living in the past

Let go

@sofssu (23662)

January 13, 2019 6:41am CST

I was talking to someone and I realized that some people never let go of the past. It's good to remember the past, but it is unhealthy to dwell in it. One thing I learned early on in life is that 'the past cannot be changed.' If I wanted to be happy, letting go of the past is a must. I need to live in the now and enjoy what I have rather than mourn over what didn't work out for me. I have applied this principle to my life and it has helped me remain positive and happy always. No regrets, no grudges only happiness.' What are your thoughts on this?

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@marlina (154131)

• Canada

13 Jan 19

You are so right in saying that nothing can be changed from our past, if it is negative, the past thing is not to dwell on it and work on the present.

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@sofssu (23662)

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16 Jan 19

@marlina The decisions that help us grow are not the easy ones.

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@sofssu (23662)

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14 Jan 19

@marlina sometimes it is like crying over spilled milk, let the cat clean up and move on.

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@marlina (154131)

• Canada

15 Jan 19

@sofssu Moving on is not an easy thing to do, but CAN be done.

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@allknowing (135327)

• India

13 Jan 19

I do forget incidents but not attitudes. To be able to get along one has to change one's attitude that is coming in the way of a good relationship.

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@allknowing (135327)

• India

14 Jan 19

@sofssu If the past continues in the present as I said particularly with regard to one's ATTITUDE how do you expect to forget the past?

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@sofssu (23662)

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14 Jan 19

@allknowing The lessons learned are with us in the present but if we dwell in the past we are stuck there.

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@sofssu (23662)

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14 Jan 19

@allknowing It is not about forgetting the past, it is not about living in the past.. Personally speaking I work continuously on my attitude and keep changing and correcting it. I mean that the past shouldn't be allowed to define the future.

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@1hopefulman (45120)

• Canada

13 Jan 19

We can learn a lot from the past but we should not live there.

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@sofssu (23662)

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14 Jan 19

@1hopefulman Agreed we have had the experience we have learned apply it to the moment you live in. A good way to live.

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@DianneN (247186)

• United States

13 Jan 19

I agree that we can’t change the past and must move on.

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@sofssu (23662)

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14 Jan 19

@DianneN Else we become stagnant.

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

13 Jan 19

Whether we like it or not, our past serves us our lessons that are best to remember. But that good past is acceptable.

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@sofssu (23662)

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14 Jan 19

@JustBhem the lessons are what we take from the past and apply it to the present.

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@JustBhem (70555)

• Davao, Philippines

14 Jan 19

@sofssu Indeed.

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@Icydoll (36717)

• India

13 Jan 19

I agree with you.Letting the past is good to make us stay positive .

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@sofssu (23662)

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13 Jan 19

@Icydoll I am glad you see it that way. Sometimes it may be the only way to remain positive.

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@BelleStarr (61102)

• United States

13 Jan 19

I think it is the best philosophy for living a happy life in the present.

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@sofssu (23662)

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14 Jan 19

@BelleStarr It has worked for me. I agree.

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@LadyDuck (470776)

• Switzerland

13 Jan 19

I try to move on, the past is gone, the future not sure, let's enjoy the present.

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@sofssu (23662)

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14 Jan 19

@LadyDuck true the present is all we have.

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@andriaperry (116936)

• Anniston, Alabama

13 Jan 19

EXACTLY! that is how we have to live.

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@sofssu (23662)

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14 Jan 19

@andriaperry we are happier and healthier for that.

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@amitkokiladitya (171928)

• Agra, India

13 Jan 19

Yes..this is the best motto to live life

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@sofssu (23662)

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13 Jan 19

@amitkokiladitya I thin k so too. Thanks.

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@amitkokiladitya (171928)

• Agra, India

13 Jan 19

@sofssu I will always keep it in my mind .

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@dya80dya (36481)

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13 Jan 19

I can't let go of the past. I have beautiful memories and I want them to come back.

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@sofssu (23662)

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14 Jan 19

@dya80dya Beautiful memories are great but the past is behind you.

