I despise her.
By Bhem
@JustBhem (70555)
Davao, Philippines
January 25, 2019 10:05pm CST
As I know, a Mother should always look and take care of her children no matter what are the circumstances are. A Mother will always have time for her children especially when the kids are unhealthy.
I am saying this because I despise the Mother of my nephews, who choose to work despite the conditions of her kids. Two of her kids are having a fever, it's been 3 days now and she still chose to work. I heard her that she does not have a rest day, which is impossible to agree because I know the working code. Every company should provide their workers at least one day off work. The Father which is my Brother is working to have something to put on their table.
She chooses to work instead of taking care of her children.
And she goes home pass 10 in the evening.
What do you think?
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9 responses
@Sheali (7461)
• India
26 Jan 19
Hi, I don't know what the situation is at your cousin's place and sorry to know that they are unwell. But sometimes moms have to take that tough decision may be because they have to let go of their job if they take leaves. Maybe for her, job is important as she needs the money for the well being if her children. Maybe she is looking at the bigger picture which you are not..
Kindly note: I am not taking her side. I don't know the circumstances. But sometimes what we see is not what the fact is. I hope you don't mind my response.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
26 Jan 19
I don't mind and it's just not that I don't know the real score, and it's not my cousin I'm talking about here if you read my discussion.
I am talking about my Brother's wife and my nephews. They live right beside us so I know pretty well how their life is. I will give you some short details about it.
My Second Brother's Family live beside our house, so pretty well we know their situation.
My Brother is a drunkard, he drinks and gets to fight with his wife.
His wife needed to work to sustain their needs, which we don't mind because of my Brother's stupid behavior as well. But the thing is, as a Mother she should at least spent time with her sick kids.
That's my point because she tends to get away with her responsibilities instead.
@Sheali (7461)
• India
26 Jan 19
@JustBhem Sorry, I always confuse between nephew and cousins..
Actually my cousins are at least 15 years elder to me and my nephews are my age.. So when I go out with them, I generally introduce them as my cousins as I feel weird to say that I am their aunt as 2 are actually elder to me.. 
I don't know about her job but here, as a teacher also I have seen the principal to be inconsiderate.. A teacher had to come to school (after a 4 days leave) even though her daughter was in the hospital as according to the principal, the event needed her presence.. Her view is either you be here or leave the job..
So I don't know how her job life is..
I don't know about her job but here, as a teacher also I have seen the principal to be inconsiderate.. A teacher had to come to school (after a 4 days leave) even though her daughter was in the hospital as according to the principal, the event needed her presence.. Her view is either you be here or leave the job..
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@LadyDuck (470746)
• Switzerland
26 Jan 19
If your brother does not make enough, I praise his wife because she works to help to offer a better quality life to her kids. This is my opinion, because my cousin also had to work to help her family and being a working mother was not at all easy.
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@Courtlynn (67086)
• United States
26 Jan 19
I don't know the whole situation, and it's up to them how they do things anyways. But I do know that your brother could take the time off to take care of the kids, the same way you think she should. As its not just a mothers job to care for the kids - sick or not.
Either way though, as long as the kids are being taken care of and get better, thats all that matters.
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@Courtlynn (67086)
• United States
26 Jan 19
@JustBhem I'm sure she does have days off, just not right now when they're sick, and not all jobs like you to use your sick days. though you technically cant be stopped.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
27 Jan 19
@Courtlynn
Here in our country, they already implemented that each company, they will provide at least a 1 day off. Their company should give her that as amended by the Government.
But we see, she does not want to have a day off because she does not want to take care of her kids. It's been like this ever since, and she is around before going to work, she beats her kids and calls them names.
Do you think its right for her to beat her kids because of being kids?
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
26 Jan 19
I wish she could take a leave and look after her sick children. having a fever for three days is quite alarming because dengue fever is common these days.
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
26 Jan 19
So who's taking care of the children while both parents are out working?
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
27 Jan 19
@JustBhem That's sad. I hope your two brothers will be able to find regular jobs.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
27 Jan 19
@sunrisefan
They cannot for they are not graduate with High School, it was all my Mother's fault they did not graduate, she push them to work as a laborer at an early age.
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
26 Jan 19
Eventually, us. We are the one who take care of their kids, our own food and money to provide for them.
The parents are very dependent on us that we cannot ignore their kids.
Imagine this, I and my Mother are both sick, my two Brothers doesn't have a fix job because they are a laborer in the market, our youngest Brother is the only one who takes care of us.
And in addition, we have their kids that we include in our budget. 
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
27 Jan 19
I can't really say if she is a bad mother.
For those working on stalls like that, they are not paid monthly but daily. Perhapa.she wants to earn more to make both ends meet.specially that her children are having fever.
But i think as a mother, when our children are sick we see to it that we are by their side until they get well. She can absent herself for a day or until they get well and endure.not having money since her husband also have some earnings for their sustenance.
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@PrincessREL (339)
•
26 Jan 19
I think its admirable that you care so much about those children. Have you tried talking to her?
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
26 Jan 19
I tried but she didn't listen to me or I should say she didn't want to listen.
Yes, I care too much for the kids because they are too young to depend on themselves when in fact a Mother should be the one to tend to them in that young age.
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