I would like your opinion.

@AmbiePam (93953)
United States
December 12, 2018 8:07pm CST
Last Sunday night I went to the church of my friends. My dad was actually glad because most people at his church my age are married with kids. My friend's church is really big. They have about five services every Sunday, and I went to the 5:30pm service because my friend attends that one.The attendance for that service was about 300 people. It felt kind of weird to just blend in. You could get in and get out, unnoticed. My dad's church runs around 100 people, and you will definitely be talked to and welcomed. I don't know which I prefer. I like to get in and out unnoticed, but I don't know if that is actually good for me. The other difference is the music: at the big church it is LOUD. The flashing lights are an epileptic nightmare. I have migraines, but it didn't affect me last Sunday night. They also offer earplugs, but I didn't see them. Which church should I regularly go to? I realize a lot of you don't go to church, but I would like your opinion anyway.
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Angie
@andriaperry (117146)
• Anniston, Alabama
13 Dec 18
For me I want to get in and out, I go to hear the message not to socialize.
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Amber
@AmbiePam (93953)
• United States
13 Dec 18
When my mom was sick I lost a lot of friends because I was so busy helping out. So now I have no idea where to go to make new friends. It's always good to have friends who share your faith.
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Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
13 Dec 18
If they are both at different times I would go to both as well. We go to church to be a blessing to others, something most don't realize but that should be our focus-sharing God's love no matter where we go. :)
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Amber
@AmbiePam (93953)
• United States
13 Dec 18
I remember when I didn't miss a service: Sunday morning, Sunday night, and Wednesday night. I was really involved. Then my health got so bad I wondered if I'd be able to ever go steadily again.
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Amber
@AmbiePam (93953)
• United States
13 Dec 18
@LovingMyBabies Oh, certainly! I remember my dad giving an example when I was ten. He said imagine you only ate on Sundays and Wednesdays. You'd be in terrible health. Well, if that is the only time you read your Bible and pray, you're spiritually starving.
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Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
13 Dec 18
@AmbiePam I was always taught God was for Sunday and Wednesday when we went to a baptist church. I'm so glad I know God is a daily relationship now-even outside of church! :)
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Heather Echola
@GardenGerty (160978)
• United States
13 Dec 18
If you have the energy for it, I would be involved in both. Go to your Dad's church in the morning for the connectedness and to the other one at 5:30. You will be fed spiritually and socially in both, as long as it does not give you a migraine. You might want to see about some headphones of your own for when you might need it.
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Amber
@AmbiePam (93953)
• United States
13 Dec 18
You put it very well. And I may not be able to go to both every week, but I can certainly try.
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much2say
@much2say (56087)
• Los Angeles, California
13 Dec 18
I guess if it were me, I'd go with the "vibe" that feels good/right to me - if that makes any sense. I know one of my friends literally went from church to church until she finally found one that she felt comfortable with.
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Amber
@AmbiePam (93953)
• United States
13 Dec 18
I think it takes guts to keep trying churches. Why should one settle?
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much2say
@much2say (56087)
• Los Angeles, California
14 Dec 18
@AmbiePam In her case, she felt like she never fit in. She'd go for a couple months and then she'd find certain "flaws" that'd make her want to go find another church again.
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Anna
@LadyDuck (472078)
• Switzerland
13 Dec 18
Our Churches are old and traditional, no loud music, no flashing lights, a lot of people attending on Sundays, I can go in and out unnoticed and this is what I like.
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Amber
@AmbiePam (93953)
• United States
13 Dec 18
My dad's church has the more traditional music. I like the old hymns, although they do out in a few contemporary choruses. But I love the traditional music without a light show and my ears bursting.
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Amber
@AmbiePam (93953)
• United States
13 Dec 18
@LadyDuck My mom and grandmother p!ay/played the organ. It was beautiful.
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Anna
@LadyDuck (472078)
• Switzerland
13 Dec 18
@AmbiePam Catholic churches only play ancient hymns using organs, nothing contemporary.
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DianneN
@DianneN (247184)
• United States
13 Dec 18
Personally, I would prefer the place that allows for worship. Socializing could come afterwards or at events put on.
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Amber
@AmbiePam (93953)
• United States
13 Dec 18
I think that fits my dad's church more.
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DianneN
@DianneN (247184)
• United States
13 Dec 18
@AmbiePam I know nothing about churches.
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Amber
@AmbiePam (93953)
• United States
13 Dec 18
@DianneN I always wanted to go to a synagogue. Do you celebrate Christmas and Hanukkah, or just one?
