Do the holidays make you happy or not?
@Nevena83 (65277)
Serbia
December 20, 2018 3:31pm CST
Good evening friends.
For days I read the discussion on the topic of Christmas and I felt I was sad.
I do not like holidays, because they remind me of how lonely I am. I'm always trying to turn my thoughts on the other side, but this time it does not work for me.
Do the holidays make you happy or not?
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@hillhjill (23714)
• United States
20 Dec 18
Holiday make me sad, well Christmas does as it was runied for me as a kid and it had always stuck with me. I'm sorry that it makes you feel lonely.
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@hillhjill (23714)
• United States
20 Dec 18
@Nevena83 It was the way I was treated by my mom's side of the family, where they always pushed me to the side and I was the black sheep etc..
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@Nevena83 (65277)
• Serbia
21 Dec 18
@hillhjill OH, I'm very sorry. But I know how you feel, because I feel the whole wheat like that. And the family needs to make love.
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@moffittjc (121740)
• Gainesville, Florida
21 Dec 18
Yes, almost all holidays make me happy, especially Christmas. I try to look for the best in every situation, no matter what is going on in my life. I am sorry that the holidays make you sad. If there was a way, I would try and make this Christmas a very happy occasion for you.
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@moffittjc (121740)
• Gainesville, Florida
21 Dec 18
@Nevena83 Oh Nevena, are you sad because you don't have a boyfriend to share the joy of the holidays with?
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@Nevena83 (65277)
• Serbia
21 Dec 18
@moffittjc I miss the feeling of love, attention in those days. So I do not like my birthday or holidays, and then I just want to sleep over these days.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
21 Dec 18
holidays like the Yuletide season make me happy. but holidays on November 1 make me sad because i remember my departed parents
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
23 Dec 18
@Nevena83 COPD is a respiratory condition. it is Chronic Obstructive Pulmonary Disease. usually the smokers get sick of this.
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@Nevena83 (65277)
• Serbia
22 Dec 18
@ridingbet Oh, I'm very sorry. What is COPD?
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@Shivram59 (36603)
• India
22 Dec 18
@Nevena83 Yes,I love holidays.They give me an opportunity to relax.But why do you feel lonely?Don't you have friends?
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@Shivram59 (36603)
• India
22 Dec 18
@Nevena83 I am really sorry to know all this.It's really so sad.If I were you,I would prefer to live with myself.My uncle's family is just like yours.They quarrel over petty matters.....Don't bother.Although we are thousands of miles apart,we are friends. Mylot provides us with a platform where we can share our thoughts.
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@Nevena83 (65277)
• Serbia
22 Dec 18
@Shivram59 I was very close with my father, he was the whole world for me, and then everything broke down when I got divorced. He began to drink more and this love turned into hatred. Naneo has a lot of evil and it will hurt when I'm alive.
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@Nevena83 (65277)
• Serbia
22 Dec 18
My family is very proud and every day is a fight, so the holidays do not pass in peace and love. I have no friends, I have withdrawn from all of them. Holidays remind me of how lonely I am, because I miss love, I miss it with someone to celebrate holidays in love.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
20 Dec 18
I do not celebrate any of the holidays and so to me it is just another day like all the other days. I have enough interests to keep me happy. I can always find something to do whether I'm at home or out. My happiness does not come from outside but from inside. As long as I have things to read, I'm fine!
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
20 Dec 18
@Nevena83 I pray that your heart may heal soon.
I would suggest that you avoid anything that makes you sad just as you would avoid anything to which you were allergic.
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@Nevena83 (65277)
• Serbia
20 Dec 18
@1hopefulman Oh, thank you. I wish I could, but sometimes it's so hard.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
22 Dec 18
I usually enjoy the holidays. The only exception was the year when my ex broke up with me on the 1st of December. That year I hated everything related to Christmas because it reminded me of the time we had spent together.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
22 Dec 18
@Nevena83 I understand what you mean. Sometimes things reminds us of things that happened in the past. When my ex-boyfriend left me I tried to avoid any Christmas decorations or other things related to Christmas. Fortunately I met my husband the next year, and I was able to put some of the bad memories behind me.
