balance in your life? It sounds like you need both ? x
