My father is an alcoholic.
@Nevena83 (65277)
Serbia
November 25, 2018 6:27am CST
Dear friends, good day.
I had a conflict with my father last night. It was one nasty conflict, it's not the first time. My father is an alcoholic, and his fights are everyday. As a child, I was very attached to him, my mother was almost not important, because I received all my love from him. And then the day came when everything went bad.
After the divorce, I returned to my parents and everything was ok for about 2.3 years, then slowly everything started to change. The father drank more and more, the conflicts became bigger, physical contact was coming ... I was very hard to bear. Even today, after so many years, I can not understand that this is my father, someone I loved more than anything.
Do you drink alcohol? Have you had contact with people in an alcoholic state? How do you fight them?
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10 responses
@nawala123 (20871)
• Indonesia
26 Nov 18
@Nevena83 yes of course, and my religion forbids that
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@nawala123 (20871)
• Indonesia
26 Nov 18
@Nevena83 that is different case. in here i see some religious people drink too, but i hope i am not one of them
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@garymarsh6 (23404)
• United Kingdom
25 Nov 18
I am so sorry you are witnessing this. It is an illness but he needs to admit it is and seek help. He will ruin his liver and poison his brain. Unless he is willing to seek help there is very little you can do about it. If he becomes physically aggressive to you you need to get away from him. Good luck and sorry you are in this situation not of your making.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
25 Nov 18
I only drink from time to time and all my family and friends are like that too. Sorry about your situation!
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@marguicha (222868)
• Chile
25 Nov 18
I have not had that experience, but I know of people that have. It is better to stay away from them, they can do anything under the influence.
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@mischellesagario (382)
• Philippines
27 Nov 18
My father used to drink a lot also and that leads him to his serious illness which took his life way back in 2006. Please continue showing your love to your father...
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@Nevena83 (65277)
• Serbia
27 Nov 18
@mischellesagario I've been living in that hell for 12 years and I know that it can never be better, because he turned away from the memory.
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@mischellesagario (382)
• Philippines
27 Nov 18
@Nevena83 Yeah I understand you...Maybe your father is just very sad about the divorce...I just hope your father will realize his mistakes very soon...
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@Debscrochet (1947)
• United States
28 Nov 18
So sorry you went through that. Best to avoid someone when their drunk.
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@Debscrochet (1947)
• United States
28 Nov 18
@Nevena83 Then it's time to move. He's only going to change if he wants to. I've dealt with this many times before. No reason to stress yourself. Life is too short. Good luck.
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@Nevena83 (65277)
• Serbia
28 Nov 18
@Debscrochet Thank you. He will never change, because he is nice to him. I am very emotional and every day I survive everything that happens with him during the day.
@PainsOnSlate (21852)
• Canada
26 Nov 18
I have never had to live with or around a drunk, I think i must have been lucky, my parents never drank booze. My husband and I do but not so much that we get drunk. Being drunk is not something we deal with. I'm sorry you had to grow up with a drunk.
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@geenwood88 (237)
• Philippines
28 Nov 18
I have the same issue with my Dad back when he was still alive and later I realized as he passed away that it wasn't worth the argument. I have learned that maybe we just need to sit back and talk about what's happening and how to prevent it.
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