Complaining

@sofssu (23662)

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12 Dec 18

@LadyDuck My mom did that too.. thankfully i noticed that I was getting there and started working on it.. . However it doesn't show up here.. in your interactions.

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Anna

@LadyDuck (472078)

• Switzerland

12 Dec 18

@DianneN Yes, she was complaining all the time, very different from my grandmother.

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@DianneN (247184)

• United States

12 Dec 18

Really? No way!

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Mavic123456

@Mavic123456 (21893)

• Thailand

12 Dec 18

ahhh yeah and usually whiners are tiring people. but I don't mind. if they like to whine then whine...

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Mavic123456

@Mavic123456 (21893)

• Thailand

12 Dec 18

@sofssu that's why if someone asks your help you help but then try to observe, if the person is a whiner and also like playing victim all the time, you can just listen to your left ear and then come on the right ear. we don't to dwell too much

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@sofssu (23662)

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12 Dec 18

@Mavic123456 yes the do they tire you out.. especially if you are a good listener and compassionate one at that.. the actual problem is all whiners cling to you,..

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@sofssu (23662)

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12 Dec 18

@Mavic123456 Yeah I do that sometimes.. mentally switch off.

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Always smiling

@allknowing (137821)

• India

12 Dec 18

I have friends who need my shoulder but I feel sorry for them in that they never look at their blessings.

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@sofssu (23662)

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12 Dec 18

@allknowing There you said it.. they never consider their blessings at all..and in the process they could lose good friends too.

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Always smiling

@allknowing (137821)

• India

12 Dec 18

@sofssu I feel sad for them as all others who face life also have problems but they are able to move on despite them.

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@sofssu (23662)

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12 Dec 18

@allknowing Yup that is right.. every one has problems .. and we've gotta move on.. but the silly thing is they think you don't have any because you don't whine.

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Shubhu

@shubhu3 (36463)

• New Delhi, India

12 Dec 18

No comments from me.

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@sofssu (23662)

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12 Dec 18

@shubhu3 Why so? and why the

you feel like whining now?

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@sofssu (23662)

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12 Dec 18

@shubhu3 everyone has flaws, knowing what they are and working on them is what lifts us up.

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Shubhu

@shubhu3 (36463)

• New Delhi, India

12 Dec 18

@sofssu I have this habit of complaining too.

But my mother is really patient and understanding so things tend to get sorted.

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Hanni Harel

@Hannihar (130213)

• Israel

12 Dec 18

@sofssu I feel if someone has something to complain about let them vent. They need to get it off their chest.

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@sofssu (23662)

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12 Dec 18

@Hannihar that is normal , its only when they make a habit of it that it wears everyone down .

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Hanni Harel

@Hannihar (130213)

• Israel

12 Dec 18

@sofssu ok

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Hanni Harel

@Hannihar (130213)

• Israel

13 Dec 18

@iamdahmmy I guess all I can say here is sorry about that.

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Simone

@Janet357 (75646)

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12 Dec 18

It’s ok to whine from time to time, but whining everyday, my goodness, i aboid such people. I had a friend like that. I stopped talking to her. Now, i feel good.

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@sofssu (23662)

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12 Dec 18

@Janet357 I don't stop talking , but it does get on my nerves.. But i can see why you want to do that..

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@DianneN (247184)

• United States

12 Dec 18

Me, too!

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Simone

@Janet357 (75646)

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12 Dec 18

@sofssu because that friend of mine always sees the dark side of life. Always complains why she doesnt have a job when in fact, she doesnt do anything but to chat with online people. She is very lazy.

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Hope

@1hopefulman (45120)

• Canada

12 Dec 18

It's is not good to complain for no good reason or about everything under the sun. When someone has a legitimate concern I listen to them and try to see if I can help them in some way. Thankfully I don't know anyone who is a constant complainer.

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@db20747 (43440)

• Washington, District Of Columbia

12 Dec 18

How is your life so doggone perfect!! How do U do that??!! I had to listen to complaining all my life!!!

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Hope

@1hopefulman (45120)

• Canada

12 Dec 18

@db20747 I guess I have been blessed to have good friends and good neighbours or maybe it's because my hearing is so bad thar I don't hear anything.

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@sofssu (23662)

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13 Dec 18

@1hopefulman you have an earring on your ears?

just kidding.. My problem is I am a good listener and all my friends come to me to pour out their woes.. on some days it gets difficult.. I can get no work done.. so i let off steam here.. loL,

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lady Di

@lady1993 (27224)

• Philippines

12 Dec 18

whiners can be annoying, especially on a daily basis i think people should focus on the good that happens every day instead of the bad

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@sofssu (23662)

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12 Dec 18

@lady1993 You said it.. focus on the positive..

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rebel_woman06

@SIMPLYD (90721)

• Philippines

13 Dec 18

Well, i can listen to a whine, but not when it gets to be discussed over and over again. If I havr said what i have to say about it to the person, but won't hear me, i will avoid the person already after that.

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rebel_woman06

@SIMPLYD (90721)

• Philippines

13 Dec 18

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@sofssu (23662)

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13 Dec 18

@SIMPLYD Yeah that is what i am saying, what is the point in going on saying the same thing many times over.. just gives me a headache.

