Do you scold your children?

Absolutely yes to the scolding @guataam . Kids have to know there are consequences to their actions. My daughter is 48-years-old and I still scold her when she does something stupid. Like buying a motorcycle, drinking and then wrecking the bike. She lives 3 states away but we talk on the phone every week.

I have a disabled son that is in a wheelchair and he is 11 years old. He is a well behaved child and I like to speak to him in a pleasant way. I like to talk to him about our pet hamster. I finds that happy and relaxing. I like to give him choices rather than saying he must do something. Like would be prefer to look at his spellings or read a book for school. I give him choices of food to eat as well. My daughter is 9 years old and I find her a little more challenging. For example I took her to the dental hospital and she refuses to wear her brace. She thinks this upper mouth brace will make her chook. Tomorrow she has another appointment at the dental hospital. When my disabled son was 3 years old he would throw toys. I told him something positive like hands in your lap. If a parent hits their child they are teaching is it okay to hit others. A more liberal and kind attitude is far better to use. My background is teaching and for a very difficult child I suggest catch them being good and give praise. At school some teachers give detentions. Some parents give a child time out. Praise is much better along with leading a good example.

I have to confess, I become mad at times. I can't help when the boys are doing things like that.

My son gets me mad yes. Especially when he tells me "no" a lot. He knows better. He will be 5 next June. He is very smart. Spankings really don't work on him and I try time out but it just makes him mad and cry...and cry...and cry...lol. I do tell him what hes done wrong and to say sorry and to try not to do it again. But I know he's young and will get into mischief.

Yes sometimes I need too but am not an aggressive mom with aggressive attitude all the time.

Punishing doesn't help much for me

Yes, we scolded our child when she misbehaves. And she learned from it. But that was seldom though. She is generally a good child.