What would you do if you were in the situation i am now ?
By Robby
@Robinsery (40)
Abidjan, Cote D'Ivoire (Ivory Coast)
November 24, 2018 1:47pm CST
My senior brother fell in love with a nice woman last year. Few months after they met, they decided to live together in my brother apartment. They really love each other, and my family likes her well. She is a fine, kind and good woman for my brother. She told me she would like to be my brother's wife.
Recently, my brother told me with joy that he is organizing a meeting in the house of his girlfriend parents to ask her in marriage in the presence of her parents.
A very close friend of mine use to tell me that he got a new girlfriend who is so kind,sweet on bed, and used to buy him some gifts. He is not the kind of guys who wants to get marry or who want to have only one partner. But he told me that this woman might make him change his mind soon to have only one partner. My friend visited me two days ago, and told me again about his same girlfriend and showed me their recent pictures while kissing on bed in his bedroom.
I was shocked to see that it was my senior brother girlfriend kissing my best friend on his bed !!!
The way i reacted he asked if i knew her. Then i answered him that she is my senior brother girlfriend and that my brother is planning to marry her. He was also surprised and shocked, and asked me not to tell it to my senior brother.
Today my brother visited me and was so happy. He asked me to take part of the meeting in the house of his girlfriend parents. I answered him that i am sorry i can not because i have an important business meeting on that time. I lied to him. I don't know what to do. My brother loves her so much, and they look like the best couple i ever seen in my family. I don't know how long i can keep that truth in me. Now it's hard for me to look at him in the face.
I wonder what to do now.
I hope your wise advises will help me face this situation.
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9 responses
@Robinsery (40)
• Abidjan, Cote D'Ivoire (Ivory Coast)
24 Nov 18
Ok, but the photos are in my best friend phone and he doesn't want me to inform my brother. He refused to give it to me.
@MALUSE (69373)
• Germany
24 Nov 18
@Robinsery You can tell your brother that you've seen the photos and ask him for an explanation.
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@Robinsery (40)
• Abidjan, Cote D'Ivoire (Ivory Coast)
25 Nov 18
@MALUSE iam thinking about it now. It is not easy to do it. I wish i can.
@Robinsery (40)
• Abidjan, Cote D'Ivoire (Ivory Coast)
25 Nov 18
No i don't think so. My friend told me she is his new girlfriend. He recently used to be with her. He told me the photos were taken last week end.
@cintol (11261)
• United States
24 Nov 18
I would go to her and tell her you know about her and your best friend and that she needs to confess to your brother right away or you will do it for her. Don't make him ask her in front of her parents, it will only break his heart when he finds out.
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@cintol (11261)
• United States
24 Nov 18
@Robinsery Would you rather have him heartbroken to find out after he proposed to her, she might even say no if she is seeing others which would hurt and embarrass him. Thats why I say go to her first and tell her that she needs to be the one to tell him. That will be easier on you as well, you have to look out for your family
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@Robinsery (40)
• Abidjan, Cote D'Ivoire (Ivory Coast)
24 Nov 18
Ok, i hope i find strength to speak to her. But i fear my brother reaction. He is so in love. Thanks for the advise.
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@Robinsery (40)
• Abidjan, Cote D'Ivoire (Ivory Coast)
25 Nov 18
@cintol Yes you're right. I think of first talking to her and see what she will say.
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@Dyvette16 (4301)
• United States
24 Nov 18
I think you should tell him because that is not right , what if they get married and she is still going behind his back
Then he will be so heart broken
It will be hard but after you tell him then it will be his choice of what he wants to do
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@Dyvette16 (4301)
• United States
25 Nov 18
@Robinsery well if he is really your true brother he should believe you over a woman who is not faithful to him , maybe your friend can get proof to show your brother that she is talking to him
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@Robinsery (40)
• Abidjan, Cote D'Ivoire (Ivory Coast)
25 Nov 18
@Dyvette16 Love can make any person blind. And my friend refused to send me the photos. He doesn't want anyone to know about it.
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@Robinsery (40)
• Abidjan, Cote D'Ivoire (Ivory Coast)
25 Nov 18
So instead of talking with her you prefer I tell all I know to my brother ? I think about it now. But what if my brother asks for a proof ? My best friend refused to tell the truth to anyone, and what will I do if she denies it ? I will look ridiculous if I have no proof. The meeting my brother is organizing in the house of his girlfriend parents is for next Wednesday.
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@mnglsp (3614)
• Philippines
29 Nov 18
@Robinsery Do you think she will listen to you?
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@Robinsery (40)
• Abidjan, Cote D'Ivoire (Ivory Coast)
27 Nov 18
Yes I think about telling him the truth. But I wonder if I should rather talk about that with his girlfriend first.
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@Nevena83 (65277)
• Serbia
26 Nov 18
@Robinsery I hope that you will be happy with a woman who deserves it.
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@Robinsery (40)
• Abidjan, Cote D'Ivoire (Ivory Coast)
27 Nov 18
@Nevena83 Yes I hope so. I wish the same to you too
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@Robinsery (40)
• Abidjan, Cote D'Ivoire (Ivory Coast)
25 Nov 18
Yes you're right. I will do my best to let him know everything.
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@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
25 Nov 18
If it were my brother, I would talk to the girl first and tell her I know everything. That has happened to my brother and I talked to the girl and I told her she will never be a part of my family.
You see, if that girl cheated on your brother while they're still not married, what if she gets pregnant from another man or other men and bring an illegitimate into your family. That would even be more painful to your brother and your brother would hate you for not telling him early on. So I agree with Deborah.
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@Robinsery (40)
• Abidjan, Cote D'Ivoire (Ivory Coast)
25 Nov 18
Yes i do agree with you. If my brother knows that i hid him the truth after he discover something he will blame me for that. Anyway i have to talk first to his girlfriend and see. Now i wonder if i should talk to her before or after my brother's meeting.
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@Robinsery (40)
• Abidjan, Cote D'Ivoire (Ivory Coast)
28 Nov 18
@toniganzon Yes of course.
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@Tampa_girl7 (50213)
• United States
24 Nov 18
I think that I would show her the photo and ask her to tell your brother or you will.
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@Robinsery (40)
• Abidjan, Cote D'Ivoire (Ivory Coast)
24 Nov 18
I would like to do it, but the photos are in my best friend phone. He refused to give me the photos.He don't want anyone to know about it.
@abhinalstrikr (4111)
• India
29 Nov 18
You must tell your brother else he might suffer later,you can save his life before it is going to be worse
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@Robinsery (40)
• Abidjan, Cote D'Ivoire (Ivory Coast)
30 Nov 18
yes you're right my friend.
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