Decisions, decisions, decisions
By MysD
@mysdianait (66009)
Italy
December 10, 2018 10:21am CST
Sometimes I stop and think about the decisions I have made, wondering whether they were the right ones or not. I am convinced that there is no point in cryng over spilt milk so I probably never consider any of them as being negative.
In the last ten years or so I have made some and am so pleased that I did. The one that is top of the list is getting rid of my car
Of course I needed it when I was working but I don't work now as I am retired. I live in the centre of town, off the beaten track though, and can reach everything vital (the bank, the doctor etc.) on foot. There is even a circular urbam bus (for which I have a senior pass too = if I need to go somewhere on the outskirts of town.
I no longer have to renew my licence, change the tyres for winter or worry that the car won't start as it had been parked for so long since I last used it - plus all that I have saved in four years on the insurance costs too!
Do you have a car? Do you really need it? Would you ever give it up?
Would you give someone a lift if you were going in their direction ?
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16 responses
@LadyDuck (471968)
• Switzerland
11 Dec 18
Yes, we now have only 1 small car, no more 2 and no more sport cars.
Yes, we need the car, because we live in the middle of nowhere.
I do not see how we could give it up, I am even thinking to get a driver license, just in case.
I would give a lift to someone we know.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
11 Dec 18
Ah! You don't drive? I imagined that you already had a licence. Certainly if you are not near to shops then it would be difficult without a care unless you have good public transport there.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
11 Dec 18
@LadyDuck uphill once you have your bags That sounds just like here though the distance is shorter. I gifted myself with a six-wheel shopping trolley on my last birthday so that I can get to the big store and don't have bags to carry back. That works fine
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@LadyDuck (471968)
• Switzerland
11 Dec 18
@mysdianait I never had a driver license, in Monte-Carlo I did not need a car. The shops and stores are not far, from 2 to 3 km downhill... uphill once you have your bags. The bus transits every half hour (this is a small village), it takes more time by bus than walking.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
11 Dec 18
When I was younger I tought I would never give mine up either but now I consider it to be the best decision I ever made.
I am in north Italy but I come from UK. I have been here over forty years now
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
11 Dec 18
@amadeo Oh really! Have you ever been to Naples?
I am midway between Turin and Milan. It's cooler here than that area.
@amadeo (111938)
• United States
11 Dec 18
@mysdianait My family from Naples area.
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@much2say (55901)
• Los Angeles, California
11 Dec 18
I need my car and I will definitely not part with it (not now anyway). I have 2 kids and I am their chauffeur - we are not walking distance from school and all our activities. I would give a lift to anyone who can fit into our car - but in most cases no one is actually going in our direction. One of these days I really need to learn how to take public transportation . . . but this is Los Angeles - we are all so dependent on having our own cars !
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
11 Dec 18
The majority of people here think that they all need their car and that it would be impossible to live without it. In fact when I tell them that it's four years that I don't have one but I am still alive and kicking they are shocked (even horrified ). When I tell them that I use the bus sometimes they say that 'public transport doesn't work and that there is never a bus'. I ask if they have used one and of course they reply that they haven't
You are younger and your needs are different so I quite understand that you need one. Once your kids are grown up then (I hope) you will have many chaffeurs available for yourself
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
16 Dec 18
@much2say Oh yes that is something that I do when I am a passenger. I know it is annoying for whoever is driving but I can't help doing it
I think many don't understand timetables for public transport until they have to use a bus or a train. Then it's quite simple really. I hope it will be a really long time before you have to fathom them out though
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@much2say (55901)
• Los Angeles, California
16 Dec 18
@mysdianait I know that if I don't have a car, I can probably be resourceful - but I haven't yet tested out that theory . I hear public transportation in other countries work out quite well. I can't make heads or tails out of schedule tables .
As nice as it would be to make my kids my one day chauffeurs - I can't imagine them driving - I would always use that imaginary brake .
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@Morleyhunt (21744)
• Canada
10 Dec 18
I need the car, but, that said, I walk to the Post office, my volunteer job, church....
Groceries are 30 km away....so is the bank.....no bus service.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
13 Dec 18
@Morleyhunt Learning to shop online and have things delivered?
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
11 Dec 18
Sad that you have no bus service to get you to those places further away and I hope that you will always be able to drive your car
@Morleyhunt (21744)
• Canada
13 Dec 18
@mysdianait That is our hope, meanwhile I've learned to access so much more with the computer.