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@Nevena83 (65277)
• Serbia
22 Dec 18
@Porcospino I'm so glad of you. I always suffered for love when the holidays were coming, then I met the man I loved and celebrated holidays as I always wanted. Then he withdrew and now this wound is huge, and that's why I do not like holidays, because they always remind me of what I no longer have.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Dec 18
Holidays do make me happy since I focus on happy things and not so much other things. =) This holiday is about Jesus being born and the amazing gift He is!
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Dec 18
@Nevena83 I'm sorry that you're lonely. :(
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@Nevena83 (65277)
• Serbia
21 Dec 18
@DianneN You're right. We Serbs celebrate New Year's Day on January 13th, but for years now due to the influence of TV, the world, our people are celebrating New Year on December 31st and January 13th very little. People easily accept other customs, habits, and forget our own.
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
21 Dec 18
I know, it can be a difficult time. ..... I hope you find a way to make it happy
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
21 Dec 18
@Nevena83 Maybe a new tradition would help?
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@Nevena83 (65277)
• Serbia
21 Dec 18
@FayeHazel I have my own traditions and I try to honor her, but what's the problem is that I feel very lonely during the holidays.
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@buenavida (9984)
• Sweden
21 Dec 18
Since I studied the Bible with Jehovahs witnesses, I understood that the holidays are not Christian - the celebration of december 25th comes from pagan holidays - Saturnalia and midwinter festivals here in northern countries. Most so called holidays are a way for business people to earn money.
Many of my friends don't celebrate Christmas or Easter or other common holidays either. As the Bible says, the truth will make you free We are free to give gifts when we want and can afford it..
Want to learn to know people who think this way and want to know what the Bible really teaches? Why not fill this form or go to the jw.org site? You can choose what language you want to read..
Learn more about the Bible. Request a free Bible study in your language, at a time and place convenient for you.
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@buenavida (9984)
• Sweden
21 Dec 18
@Nevena83 It is not easy to understand the Bible by reading by oneself - that is why this study course is offered. I started to study when I was 14, now I am 73 and am still learning, but am so grateful that the Witnesses started studying with me and my mother that time.. I also learned that the Bible does not tell us when Jesus was born. The first Christians or Jesus did not celebrate birthdays. The only birthdays we can read about in the Bible, was celebrated by pagans - Farao in Egypt and king Herod.
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@Nevena83 (65277)
• Serbia
21 Dec 18
@buenavida Very interesting.Thank you for the information.
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@isweartokira (3460)
• United States
21 Dec 18
lonely or not, I've always loved the holidays. if anything they make me feel a little less lonely because i am surrounded by family. we may not always get along but i know we're there for each other. and to me there is a sense of community around the holidays (for any holiday really), seeing people decorate their houses and gather with neighbors and friends.
whether you are alone or not this holiday, I hope you have a good, safe time :)
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@isweartokira (3460)
• United States
22 Dec 18
@Nevena83 I'm sorry your family makes you feel that way :( I'll celebrate the holidays with you
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@nawala123 (20871)
• Indonesia
21 Dec 18
it is hard to say. i try to enjoy this holiday, but i have a lot of job to do
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@Otter2019 (109)
• Vietnam
21 Dec 18
Why don't you get yourself busy with helping others in preparing Xmas day ( your family/friends/ or charity activities)
Holidays make me very happy because in this occasion I will meet and spend my time with my loved ones at hometown !
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@Nevena83 (65277)
• Serbia
21 Dec 18
I can not take part in it because I do not feel good. I can not bear that everyone around me is happy, and I am not. It's easy for me and I'm not thinking about it.
@Otter2019 (109)
• Vietnam
21 Dec 18
@Nevena83
Work together wifh people , be a part of them and love everyone ! people will love you ! Don't keep you stay alone
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