Falling In Love?? Love at First Sight?

January 16, 2019 4:36pm CST
Personally, I'm not a big fan of relationships and even though I'm in college now, I've never had a partner nor am I currently interested in getting one.. I've never had trouble listening to my friends rant about their relationships problems or love life because I can sonehow relate to it in other ways like friendships, family etc. But one thing I realise that I 100% don't get is how people fall in love at first sight. The thought of falling for a complete stranger without getting to know them first is scary to me.. but I'm more than curious of what others think.. Do you get butterflies in your stomach?? Is there just a gut feeling telling you that they are "the one"? Does time slow down when you look at them? Lemme know :)
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The Horse
@TheHorse (220080)
• Walnut Creek, California
16 Jan 19
Oh heck no. But there are people who have a certain look/attitude that attracts me to them. For me love grows from having good conversations and not getting bored.
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Sheali
@Sheali (7461)
• India
17 Jan 19
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The Horse
@TheHorse (220080)
• Walnut Creek, California
17 Jan 19
@Sheali Have you ever had a conversation with someone (perhaps a handsome male) and found them deathly boring? That has happened to me (with females) and it leads to what George Castanza calls "shrinkage."
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Sheali
@Sheali (7461)
• India
17 Jan 19
@TheHorse No.. I never had conversation for a long time with a stranger..
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Hope
@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
17 Jan 19
I think there is a strong attraction and then they fall in love and they say that they fell in love at first sight.
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Hope
@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
17 Jan 19
@TheHorse "Love" is such a funny word. I love my wife. I love my dog. I loved the movie. I love a sunny day.
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The Horse
@TheHorse (220080)
• Walnut Creek, California
17 Jan 19
I think you may be right. Memory is "constructive." It is not always an accurate representation of what happened.
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Gwyndalin Neerie
@milkandcookies (18)
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17 Jan 19
@1hopefulman I really like the way you think, keep at it :)
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Shasta
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
17 Jan 19
They've fallen "in love " with the persons appearance, not with the person. Such a relationship won't last and I don't imagine there can ever be any trust because someone prettier or more handsome will come along and easily steal them away. A relationship like that can't be good for ones confidence either
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Shasta
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
18 Jan 19
@fivecandles You may have fallen in love after dating and truly getting to know each other. But falling for someone upon a single glance with knowing anything about them? nah
Jaycee
@fivecandles (440)
• United States
21 Jan 19
Me, no. My husband...yes. The day we met he went home and told his mom he met the girl he was going to marry. We didn't spend time together that day getting to know each other, it was a very brief encounter. It wasn't until years later that we dated and years after that when we got married. He loved me at first sight.
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Jaycee
@fivecandles (440)
• United States
17 Jan 19
My life has shown otherwise. :)
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Nevena Zivkovic
@Nevena83 (65277)
• Serbia
17 Jan 19
I do not believe in love at first sight, I think it takes time to feel something towards someone.
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The Horse
@TheHorse (220080)
• Walnut Creek, California
17 Jan 19
I agree.
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Nevena Zivkovic
@Nevena83 (65277)
• Serbia
17 Jan 19
@TheHorse Yes. It takes time to meet someone and to like something with someone.
Gwyndalin Neerie
@milkandcookies (18)
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17 Jan 19
I agree as well!! I think that's how genuine love should be formed
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Sheali
@Sheali (7461)
• India
17 Jan 19
Hi.. Even I don't think that love and first site is true love.. true love is when you actually like the person for who he/she is
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Jaycee
@fivecandles (440)
• United States
17 Jan 19
The day my husband and I met he went home and said to his mother "I met the girl I'm going to marry." I can't tell you anything about him from that day...but fast forward a year and there is one particular thing he did that will forever stand out that was the most meaningful thing anyone who didn't really know me (at that time we had only hung out a couple times with groups of friends) had ever done. Within a month from then he was my best friend and 14 years from THEN we got married. There were no butterflies for me until years into us being best friends. I still get butterflies telling this story. Time still stops sometimes...but othertimes it flies by and I can't believe we've already spent 21 years together as friends, dating, engaged and married.
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Sunil.P
@sunilparthan (6302)
• India
17 Jan 19
I Don't believe in true love now a days because there are not such peoples here. all are just using other's for their benefits in the name of love and misusing the purity of Love. i am sad to say this.
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ARM
@responsiveme (22926)
• India
18 Jan 19
I wouldn't know..But that is a nice concept
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enyi ada
@Berrygal (5834)
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17 Jan 19
I just love everything about love and naturally always know who loves me. Actions and deeds.
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Christina Ladanger
@Ladanger (14578)
• United States
24 Jan 19
Sometimes when i have a crush and i have been crushing on them for a while and i finally get a chance to talk to them i can tend to get butterflies but i don't actually fall in love right there and then
DEBJANI BASAK
@debjani1 (7202)
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17 Jan 19
I am a married lady. But never fall in love with anybody before getting married. Some are there who can attract people with their attitude at first sight. But I never got such type in my life.
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dhia eddine
@didinedhia (8470)
• Algeria
16 Jan 19
yes i got butterflies in my stomach
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Gwyndalin Neerie
@milkandcookies (18)
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17 Jan 19
That sounds like something out of a YA romance novel, never knew it was possible
Jeanne KaSaHa
@Jeanne_KaSaHa (345)
• Indonesia
24 Jan 19
I don't believe love at first sight. Because I think people who said that is when they just see the other people from their outer appearance. And I don't really like that. What's the point of having outer beauty but not inside beauty?