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@japanesesamurai (2196)
• Japan
11 Dec 18
i have a car and i got it here.. actually i also had my driving licence here n japan..
it was hard for me, they have strict rules here..
about decisions , don't worry we all make bad decisions .. to give a decision is not an easy thing i hope..
i also give some stupid decisions and feel regretful after it..
i hope you can drive again...
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
11 Dec 18
i will never drive again as I wouls be a danger to others on the road. Everyone goes so fast - and I certainly would never be able to drive and use my smartphone at the same time like so many of toda's drivers do
I can't think of a bad decision that I have made. Before making a decision I think of the pros and cons and sometimes take ages to decide but when I do decide, whatever it is, I never go back and wish I had made a different decision. No use crying over spilt milk
Good to know that they are strict in Japan about driving rules. I wish they were the same here. there are some really crazy drivers on the roads here who seem to think that the rules are for others and not for them
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
11 Dec 18
@japanesesamurai Then the Japanese people are certainly intelligent and think of others.
Here it seems that most drivers think that the rules don't apply to them and that they are the only person on the road! They seem to think that the orange hazard lights are on the car so that they can park absolutely anywhere regardless of whether it is a no-parking place or that they are blocking an entrance
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@japanesesamurai (2196)
• Japan
11 Dec 18
@mysdianait its sad .. here the rules are really strict so we dont have many accidents..
people also personally follow the rules, its japanese mental i think...
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
10 Dec 18
Travelling is no problem without a car. there are buses, trains and, of course, friends. During the day I walk so much more than I did when I had the car too. Do you walk to go to nearby places or do you always use your car?
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@porwest (92404)
• United States
12 Dec 18
@mysdianait I always use the car. But I was referring more to taking trips. But if the situation works for you, who am I to judge?
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
13 Dec 18
@porwest I was no longer safe driving as I have an eyesight problem. I prefer to get a bus as the drivers know what they are doing and I am happy with that
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@buenavida (9984)
• Sweden
12 Dec 18
I have never had a car or license - I can use the bus - very cheap - or ride in some friendĀ“s car.. works well so far.. and the store is 5 min walk from where I live..
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
13 Dec 18
Having the store close by is a perfect situation
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@owlwings (43910)
• Cambridge, England
10 Dec 18
Some time ago I moved from one part of Cambridge to another. The main reason for doing so was that I could walk to the place where i worked (that was the reason, too, for buying the previous house, but I changed jobs in the meantime!). It is a comfortable house, on the High Street, within walking distance of the shops which supply most of the day-to-day needs and on a good bus route with buses every 10 minutes which go to the Hospital and into town. I could also cycle where ever I wanted then, so there was no need for a car and we did without it fairly well for about a year.
Then, for reasons I forget, though they were certainly cogent, we decided to get another car. Oh dear! By not having a car for a year, the insurance premiums rose (because one loses the 60% no claims bonus) and there are all sorts of other minor things which happen because of the discontinuity.
We need the car now mainly to take my wife to work (she comes back by bus). On the way back I very often visit the larger supermarket and other shops as the need arises. Since I can't walk as far now as I used to be able to five years ago, I have begun to need to use the car even for quite short trips (less than a bus ride but further than I can walk). Perhaps my biggest fear is that, not very long hence, I may no longer be able to drive (because of diminishing eyesight). I don't look forward to being housebound.
Yes, if someone asked and it was not too far out of my way, I'd certainly give someone a lift. I come from the era when hitch hiking was commonplace and (mostly) safe for both the driver and the passenger and I have never had any concerns about giving strangers (or friends) lifts if needed.
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@owlwings (43910)
• Cambridge, England
11 Dec 18
@mysdianait She works about 2 and a half days a week in a flower shop, which she enjoys very much. The relative economics of the whole thing are beyond me but, on balance, having a car is neither an absolute necessity nor is it merely a luxury.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
11 Dec 18
@owlwings Tha sounds like a lovely job. It gets her out of the house and among people but I guess it is not tiring as it is only for a short time.. Perfect I would think.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
11 Dec 18
So you have to get up to take your wife to work every day? Or sometimes, if youdon't need the car, she goes alone? Or maybe she doesn't drive?
I too recall those times when there were many hitchikers about. They are a thing of the past here nowadays.
