Too much pride

@Ladanger (14578)
United States
January 29, 2019 2:15am CST
So i have a roomate right that was my friend for about 4 years before we decided to rent an apartment together. So my friend is older than me and feels like she can tell me what to do and i don't like that. She gets mad when i make her pause because she is getting annoying. When she gets mad sometimes she won't talk to me for a few days but this time it has already been a month since new years and honestly i am fed up. I can't live like this walking past eachother like if she is better than me. After taxes i am getting me a nice small studio apartment and i am getting rid of this friendship. It's true that you can loose people having to much pride. Mind you all of this was just because my puppy peed and i had just finish cleaning it up and she said "i was just about to tell you". I said well you don't need to tell me. I know what i need to do. I can't be friends with a person like this. Can you deal with a person like this?
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@ARN4567 (1061)
• Baguio, Philippines
29 Jan 19
I think I can't be truly happy having someone like that around...cause she is miss perfect..and I'm not so what...excuse me I have better things to do. I'll tell her......
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@ARN4567 (1061)
• Baguio, Philippines
29 Jan 19
@Ladanger Birds of a feather flock together......
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@Ladanger (14578)
• United States
29 Jan 19
My thoughts exactly lol. I need to make friends that are more like my personality.
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@Ladanger (14578)
• United States
29 Jan 19
@ARN4567 hahaha true
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@fluffy69 (4955)
29 Jan 19
With all honesty cristina, living with someone be it your parent or friend, is really hard. Yo better live alone because you are free to do whatever you want to. You can only live with your husband at least when you fight, you will talk again after a few days not months.
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@Ladanger (14578)
• United States
29 Jan 19
Yes very true. I think it's best to live alone.
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@fluffy69 (4955)
29 Jan 19
@Ladanger because you will know the true color of a person once he or she lives with you
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@Ladanger (14578)
• United States
29 Jan 19
@fluffy69 that is what they say
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@maclanis (2406)
• Belgium
29 Jan 19
It can be quite hard for friends to live together, I think. I hope you find a new place soon.
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@maclanis (2406)
• Belgium
29 Jan 19
@Ladanger I understand. Sometimes you need to end friendships with people who just aren't good for you.
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@Ladanger (14578)
• United States
29 Jan 19
@maclanis yes because i want to feel happy and not always miserable trying to kiss the other persons you know what.
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@Ladanger (14578)
• United States
29 Jan 19
Thank you! I am not interested in having friends like that anymore
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
29 Jan 19
has she always been like that, or did that trait and other stuff show up when you started sharing an apartment?
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@Ladanger (14578)
• United States
29 Jan 19
Living with her is different than only seeing her once in a while when we were just friends and not roomates. She all of a sudden treats me like a child.
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@Hannihar (130213)
• Israel
31 Jan 19
@Ladanger It does not matter how long you know someone when you live with them day and night you really get to see what they are like. It is very sad she has to act that way. You are right in getting a place of your own and giving up what friendship it was. You do not need friends like that. I had someone I hung out with and we lost touch and then got back in touch on facebook and then it didn't work out and when she said she missed me and I thought I did I found out that she is a very manipulative person and only wants someone to support her when she is not well or sad but does not support you. I saw how she treated her husband and it was not very pretty. I do not hang out with her at all and do not ever want anything to do with her. I unfriended her and was friends with her husband on facebook too and unfriended him because I did not want her seeing anything I wrote on my page or to anyone. We have to find those that care about us and have our best interest at heart and not a know it all or manipulative person that only cares about themselves,.
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@Hannihar (130213)
• Israel
31 Jan 19
@Ladanger You are welcome and I really truly hope you find the right apartment for you so you do not have deal with her ever again. We do not need people that want to bring us down in life. You are not giving up at all. You are doing what is best for you.
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@Ladanger (14578)
• United States
31 Jan 19
@Hannihar thank you. Even if she thinks that i am wrong i don't care anymore. I want to be happy in my own home.
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@Ladanger (14578)
• United States
31 Jan 19
Thank you for responding to my discussion. It may sounds like i am just giving up on someone but we don't need people like that in our lives. People that have too much pride or want to manipulate us. I will the same as you did. After i move .block her number and move on with my life.
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• Santiago, Chile
29 Jan 19
I would not be able to deal with somebody like that. What if the two of you were not ready to live with a roommate? I love my friends, but living with them in the same apartment I think it'd be way too much cause they have their mores, and I have mine.
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@Ladanger (14578)
• United States
29 Jan 19
Yeah your right maybe it's best to not even live together. The idea sounds cool but the reality is that it is not so cool.
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@Ladanger (14578)
• United States
30 Jan 19
@jvicentevalera that was good thinking of you
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• Santiago, Chile
30 Jan 19
@Ladanger Yeah, once a friend of mine poped up the possibility, and I was hesitant because I know me, and know them so it might be a little tricky to get used to each other.
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@MGjhaud (23240)
• Philippines
29 Jan 19
I can't do roommates or housemates. I just can't. Best way for you is to get your own place. Good luck.
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@Ladanger (14578)
• United States
29 Jan 19
Thank you. I agree
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
29 Jan 19
It is difficult to live with some one who always command. We need our own space.
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@Ladanger (14578)
• United States
29 Jan 19
That is a fact. I don't even want to be her friend anymore.
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@responsiveme (22926)
• India
29 Jan 19
Hope you get this sorted out to your satisfaction
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@Ladanger (14578)
• United States
29 Jan 19
Thank you
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@Nevena83 (65277)
• Serbia
29 Jan 19
My parents and my brother are such, and that's terrible.
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@Ladanger (14578)
• United States
29 Jan 19
Wow sorry to hear that.
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@Nevena83 (65277)
• Serbia
29 Jan 19
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@didinedhia (8470)
• Algeria
14 Mar 19
i know your feeling and i hate that
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@Ladanger (14578)
• United States
14 Mar 19
Thank God it is all better now
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• Algeria
14 Mar 19
@Ladanger thank god
@Sheali (7461)
• India
29 Jan 19
Too much pride is not good and you can definitely get a better friend.
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@Ladanger (14578)
• United States
29 Jan 19
I wanted to know if i am wrong for wanting to end the friendship but honesty i think it's for the best.
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@Ladanger (14578)
• United States
29 Jan 19
@Sheali thank you for your input
@Sheali (7461)
• India
29 Jan 19
@Ladanger You are right.. I didn't say that right away but indirectly, that is what I meant by saying, you can definitely get a better friend.
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29 Jan 19
@ladanger if your friendship with her keep stressing you.let it go. Since miss perfect if am staying with her she will get tired of talking
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@Ladanger (14578)
• United States
30 Jan 19
Yes. I am ready to let her go for good.
31 Jan 19
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