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bonnie
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
14 Dec 18
i never liked those big churches. felt too cold and inpersonal . i liked the smaller close to Gods people better. i think that is how he meant for us to support each other in faith and love
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Toni
@toniganzon (72532)
• Philippines
13 Dec 18
I find churches a solemn place to be. I go to a church that makes me feel welcomed and comfortable where I can praise God and get to know him better. I think you should try and go several times to different churches and test which one makes you feel more comfortable being with God or better yet, pray for it.
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Amber
@AmbiePam (93953)
• United States
13 Dec 18
Praying on it is a great idea.
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Judy Story
@jstory07 (139996)
• Roseburg, Oregon
13 Dec 18
Why not switch between the two churches Go to each one every other week..
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Amber
@AmbiePam (93953)
• United States
13 Dec 18
That's definitely something to consider.
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Anne Marie Guyer
@LeaPea2417 (37381)
• Toccoa, Georgia
13 Dec 18
I would go to the smaller Church.
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Juliaacv
@Juliaacv (51407)
• Canada
13 Dec 18
I wouldn't be able to worship someplace that gives me headaches. What about the services held there at different times, are they just as loud, going to one of those might be an option.
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Amber
@AmbiePam (93953)
• United States
13 Dec 18
Apparently, the music is the same at all of the services, but just in case I should ask my friend. I honestly wonder how someone hasn't had a seizure. There are so many health issues made worse by loud noises, and lights.
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Marie
@Tampa_girl7 (50531)
• United States
13 Dec 18
Try them both a few more times before you pick. Actually you can still go to both if you want.
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Amber
@AmbiePam (93953)
• United States
13 Dec 18
That's a good idea. Maybe after a few weeks I'll decide.
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MARILYN
@Marilynda1225 (83103)
• United States
13 Dec 18
Both sounds like they have advantages so maybe I would alternate between them.
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Judy Evans
@JudyEv (342179)
• Rockingham, Australia
13 Dec 18
I would be avoiding the one that is likely to bring on a fit if you have them. Hopefully others will be more helpful.
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Amber
@AmbiePam (93953)
• United States
13 Dec 18
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Hope
@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
14 Dec 18
I think you should go where you feel comfortable and where you are the happiest. I go to a place of worship where there are about 120 in attendance and always talk to a few before and a few after.
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Amber
@AmbiePam (93953)
• United States
15 Dec 18
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Valerie J. Routhieaux
@just4him (317238)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
16 Dec 18
The smaller one. Blending in and not being noticed, is not getting the love and support either from members of the congregation. No hugs. I need my hugs. With a smaller church, the warmth is there, the friendship, even the pastor knows your name. That's where I go. The pastor said last Sunday there are about 134 in the congregation, doesn't include children and we have a lot of kids.
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Amber
@AmbiePam (93953)
• United States
16 Dec 18
I totally get it. People have said you don't go to church to socialize, but that's how you get support, from your brothers and sisters in Christ.
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Amber
@AmbiePam (93953)
• United States
17 Dec 18
@just4him That's how I feel. Some here don't agree with that. You'd fit right in at my dad's church. They are huggers.
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Valerie J. Routhieaux
@just4him (317238)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
17 Dec 18
@AmbiePam Who said you don't go to church to socialize? That is certainly not a church for me. We sing the first song, and then greet everyone in our area. For me, the area is the entire church. I will seek out those I know are friends and give great hugs. I also hug everyone in my area I don't know, so I make new friends. I socialize when people come in. I'm one of the first ones to arrive. I like it that way because the worship people are practicing the songs. Then afterward, it's time to talk some more. You can't meet people anywhere if you don't socialize.
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PLETHOS
@Plethos (13581)
• United States
13 Dec 18
i am my own church. chuckianity. basically, i dont go.
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Nevena Zivkovic
@Nevena83 (65277)
• Serbia
17 Dec 18
I go to church when I feel need, and I always carry God in my heart.
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Ana Rosa
@roseannvs (171)
• Philippines
13 Dec 18
the most important is that you don't forget to go to church every sunday.
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Jaycee
@fivecandles (437)
• United States
11 Jan 19
If it's possible I'd recommend trying out a few other churches. Pray about it. You'll find the one that is right for you. It may take awhile or out may be immediate, but you'll get there. I also recommend you talk to a pastor about what you want in a church and ask for their input on churches to try.
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