Life takes on a new horizon when you no linger have a car. You plan trips differently and I guess you could use taxis if there is no bus. Obviously not every day or the cost would be as much as that of having a car. I use one rarely and have saved so much in the four years that I am without my car - though where that extra money went is anyone's guess. I have no idea
@GardenGerty (160879)
• United States
19 Jan 19
We have too many cars, many of them do not work. I cannot get hubby to realize that even if he sells them for less than he thinks they are worth, it is a savings for us.
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@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
10 Dec 18
I used to live in a village with very poor public transport. That was in the days before I learned how to drive a car. I went to a lot of bother to reach the places that I worked. For one of them I had to cycle 6 miles to reach the school I taught at. For another one I had to cycle to 2 miles to a village train station and take a train to Dover. From there I took a train to Folkestone West. I had a 15 minute walk from that train station. Before I moved to a different area I had a teaching post at a school in Canterbury. I cycled there and it was 3 miles away. I took years to learn how to drive an automatic car. I was nervous of the driving test centre at Canterbury. It was on a busy road. So I took my driving test at Herne Bay. I failed each practical driving test that I took there. It was devastating to me and my aunt gave me her old car. I went out driving with my friends that were over 21 years old with more than 3 years driving experience. I also had lessons with my driving instructor. I moved in 2005 to a different area and I couldn't find a driving instructor with a automatic car. They all had manual cars you see. I saw a special offer for a course of driving lessons in a manual car. I tried lessons in a manual car and it didn't go well. After many lessons I didn't think I would ever get to the practical driving test. Time went past. My disabled son was born in May 2007 and I was given a course of driving tests and two driving tests from a charity called The Family Fund. BSM had an instructor with an automatic car. I failed my first test in the new area because the chief examiner was in the back of the car assessing my assessor. I passed my second driving test in the new area. So you can see how hard it was for me to pass my practical driving test. I passed it in 2010 and in 2013 I bought an automatic car that has a wheelchair space in for my son. I don't think I will stop driving. My family needs me to drive.
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@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
10 Dec 18
@mysdianait In that time I was in my new area I thought I have failed to learn how to drive. I will always be grateful to The Family Fund for giving me the set of driving lessons and two practical tests. I would easily pass the theory test each time. It was wonderful you only worked at close by places and some you reached by car.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
11 Dec 18
@maximax8 The Family Fund certainly sounds like a very good thing indeed and so pleased that they helped you to get through your tests
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
10 Dec 18
Yes I can certainly understand that yuo need to drive for your son's sake and I admire you for persevering in learning to drive and getting through the test too I was so lucky that all of the places I worked at during my life were really close to home. Some were too far to cycle to but near in the car.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
10 Dec 18
I did the same thing a couple of years ago and now walk or take public transportation. I'm happy with my decision. One less thing to worry about.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
11 Dec 18
That's exactly the way I feel too!
Good to see you
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
13 Dec 18
@1hopefulman I hope to be back for good again and it's so nice tpo see do many familiar faces are still here
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@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
14 Jan 19
Yes, I have a car. Yes, I really need it. Everything here is too far away to walk, and the roads are not pedestrian friendly even if it wasn't too far. I would only give it up for a newer, better one. Would I give someone a lift? It depends on how cute they were and/or how sweetly they talked.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
17 Jan 19
Some things (and people) never change huh?
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@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
20 Jan 19
@mysdianait Hey, you can't improve on perfection!
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
13 Dec 18
You wouldn't know unless you pick them up.
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@Hannihar (130213)
• Israel
24 Dec 18
@mysdianait
That is a good idea to live in the center of things where you can walk and do not need a car. I do not have a car. I have a mobility scooter and dry that around town and to places I can get to in it. If can't get to some place in it then have to take the bus. I only have one seat on it for me so cannot give anyone a ride.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
30 Dec 18
There are not many people who use mobility scooters here in Italy. There are many more in UK though (as I saw when I went back there some years ago). They look really simple to use but I must get some exercise and I fear I would not walk much at all if I had one.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
30 Dec 18
@Hannihar If at some point I have difficulty walking then I will think of getting one too
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@Hannihar (130213)
• Israel
30 Dec 18
@mysdianait
You have to get used to them. I love mine.
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@BarBaraPrz (47611)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
11 Dec 18
I don't have a car, but I'd like one if it came with a chaufeur.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
11 Dec 18
Oh! I had totally never thought of that option!
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
11 Dec 18
I am so pleased that I don't have mine anymore. Of course I needed it when I was working but I have never missed it at all since I got rid of it over 4 years ago
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