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@Courage7 (19633)

• United States

13 Jan 19

Well some things in the past have affected the present so deeply and permanently it is hard to ignore as in my life.

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@sofssu (23662)

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14 Jan 19

@Courage7 Yes the past may haev long lasting effects but to let it affect the present would mean to kill the joy that comes today.

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@leny34 (8506)

• Sidoarjo, Indonesia

13 Jan 19

right, I agree with you, we must not be drowned in our past, moreover our past is very sad, because it will make ourselves worse

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@sofssu (23662)

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14 Jan 19

@/leny34 even if it was good use the memories as a motivator and move on. I agree .

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@jvicentevalera (13671)

• Santiago, Chile

13 Jan 19

Same here, I left the past where it belongs. You need to get it over with, otherwise it's like carying a weight all your life.

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@sofssu (23662)

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14 Jan 19

@jvicentevalera Agreed, the weight of the past is better left behind.

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@jvicentevalera (13671)

• Santiago, Chile

15 Jan 19

@sofssu I agree with you. :)

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@shubhu3 (36463)

• New Delhi, India

14 Jan 19

Past should be taken as a means to learn and grow. We shall never dwell and be living into it.

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@sofssu (23662)

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14 Jan 19

@shubhu3 You're right. Haven't seen you around in sometime now, how have you been?

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@sofssu (23662)

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17 Jan 19

@shubhu3 Good on you take car. Keep us posted once in a while on how you are doing.

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@shubhu3 (36463)

• New Delhi, India

14 Jan 19

@sofssu I'm good. Internship has started so am not able to get time to come here regularly. How are you?

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@Shiva49 (26641)

• Singapore

14 Jan 19

The Buddha said "learn to let go" as the first step towards enlightenment. I never like to get bogged down with the past. I forgive but remember the lessons learned - siva

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@sofssu (23662)

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16 Jan 19

@Shiva49 Shiva that is a perfect ten. I love that answer. We never let go of the lessons from the past just the bitterness.

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@sofssu (23662)

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16 Jan 19

@Shiva49 Absolutely.. We have a right to be happy.. we don't seem to realize the gift of new beginnings.

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@Shiva49 (26641)

• Singapore

16 Jan 19

@sofssu Yes, being bitter is just punishing ourselves repeatedly. Why should we, when we are given a new page, a fresh start, every day? siva

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@Hannihar (130218)

• Israel

14 Jan 19

@sofssu I say it depends on the situation. Sometimes people need to deal with the past in order to go on and heal from it to get to the present.

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@sofssu (23662)

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16 Jan 19

@Hannihar I agree with you, do whatever you have but move on is what I am saying. Its tough but can be done.

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@sofssu (23662)

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16 Jan 19

@Hannihar I know, I have read a lot about the day of atonement and also how your country has been attacked on those days and how God in his graciousness has saved Israel. One reason why i want to be there.

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@Hannihar (130218)

• Israel

16 Jan 19

@sofssu We have something on one of your holidays we have it. It is called The Day of Atonement. This is where we fast completely with no fun or drink for about 26 hours and people ask for foregiveness if they harmed someone. There are people that cannot move on until they take care of the past.

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@florelway (23282)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

14 Jan 19

Very hard to let go of the past especially if it caused us much pain. They say forgive and forget ? Yes in due time because letting go and forgiving will have to go on a process.

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@sofssu (23662)

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16 Jan 19

@florelway I agree that it is not easy but it will make life much more easier for you.

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@florelway (23282)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

16 Jan 19

@sofssu right,

• Nanjing, China

13 Jan 19

you are right

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@sofssu (23662)

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14 Jan 19

@yisuylm Thank you

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@WiseGhots (14606)

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13 Jan 19

Let it, go... Let it, go...

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@sofssu (23662)

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14 Jan 19

@WiseGhots yup let go.

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@sofssu (23662)

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14 Jan 19

@WiseGhots hmm.. I don't know that song probably haven;t heard it.

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@WiseGhots (14606)

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14 Jan 19

@sofssu I was singing the music from the movie.

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