What is not meant to be...

By sofs
@sofssu (23662)
December 3, 2018 1:43am CST
It has happened three times in a row now and she is heart broken. I met this young girl in her late teens a few years ago. She was so shy and would never speak to anyone. She would attend all the youth programs in church but never made friends with anyone. I finally decided to get her out of her misery and made friends with her. She is a very sweet thing in her mid twenty's now.. This girl is very calm, well educated and is well employed too. ..she works very hard and her bosses are so impressed with her that she has had three promotions in three years. We have celebrated her successes with lunches ice creams over the years. Now my young friend is terrible anguished. She has been engaged to be married thrice and all three times she has been ditched.. She is not able to figure out what is happening.. I guess it maybe just her painfully shy nature that is at the root of this. Whatever it is she is so forlorn and heart broken at the moment. The confidence level is at the lowest. I guess i will have to be talking to her and supporting her emotionally until she feels better.. I am really sad.. but i guess those guys don't truly deserve her.. she takes time to warm up and talk but she is a very beautiful person inside out. This is not fair at all.. but maybe its not meant to be.. I believe that the best is yet to come.. but will this heart broken child see what I see..
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8 responses
Sreekala
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
3 Dec 18
You are right, they don't deserve her and her sweet heart is yet to come. I hope her current pain will lead to her best time in life. Ups and downs are common in life. Let her have enough courage to pass through this bad phase in life.
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sofs
@sofssu (23662)
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3 Dec 18
@Sreekala Thrice in a row is not normal.. she took it well the last two times.. She has been so quiet and i am worried.
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Sreekala
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
3 Dec 18
@sofssu I agree it is difficult to cope with such kind of situation especially in case of marriage. But I wish, she must be focused on the positive side. Please help her and support as much as from your end.
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sofs
@sofssu (23662)
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3 Dec 18
@Sreekala That is my plan too.. to keep her thinking positive.. Its difficult to imagine how hurt she is..
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Judy Story
@jstory07 (139454)
• Roseburg, Oregon
3 Dec 18
I hope she will find the right person that is meant for her.
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sofs
@sofssu (23662)
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3 Dec 18
@jstory07 I hope so too..
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rebel_woman06
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
3 Dec 18
Have you talked with her yet on how he treats those boyfriends? Maybe you can advise of ways how to make the boyfriends like her so much.
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rebel_woman06
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
4 Dec 18
@sofssu Probably, along the way, he met a hot girl.
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sofs
@sofssu (23662)
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4 Dec 18
@SIMPLYD Yeah, I dunno why that is what i felt reading his text messages to her.. She also felt that way..
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sofs
@sofssu (23662)
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3 Dec 18
@SIMPLYD I was with her for three hours.. apparently this guy told her she was too simple for his taste.. now i am really upset. She is a simple girl. no airs about her, dresses very simple that is who she is.. he knew it before he got engaged.
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Anna
@LadyDuck (471253)
• Switzerland
3 Dec 18
It's weird that three guys decided to drop her before the marriage, I think that there is something more than the fact she is shy. May be she is scared by men and she does not really want to be married.
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sofs
@sofssu (23662)
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3 Dec 18
@LadyDuck She is scared of men, no doubt, but wants to be married .. She just needs a bit of time to thaw .. otherwise she is a normal girl. I guess she is not very willing to go out with them and comes trough as someone very old fashioned.
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Anna
@LadyDuck (471253)
• Switzerland
3 Dec 18
@sofssu This is exactly what I immediately thought, she is scared of men and she does something that makes them angry and upset.
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sofs
@sofssu (23662)
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3 Dec 18
@LadyDuck Could be, she just won't talk when she is scared of someone.. she is really very timid.
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Tokz
@ilocosboy (45156)
• Philippines
3 Dec 18
She's mid 20s now and maybe stronger enough to understand and known these things. True love will come on her and because of that heartbreak experienced she will soon hsve her happiness. She is well employed and that's goid enough some good guys would find her.
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sofs
@sofssu (23662)
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4 Dec 18
@ilocosboy practically speaking yes.. but the heart doesn't take so well to reason.. does it? at the moment she is devastated.
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Courage7
@Courage7 (19633)
• United States
3 Dec 18
This is so very sad. You are a good friend.
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sofs
@sofssu (23662)
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3 Dec 18
@Courage7 It is sad.. I am more like her mom.. I was their mentor while she was in the youth group.
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Always smiling
@allknowing (135836)
• India
12 Dec 18
Being rejected thrice is not something that one can take in easily. She will need a lot of counselling to move on
ARM
@responsiveme (22926)
• India
4 Dec 18
Tell her there is a special someone out there and will happen when the time is right. Glad she has you around
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sofs
@sofssu (23662)
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4 Dec 18
@responsiveme That is what we have been telling her the last couple of times around.. its like repeating the same lines over and over again and they become meaningless.
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ARM
@responsiveme (22926)
• India
4 Dec 18
@sofssu No, deep down it is registering. Time will work it's healing
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sofs
@sofssu (23662)
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4 Dec 18
@responsiveme I hope so too.. She has deep faith so its actually easy to reach out to her.. I am sure that she will come through this strong.. yeah it takes time.. she has to go through a whole process before she does.
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