Don't Gang Up On Anybody During Group Therapy

Bridgton, Maine
January 17, 2019 3:02pm CST
Many folks with psychiatric issues find seeing a therapist one on one to be helpful in overcoming their struggles. But lots of those with mental illness also find group therapy to be useful as well. In group therapy, their are many other people dealing with similar issues who choose to share their issues with the group counselors as well as with the other clients in the group. However, if you elect to take part in group therapy, it's important not to gang up on any of the other individuals in the group. Years ago, I was in group therapy. I was telling the group about some of my issues. The two therapists in charge of the group (actually a therapist and a case manager) began giving me advice and pointed out some irrational beliefs that I had. And while they were doing so, one of the clients in the group started to do the same. I felt I was being ganged up on. I felt it was three against one. I wanted to tell him to just let the therapists do the therapy. But he was just trying to help. And I didn't want to hurt his feelings. So if you're in group therapy, for the most part, it's best to let the trained counselors perform the therapy on the other clients in the group. If you try to play therapist as well, the person you're trying to help may feel like they're being ganged up on, even if you have good intentions.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
22 Jan 19
That is excellent advice. I agree that the therapists should be the only ones giving therapy. Glad you realize this.
@Courage7 (19633)
• United States
19 Jan 19
That is right no one should gang up like that.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
17 Jan 19
I think that therapists have different opinions about that. I have experienced one group where our therapist didn't allow that kind of thing. If other clients started sharing their own thoughts while he talked to one of the clients he would stop them because he wanted to talk to the client without interruptions. The man you described probably meant well and wanted to help, but sometimes the best help is to let therapist do their work.
@jstory07 (139508)
• Roseburg, Oregon
17 Jan 19
That is good advice let the therapist do the talking to you.
@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
17 Jan 19
That sounds like good advice. I've never been in group therapy.
• United States
17 Jan 19
Group therapy can be tricky, especially when people are toeing the line between giving their experience and giving their advice. Sorry to hear you had a bad experience. I hope that you did get some positive outcome from the therapy; and if not that you do in the future!
@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
17 Jan 19
Yikes that sounds like a potential dangerous situation.
• Santiago, Chile
17 Jan 19
I totally agree with you, in fact I think you were very polite for not asking that person to shut up while you were being advised. I would have told the person to stay quiet because there was already two therapists doing their job. I am so bothered when people mind other people's business and thinking that they're doing good, man you're not being helful!