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deazil

@deazil (4730)

• United States

13 Dec 18

At one point when I worked, there were several complainers in the office near mine. One of them decided to start complaining to me instead of her usual friend, who had told me about the complaining before. I told her there were solutions for whatever problem she told me about. I think a lot of complainers don't want solutions, they want sympathy or pity. Giving her solutions made her stop complaining to me. Unless the whiner is a friend or a good friend, I have no patience or sympathy and will give them solutions to their problems and be done with them. I realize this doesn't work in all situations, in which case I would avoid the whiners.

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deazil

@deazil (4730)

• United States

15 Dec 18

@sofssu I guess as long as you can mentally switch off that helps. If the person is someone you have to be around and they won't change I suppose there's really nothing else you can do. I've been told in the past that I need to change the way I get upset about some people because they won't change, but I can control the way I react to them. And it's true. I also have things I could complain about but there's no point. Anyway, I save it all for @Mavic123456 and complain to her privately.

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Mavic123456

@Mavic123456 (21893)

• Thailand

16 Dec 18

@deazil rant rant rant there are ants in pants.

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@sofssu (23662)

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15 Dec 18

@deazil she has been with me for a long time.. You are right she doesn't want solutions just sympathy and i know that wont help her at all.. Nothing seems to work with her.. she wallows in self pity.

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Marlina

@marlina (154130)

• Canada

12 Dec 18

I try to stay away from whiners as much as possible.

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@sofssu (23662)

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13 Dec 18

@marlina I wish i could,.. sometimes.

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Marlina

@marlina (154130)

• Canada

13 Dec 18

@sofssu Sometimes, we CAN'T get away from whiners and it is sad.

Alfredo Rossi

@amadeo (111938)

• United States

12 Dec 18

not here no one whine.Nothing to whine about.It is Christmas

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@sofssu (23662)

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12 Dec 18

@amadeo say it again..,its Christmas,, don't whine.

Alfredo Rossi

@amadeo (111938)

• United States

12 Dec 18

@db20747 yes it is sweet

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@db20747 (43440)

• Washington, District Of Columbia

12 Dec 18

How sweet it must be!!

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@DianneN (247184)

• United States

12 Dec 18

Sometimes it’s good to let out our frustrations, but there are those who seem to whine, complain, and have problems all too often. I find them such depressing Debbie Downers and complete bores.

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@sofssu (23662)

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12 Dec 18

@DianneN Debbie downers they are.. vampires that suck up energy..

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@sofssu (23662)

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13 Dec 18

@DianneN Yeah,, there are some i encourage and nudge them to look at things differently but others i avoid.. I don't mind complaining, but it should be a lifestyle.

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@DianneN (247184)

• United States

12 Dec 18

@sofssu And they even live here on myLot! I avoid them like the plague!

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Susan

@HazySue (39268)

• Gouverneur, New York

12 Dec 18

It's not the original complaint that bothers me, I will listen and feel bad for them, it's when it goes on and on and on.... I am sure you know what I mean.

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@sofssu (23662)

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12 Dec 18

@HazySue I know exactly what you mean.. that is what wears me down..

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@db20747 (43440)

• Washington, District Of Columbia

12 Dec 18

Yes!! My grandmother was the ultimate complainer!!! Grew up with this!! Thank goodness I'm not around it much anymore!!!

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@sofssu (23662)

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13 Dec 18

@db20747 good it didn't rub off on to you.. It does at times.

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@db20747 (43440)

• Washington, District Of Columbia

13 Dec 18

@sofssu Yes it did!! But I'm learning not to sweat the small stuff!!!

ARM

@responsiveme (22926)

• India

13 Dec 18

I try not to whine too often. Whiners never get any listeners for long. Sometimes it's difficult when a person becomes old and you feel bad that they were not like this before

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@sofssu (23662)

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13 Dec 18

@responsiveme Yup, but its hard when they are your friends and you really care about them..

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@sofssu (23662)

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13 Dec 18

@responsiveme Its okay to whine once in a while.. I have nothing against it.. I will be a willing shoulder to lean on.. but when people go on and on about their miseries not wanting to see their blessings, not wanting to find solutions, it is terrible. They somehow seem to think that we don't have any problems just because we don't complain.. At times it just drives me crazy.

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ARM

@responsiveme (22926)

• India

13 Dec 18

@sofssu we need to turn a deaf ears...Easier said than done

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robbiejapan

@japanesesamurai (2196)

• Japan

13 Dec 18

my motto for complaining is ; if you start complaining ,you can never stop .. i had this experience.. i also was a complaining person,it doesn't change anything ,just make things more negative and worse.. i stopped complaining very long time ago.. i always try to enjoy and like small things in my life.. i think feeling happy with even small things... its my way of dealing life..

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@sofssu (23662)

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13 Dec 18

@japanesesamurai The story of my life.

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robbiejapan

@japanesesamurai (2196)

• Japan

13 Dec 18

@sofssu i am glad to hear..

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nawala

@nawala123 (20871)

• Indonesia

13 Dec 18

i feel so annoyed when some one is always complaining

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@sofssu (23662)

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13 Dec 18

@nawala123 True, very true.

@sofssu (23662)

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13 Dec 18

@nawala123

nawala

@nawala123 (20871)

• Indonesia

13 Dec 18

@sofssu yes it is indeed

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Nevena Zivkovic

@Nevena83 (65277)

• Serbia

12 Dec 18

I've always been a good listener for others. I never drowned others with my problems. The only thing that happens to me here is to express my feelings, maybe because nobody knows me, so it's easier.

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@sofssu (23662)

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13 Dec 18

@Nevena83 its easier to do the things that we don't do normally under the cloak of anonymity. You have to let off steam somewhere.